Help for First Time CG

[IntrovertCG]

Hey,

I have no idea what I'm doing. I'm recently divorced from a very vanilla marriage. I've met someone new, a little and I'm incredibly enamored. I'm struggling with getting the hang of it. I enjoy the idea and know it's a learning process that should be done together. I spent some time looking around different posts here, was just hoping people had some extra advice for a super newly and maybe some extra resources?

 

Thanks in advance:)

[Cebakes]

So what are you struggling with?  Does this not feel natural for you?  
While  it’s great to learn together, there is nothing wrong with learning on your own as well.  Would strongly recommend continuing to read posts here.   I assume if you Google DDLG and how to be a daddy, information will come up.    Have you identified what your Little is looking for from a daddy? There is a reason why a partner is into DDLG.  You definitely want to understand her background and motivations. Ideally, you will be able to provide what she is seeking.  
 

Generally Littles want attention, direction, guidance, affection, and discipline .   Again, everyone is different and requires different things.  They want to feel safe, protected, and carefree.  Have you identified any cute little things that she likes to do, play with, wear, draw, etc.?  Have you brought her anything to help her feel happy or silly?

I don’t think you can flip a light switch and feel or become a daddy. It may come pretty easy for some people, others may have to work at it, it may feel foreign or even awkward for some people.  Much of this is a presence, feeling or vibe.  

[beanbean]

Just talk to your little and figure out what you both need and go from there advice is all fine and good but you guys should figure out what both want lots of communication is needed 

[Hannah04]

I am both a little and caregiver but I started as a caregiver and it takes awhile to get the hang of it but the best thing to do is have a talk with your little to see what they want from you and maybe you could try things slowly. Whenever I had a little I would always ask them what they wanted or liked from a caregiver and I would ask what they did not want from a caregiver so I would know what to do for them.

[Guest Gentleman_Daddy]

Generally speaking look for ways to guide, encourage and support her. Perhaps identify areas of challenge and look for supportive ways to improve those aspects, typically though I would suggest you start slowly and build on things as you go. It can be overwhelming to have a list of 35 rules, 17 tasks AND have to think up names for 12 plushies all in a day

Edited July 22, 2024 by Gentleman_Daddy

[puppyskull]

Evie Lupine is a BDSM youtuber with lots, and I mean LOTS of content... She has some pretty good ddlg videos so I'd suggest checking her channel out!