problems with my baby

[durden]

me and my baby we had a problem yesterday

we were talking and she starting talking about someone was asking about her and then she said no i wont tell u 

then i told her why baby ?

then she said no i wont tell u started to change subject 

anyways i kept telling her tell me and she wont 

then i got mad and i muted on discord and i left her 

then she started feeling sad and calling me then she blocked me from all 

but instagram i went to instagram i told her i was mad about how she acted that why i left her to think then she started saying bad words

i told her okey i let u think about what u have done 

after that she kept spaming me with bad words and blocked me

anyways in the evening took of the block and she said she was sad and she will take revenge from me and started acting evil and she said she will do all the things i dont like

and then sent me and a screen that she got a new bf but i know she is lying just trying to me mad i told her i know y are lying she started crying i told her baby we dont have to keep acting like this lets talk just says leave me alone u are not my daddy i hate u i kept trying to talk to her and just says i hate u and she said i will go sleep and turned off wifi on her phone i kept trying to call her and wait for her all night and she didnt talk to me in the morning she said good for u u can sleep even ididnt sleep well i was all night up waiting for her 

and she said i m breaking up with i dont love u anymore cause u dont care about me 

i said to her there is no breaking up u are my baby i cant leave u 

anyways now i texted her her punishment about all she did i punished her to type me 500 time i apologize 

and just leave my texts on seen and my last text that ignoring wont do thing and we should talk about what make us sad and..... 

and i let u think about what u are doing 

what do u think i should do?

[MoJo]

Cut her off. Unacceptable behaviour. Seems on the spectrum of being bipolar. I am not an expert though. 

[durden]

8 minutes ago, MoJo said:

Cut her off. Unacceptable behaviour. Seems on the spectrum of being bipolar. I am not an expert though. 

is it okey to cut a baby as a punishment?

 

[MoJo]

Not a punishment. 
This is not a solid basis to build a dynamic. And seems to need therapy, that is not within your remit I believe. You can be there for support, but I doubt this can turn into a healthy dynamic. I can imagine you don’t feel good at all. This shift of hot-cold behaviour will have its toll on you. 
 

This is a personal opinion, I respect everyone and acknowledge everyone’s struggles. But this doesn’t seem like a healthy state. 

[durden]

2 minutes ago, MoJo said:

Not a punishment. 
This is not a solid basis to build a dynamic. And seems to need therapy, that is not within your remit I believe. You can be there for support, but I doubt this can turn into a healthy dynamic. I can imagine you don’t feel good at all. This shift of hot-cold behaviour will have its toll on you. 
 

This is a personal opinion, I respect everyone and acknowledge everyone’s struggles. But this doesn’t seem like a healthy state. 

i see anyways i will cut her now off as punishment cause i love her i will act like i dont wanna talk to her anymore and i m done with this behaviour till she knows what she have done and come apologizing cause she hates when i ignore her and she becomes sad as hell and cries 

[MoJo]

That is using ignoring as punishment. Not a healthy attitude. Punishment should not be ignoring. I know you feel sad and don’t want to lose her. Think of punishments that are not too extreme, so you can see her commitment. She has to be able to take consequences of her behaviour. Otherwise, this doesn’t work if you cannot correct it.

[beanbean]

I don't know if cutting her off as a  punishment works it seems more like emotional manipulation to some point talk to her tell her what yoo expect as rules and figure out if you even are compatible and go from there if its cant work for both if you maybe it's not meant to be

[durden]

the problem is i tried to talk to her again very calm and caring

and she blocked me!

before she blocked she said dont show me ur face or i will block u again and u only make me hate u more 

i told her if u block me this time i will cut u off for good and she said okey wait and she did it

i geuss u guys are right anyways i will leave her alone now i will not try to text her anymore or anything 

this is just becoming toxic now

[MoJo]

I am supportive of that decision. You will feel better later

[Kali]

Silence... cutting someone off... should NEVER be used as a punishment. EVER!! It's emotional abuse and abuse of the dynamic. 

Communication is key and foundational. It takes two and needs to be done in a healthy way or things will turn toxic. 

From what you've shared, it may be time to wish them all the best and move on. Cherish the good memories and apply lessons learned going forward. 

[MoJo]

1 hour ago, Kali said:

Silence... cutting someone off... should NEVER be used as a punishment. EVER!! It's emotional abuse and abuse of the dynamic. 

Communication is key and foundational. It takes two and needs to be done in a healthy way or things will turn toxic. 

From what you've shared, it may be time to wish them all the best and move on. Cherish the good memories and apply lessons learned going forward. 

Takes two to Tango!

[MissNMTX]

Sounds like quiet the extreme  situation to me. However, everything I would say has already been said 

[Andriel_Isilien]

8 hours ago, durden said:

is it okey to cut a baby as a punishment?

No, not in a dynamic nor as a punishment. You cut people off as a last resort after you have set boundaries with someone who is toxic to you. It's time to talk outside of these roles (aka 'clothes on') and communicate as two ADULTS. Express your feelings and concerns not as her Daddy but as a PERSON who is trying to talk to another PERSON. It doesn't sound like this behavior is what you agreed to within your dynamic.