needing some advice! do any other littles or cargivers get jealous within their dynamic?

[starz._.]

Hi im star! I'm a little around the age of 7.

Recently I've found myself beginning to get jealous over my caregiver treating others the same way he treats me when im little even though we have both stated we want a very monogomaus relationship. As in he babies his other friends and will go out of his way to take care of them even when its something he normally doesnt do. He also will do it to me at the same time and it leaves me not feeling significant because he treats everyone like he's their caregiver but this did not happen prior to our relationship.

This is my first time ever having this dynamic with someone and i believe that im reading too far into it. I wanted to know if any other caregivers out there or littles could give me some advice into what my daddy may be thinking/really meaning. Or would have any advice to help me understand my feelings better when im little.

I dont believe it is malicious but when im little i get very upset and i cant understand things like this or process them in a healthy manner, or at all for that matter. Ive been able to acknowledge im a little for a while but im still new when it comes to actually really accepting it if that makes sense to someone out there. If anyone has any pieces of wisdom to impart on me regarding this situation i would appreciate it!

Much love ~☆

Edited June 12, 2024 by starz._.

[starz._.]

4 minutes ago, GayKitten said:

Tbh this is too vague for me to give specific advice.

Sorry, i went back and editied it. Its more of a "i cant tell if im being dramatic" and if this is something others have experienced too or if its a natural feeling with this dynamic. I appreciate your advice though!

[Little kaiya]

My Daddy and I have clear boundaries thst He is not to treat anyone else as a little and I don't accept caregiving from anyone else. These are very firm hard limits for us.

Cg/little for us is VERY deeply intimate and emotional so we agreed to these boundaries. It sounds like you and your partner need to have an adult to adult discussion to ensure you're both on the same page. It's less about jealousy and more about mutually agreed upon limits.

[Guest Gentleman_Daddy]

5 hours ago, starz._. said:

Hi im star! I'm a little around the age of 7.

Recently I've found myself beginning to get jealous over my caregiver treating others the same way he treats me when im little even though we have both stated we want a very monogomaus relationship. As in he babies his other friends and will go out of his way to take care of them even when its something he normally doesnt do. He also will do it to me at the same time and it leaves me not feeling significant because he treats everyone like he's their caregiver but this did not happen prior to our relationship.

This is my first time ever having this dynamic with someone and i believe that im reading too far into it. I wanted to know if any other caregivers out there or littles could give me some advice into what my daddy may be thinking/really meaning. Or would have any advice to help me understand my feelings better when im little.

I dont believe it is malicious but when im little i get very upset and i cant understand things like this or process them in a healthy manner, or at all for that matter. Ive been able to acknowledge im a little for a while but im still new when it comes to actually really accepting it if that makes sense to someone out there. If anyone has any pieces of wisdom to impart on me regarding this situation i would appreciate it!

Much love ~☆

You need to talk to him, talk, talk and then talk some more. We all think our partners are mind readers and know us so well they can tell what we're thinking, but really they can't. Discuss it, be explicit. I'm sure once he realises it upsets you he will stop right away.

[beanbean]

Yeah it seem a legit reasonable reason to be upset not a overreaction at all. and my opinion is set him down and tell him how much it's bothering you

[MissNMTX]

I'm not technically a little, but you said this is your first time living in the dynamic. His as well?? My first thought was perhaps being in the dynamic with you has unlocked a sort of natural care giver instinct in him. So yes, as everyone else before has said, talk to him as an adult and set your boundaries.

I can empathize though, I can definitely see where I would enjoy seeing someone else get treated in a manner meant to be special just to me.