advise Little needing help/advice please!

[LittlePrincess24]

Hi there! So i started a ‘ddlg’ relationship with someone, and it turned into an actual relationship after and everything is going well but rn I’m a bit stuck on something. +9 months in 
 

To give you a bit of insight, my daddy sometimes like to switch and be little (every once in a blue moon). I try my best to help and look after him but I on the other hand am not a switch, I don’t particularly enjoy being mummy (maybe that’s because I don’t think I’m good at it or lack self confidence) but I do try to do it for him and I’m okay with him being little. But…
 

The other day he said he would like me to pick out Little outfits for him and said he wanted me to do it on SHEIN. 
* SHEIN is quite good for cute outfits that give off little vibes for good prices *
so i tried my best and kept it simple, mostly blue and green colours. But it was hard to find stuff for men so i added some normal Tshirts with colourful strips ext. he wasn’t really happy about that and said they were ‘big’ items and said I can do other colours, so i apologised and explained that it was hard to find male outfits. After that he explained and said I had to add what i wanted for him to wear and not what i thought he wanted to wear, which kinda confused me as i thought that’s what i was doing in the first place kinda. He also told me at that point he wanted me to pick out stuff for punishments for him (he said he likes to feel humiliated, again I try to do this for him but I always feel bad when I do it as I don’t want to hurt his feelings. But I am very sensitive tbh so maybe just that🤷🏼‍♀️) which kinda confused me also.He kept giving me small hints which felt like he wanted to wear girl clothes (and there is nothing wrong with that!)

So he said he would add something to the wish list to give me an idea of what he wanted. He added Tights and girls pants (underwear) they had frills and unicorns and stuff on them.  Kinda like sissy vibes? I’m not sure
 

I have no problem whatsoever with boys wearing girl clothes or the other way around etc. it’s not my place to judge or say anything to someone about things that make them happy. 
 

But when it came to this I didn’t particularly enjoy it.. and it takes me out my comfort zone a little. (Again I have nothing against it) idk how to explain this im not the best with my words sometimes. Anyway, im okay with respecting what others like and dont like.. but i don’t really know how to feel about someone im with (relationships wise/MY daddy wise) wearing girly stuff like sissy vibes. I respect people who do stuff like that and it’s none of my business about what makes them happy, but my feelings feel different about my daddy doing it. Idk I’m bad at this stuff 

 

Basically it’s something he likes but I do not. And I’m not sure how to come around to it or what to say… I’m scared I might hurt his feelings or he might leave me.. I’m scared I might feel more alone. Im kinda having a hard time already as my mother just passed away less than a month ago, which is another reason I don’t want drama/arguments; I’m still trying to grieve. 
 

im just looking for advice on what do to 😞 as I am very stuck. Thank you if you read this far! I appreciate it. Also if I have worded anything wrong please let me know so I can change it, my purpose was not in any shape of form to offend or upset anyone! And I apologise if I have 🤍

🤍🤍 thank you again for reading 🤍🤍

Edited June 21, 2024 by LittlePrincess24

[Tasherz]

Hi little princess,

 

I want to start off by saying that I am so sorry for your loss! I'm sending support and hugs if wanted. 

Next I wanted to say that I'm sorry you are struggling with all of this. These are a lot of feelings and emotions and I know that can be overwhelming sometimes. 

I'm not sure that I am personally the best for advice but I'm gonna give it a try! 

Have you tried talking to your daddy about how this all makes you feel. Maybe just letting him know that you are having a hard time and why.. as well as that you need to understand exactly what he is asking of you and why so that you can try and see if it is something that you can give him. If it's not I want to point out that this is not a bad thing or a bad reflection on either of you! Every person is made differently with their own kinks and personalities. It's ok to like different things. 

I'm not sure if either you or your daddy are polyamorous but you could possibly look into finding a mommy or a dom for your daddy. It doesn't even have to be sexual just someone who can give him what he is looking for if it turns out to be something you don't enjoy or are not able to give him. 

 

I hope this helps in some way! And if you ever need a friend or someone to talk to feel free to follow me and I am more than happy to talk! 

 

-Tashers

[Cebakes]

Sorry for your loss.  I think you need to be very honest with him.  Many of us probably feel the same way and don’t care what others do, but certain things are not of interest to us.  If I had to guess, his feelings and desires  to dress this way and show you this side, are even stronger that he is letting on.   This is what he enjoys and he pulled the curtain back to see how you would react.  Unfortunately, until you tell him, this is not something you enjoy, he will continue down this path.
 

I love Shein, not for myself, but to shop for women I’m with!

[Little kaiya]

You have every right to your feelings and your boundaries. Personally I could not be in a relationship with someone who is a switch. It's not because I have any issue with people who switch but rather I spend my time at work being the person in charge and taking care of others and I don't want to be doing that outside of work.

That said, until you communicate how you feel it isn't really fair to expect him to know. Both of you deserve to have a relationship where you are happy and if these are things he wants and you aren't comfortable there's a compatibility discussion that needs to take place.

[Guest Gentleman_Daddy]

My gut feeling is that you should not being involved in something that makes you feel this uncomfortable, however, relationships are rarely so clear cut and we do sometimes have to make an effort to meet the needs of our partners in ways that we don't explicitly enjoy. Only you can decide how uncomfortable it makes you feel and only you can decide how far past a given boundary you will go for someone. You should discuss it with your partner in a grown up way when neither of you are being little, explain how you feel and consider what compromises you are both prepared to make. Can either of you meet halfway on this? is it something you might learn to be more comfortable with in time / gradually? In short is it something the both of you can work on together?

[MoJo]

37 minutes ago, Gentleman_Daddy said:

My gut feeling is that you should not being involved in something that makes you feel this uncomfortable, however, relationships are rarely so clear cut and we do sometimes have to make an effort to meet the needs of our partners in ways that we don't explicitly enjoy. Only you can decide how uncomfortable it makes you feel and only you can decide how far past a given boundary you will go for someone. You should discuss it with your partner in a grown up way when neither of you are being little, explain how you feel and consider what compromises you are both prepared to make. Can either of you meet halfway on this? is it something you might learn to be more comfortable with in time / gradually? In short is it something the both of you can work on together?

Good advice. I could not have said it better. Communication is key to a healthy dynamic. 

[beanbean]

Yes you need to communicate with your partner and see if there are ways to make you both happy you won't know until you talk about. I know nothing about your relationship or anything but maybe your partner needs to get a online cg/Dom. But you definitely need to discuss your feelings with your partner 

[DaddyAnthony]

Hello little one.  I just lost one of my brothers too & I totally understand the hurt of losing a family member.  Sorry about your mom, hugs! 

 

Now, about your situation,  it is truly best to be very honest and state your position of dislike of switching.  You're truly unhappy and without happiness, nothing is going to change and you will not be happy in the long run. So break up or not, if he truly loves you, he will accept you not wanting to switch up!  Again, he may not be happy with this either and in the end he may decide to end this or maybe you may have to.  For a relationship to work, each party has to accept,  understand, and love unconditionally.   So if this change is something that will ulter and break up this relationship then let it be!  

 

In the dd/lg relationship, communication and openness is key.  Without that, this isn't going to work either way.  So be brave and state your facts.  I promise even if you break up today because of this, it was going to happen down the line nonetheless!  So better to just be open and honest. 

 

I do wish you luck and here if you need more advice or just someone to vent.  GOOD LUCK!  ❤️