Looking for advice

[Princ3ss-Baby-Bear]

so I’ve been feeling a bit meh and in a weird ass mood for the past like month and I think I’ve finally figured out why but I need some advice after I’ve vented
 

So I’ve been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for six years and I’ve never been babied by him, I asked him if he’d ever set me rules so that I can be rewarded and punished and all he said was no that’s not him, he’s said he’s a Daddy and a Dom but part of me thinks he’s just been telling me what he thinks I need to hear, so what I want to know is do I just stick it out with him knowing I’ll never have everything I need to function as a little and a submissive or do I just tell him it’s over because I need more than he can give me, he’s nice and caring but that’s about it….

 

anyway thanks for any advice on this

[cutelilac]

I’m sorry you’re in this position. I know it must be really hard to let go of 6 years, but from what you’ve said, it sounds like you’re definitely not happy and almost accepting less than trying to find someone that will fulfill your needs. Maybe you could go a step back and talk clearly with your boyfriend ? Like, completely explain that this is something you need to feel complete and happy? And if he still doesn’t want to do it, then I’d let him go and go after the one that will complete you. The world is pretty big, there’s definitely someone out there for you. 
 

and also, your boyfriend not being able to fulfill your needs sometimes just means you’re not for each other. Or maybe, you’re not meant for each other anymore. It’s a big difference. We all change with time and 6 years is a long way to grow together or apart. Not anyone’s fault. 
 

Sometimes I talk too much and don’t get to the point, sorry! I hope something I said helps you 

Edited July 9, 2024 by cutelilac

[Gentleman_Daddy]

3 hours ago, Princ3ss-Baby-Bear said:

so I’ve been feeling a bit meh and in a weird ass mood for the past like month and I think I’ve finally figured out why but I need some advice after I’ve vented
 

So I’ve been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for six years and I’ve never been babied by him, I asked him if he’d ever set me rules so that I can be rewarded and punished and all he said was no that’s not him, he’s said he’s a Daddy and a Dom but part of me thinks he’s just been telling me what he thinks I need to hear, so what I want to know is do I just stick it out with him knowing I’ll never have everything I need to function as a little and a submissive or do I just tell him it’s over because I need more than he can give me, he’s nice and caring but that’s about it….

 

anyway thanks for any advice on this

What is he doing for you? I mean that isn't just a regular vanilla relationship like any other guy on the street?

[beanbean]

I think it depends on if you really want the rules and and sub space if u

You need this then maybe moving on would be best for you

[Capri]

6 hours ago, Princ3ss-Baby-Bear said:

so I’ve been feeling a bit meh and in a weird ass mood for the past like month and I think I’ve finally figured out why but I need some advice after I’ve vented
 

So I’ve been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for six years and I’ve never been babied by him, I asked him if he’d ever set me rules so that I can be rewarded and punished and all he said was no that’s not him, he’s said he’s a Daddy and a Dom but part of me thinks he’s just been telling me what he thinks I need to hear, so what I want to know is do I just stick it out with him knowing I’ll never have everything I need to function as a little and a submissive or do I just tell him it’s over because I need more than he can give me, he’s nice and caring but that’s about it….

 

anyway thanks for any advice on this

How is he a Daddy Dom if he does not act like one? Actions speak louder than words.

[Hannah04]

You need to do what makes you happy and if he can't give you what you need or want then you may just have to break and I know that will be hard but you deserve to be happy and have someone who is to the same stuff as you.

[Princ3ss-Baby-Bear]

19 hours ago, Gentleman_Daddy said:

What is he doing for you? I mean that isn't just a regular vanilla relationship like any other guy on the street?

Nothing I guess? I mean it started off great six nearly seven years ago, but it seems like things started going downhill about four years ago, I really have no idea what’s kept me holding on weather it’s because I thought oh it’s a long distance relationship and it’s bound to have downsides or if I’m just bloody stupid, I mean we’ve only been in each other’s company like six times over the nearly seven years and all because he seems to prefer working (like literally he’ll volunteer to go into work on days off)

[Princ3ss-Baby-Bear]

22 hours ago, cutelilac said:

I’m sorry you’re in this position. I know it must be really hard to let go of 6 years, but from what you’ve said, it sounds like you’re definitely not happy and almost accepting less than trying to find someone that will fulfill your needs. Maybe you could go a step back and talk clearly with your boyfriend ? Like, completely explain that this is something you need to feel complete and happy? And if he still doesn’t want to do it, then I’d let him go and go after the one that will complete you. The world is pretty big, there’s definitely someone out there for you. 
 

and also, your boyfriend not being able to fulfill your needs sometimes just means you’re not for each other. Or maybe, you’re not meant for each other anymore. It’s a big difference. We all change with time and 6 years is a long way to grow together or apart. Not anyone’s fault. 
 

Sometimes I talk too much and don’t get to the point, sorry! I hope something I said helps you 

Thank you for the advice ^-^ 

[Gentleman_Daddy]

49 minutes ago, Princ3ss-Baby-Bear said:

Nothing I guess? I mean it started off great six nearly seven years ago, but it seems like things started going downhill about four years ago, I really have no idea what’s kept me holding on weather it’s because I thought oh it’s a long distance relationship and it’s bound to have downsides or if I’m just bloody stupid, I mean we’ve only been in each other’s company like six times over the nearly seven years and all because he seems to prefer working (like literally he’ll volunteer to go into work on days off)

I mean, it really sounds you already answered your own question doesn't it?

[AllietheLittleWitch]

I'm gonna hold your hand while I say this darling...

He's not what you're looking for and you need to get out of that situation. You've been hoping for years for him to change and he didn't. And as you said, things been going downhill for 4 years. That's a very long time to hold on to a long distance relationship that gives you near to nothing. 

Do you really believe him when he says he's always working and that's the reason why you've seen each other only a couple of Times in the last 7 years?

You deserve more. You deserve someone who doesn't deceive you. Someone who puts in the effort.  Someone who wants to be your daddy. 

I'm 100% Sure you're gonna find your daddy, but first you have to let that man go.

Best of luck to you !