My introduction into being a DD/caregiver

[DD1987]

I'm in a new relationship which is similar to, but not fully a DDlg. I wanted to share my experiences and thoughts, as I'm really enjoying the dynamic.

When I first met the lady involved (who I shall refer to a J), it was apparent to me that she had lacked the security that every woman (and man) needs. Interestingly, it was consciously apparent at the time, but my actions quite quickly became that of a care-giver. 

Initially these started out as:

• telling her I wanted to look after her emotionally, physically, and financially
• being a gentleman (as I always am); getting her drinks, opening doors, etc
• asking her about her feelings
• being understanding of her views etc

Our sex life began with a lot of passion. However after taking her on a weekend away and for a very nice evening meal, she called me Daddy during sex when we returned to the hotel. Over the next couple of weeks I would call her a good girl during sex, and order (I suppose) to tell me she was a good girl. 

This slowly started reinforcing the dom/sub dynamic in our sex lives, and we now play every week in a BDSM style. Our typical play sessions have now evolved into:

• restraining her in some way (cuffs, rope, tape)
• blindfolding with a mask
• teasing her with different textures (feather, leather)
• pain training with different toys (paddle, whip)
• leaving her for 5-10 mins at a time retrained
• inserting vibrator toys into both the kitty and the asshole
• having sex with her, normally multiple times in different holes

These sessions normally last around 2 hours, and I am continually finding new ways to tease her. The important thing also I feel, is that she never sees any of the toys I use.

Now the dynamic outside of sex is of a caregiver and carereceiver, but not as a "little". She has however told me she likes the posessiveness and to feel "looked after".

I have expanded the sex dynamic outside of the specific bedroom, by telling her to text me for permission if she wants to masturbate when she is not staying at my place. I'm interested in expanding this more. 

Maybe this isn't typical DDlg? 

Interested in any thoughts or shared experiences. 

 

Edited July 8, 2024 by DD1987

[Guest Daddy Doug]

This is really interesting would love to chat more to you about this..