new to littlespace

[Arachne]

recently ive been trying to regress in the comfort of my room however i have trouble with regressing because i dont know where to start also i struggle with feelings of shame since ive been surrounded by people who look down on DDLG and their words had stuck with me

hopefully (not really) i wont need a caretaker since im not really comfortable with myself (and my little space im trying to explore) since i have thoughts and feelings of shame thats a huge roadblock for me/take me out of regression and also i would prefer my caretaker to be someone i trust a lot and who i feel comfort with this type of stuff

but i would appreciate some advice and tips on how to regress by myself in the comfort of my room and how to feel comfortable and less shameful of myself 

[shadowrider]

I'm not a little so feel free to take any advice or ideas I have with a grain of salt. 

I would suggest you take time getting comfortable with yourself before seeking a partner. Then maybe find some littles to venture into little space with and see what you like and dislike and how you feel.

We have a great thread where the littles and occasionally bigs hang out and play. You can check it out if you haven't found it yet. https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/58426-imagination-playpen/ 

 

As for things you can do I would buy an adult coloring book and some colored pencils and just lay in my room and color a couple nights or so. Then buy some kids coloring books and crayons and try those out. There are playlists on youtube with music or videos you can play in the background that might be helpful also. I would just experiment with things and see what makes me smile and what doesn't. Some people like cartoons, either new ones or ones from when they were younger. There are a bunch of kids singalongs and things on youtube also, or disney shows are almost always relaxing.

I'm sure others will chime in here with some ideas. Just try things and see what makes you happy and relaxed and enjoy yourself.

[Arachne]

thank you! 

[LittleS]

Hi, I'm pretty new to littlespace too. I haven't been around negative people who have said bad thing about ddlg but the rest I understand. I'm not ready to look for a caregiver as I feel I still don't know enough about my littleside and want to explore by myself first. My problem is that even though I'm 25 I still live with my parents due to depression and anxiety. I'm not sure how they would take me being in littlespace so I don't feel comfortable showing that side of me around them. It makes it difficult to really regress properly.

Things that might help you. 

Have a safe space that's just for you. Mine is my bedroom, my parents don't really enter my bedroom unless I say it's OK so I can be whoever I want in there. 

Stick on a cartoon in the background while you are doing other things, when I'm not properly regressed I find it hard to focus on a cartoon properly, but cartoons do help me feel small. So by the time I have finished doing the other things I find I'm in littlespace and can watch cartoons happily. 

Colouring books, a lot of adults use adult colouring books so people can't really say anything bad about it, if they do, they are missing out! Both my adult and little like colouring as it helps my depression and anxiety. 

Cuddle with a stuffy! Every little should have some sort of cuddly toy, they are like your best friends! You can cuddle them whenever you like and you can talk to them like you would anyone else. It's really refreshing talking to my stuffy about things that bother me. And cuddling with my Rabbit stuffy Charlie really helps me feel little.

Music can so.etime help too. I listen to kids playlists on YouTube on occasion which is always fun to dance and sing along too if I'm alone. I also listen to instrumental music such as YouTube videos that say relaxing music. It makes me feel more calm and sometimes sleepy, I always feel little when I'm sleepy. 

Read I have a bunch of children stories on my kindle that no one but me knows about. I also have romance books that feature ddlg relationships. I don't usually read romance while regressing, but the ddlg ones actually help sometimes, reading about others in littlespace, even if they are just book characters help me feel little too, reading about the things they do in littlespace makes me want to be in littlespace too. 

What you need to remember is that every single person is different, what helps someone feel little might not work for you, and something that works for you might not work for them. The only thing you can do is really explore and find out what you like in littlespace. If you like doing something in littlespace, chances are doing that as an adult will help you slip into a littlespace mindset. 

Hope this helps. 😊