When do you have "the conversation"?

[blingsing]

I have been dating in the vanilla world and I might have found a Daddy in the wild.

Clues:

Said out straight he wants lots of kisses and cuddles

When asking me how he can get another date with me, I said Ice cream! He said he'd rent a mr whippy van. He didn't but when he picked me up he had the ice cream van music playing and brought me for sundaes.

He likes to hold my hand and pet my hair.

He uses a lot of pet names

He is bald and has a look of Yule Brenner. He said he could be my Daddy Warbrucks. He has said this twice. 

I told him I was adopted. He said he would love to adopt me. 

We are going out again tomorrow and I asked if I could have a sleep over. (He's invited me to stay before but I couldn't, so I wasn't being presumptuous in asking). He said of course baby. Made no comment about my language.

When I was complaining about a coworker he said maybe she needs a Teddy 🧸.  I said I need a new one because my puppy stole mine. He said what a bad puppy. Again no comment about me having a stuffie.

After sex we were cuddling and I started to suckle on his nipple. When I stopped he brought my head back to his chest. Again didn't make any comment about it being odd.

He bought me chocolates and insisted on feeding them to me.

One night I couldn't sleep. We were texting and he asked if I needed a lullaby. I said yes please and he rang me to sing me asleep. 

So what do you guys think?

Am I projecting my wants onto his actions or does he sound like a Daddy to you?

And should I just keep being me and see what happens or should I bring it up?

 

 

 

Edited May 18, 2024 by blingsing
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[beanbean]

I woul bring it up if he is a daddy then you know and if he is not then you guys can decide what y'all want to do I think your just better off grabbing the bulls by the horns and see what happens 

[Cebakes]

I would bring it up. Sounds like he has strong daddy traits.   

[blingsing]

After the weekend, I don't think he is. I think that there might be potential but he is definitely not a Daddy now. 

I think I'll just enjoy his natural traits and see where it goes. 

[beanbean]

1 hour ago, blingsing said:

After the weekend, I don't think he is. I think that there might be potential but he is definitely not a Daddy now. 

I think I'll just enjoy his natural traits and see where it goes. 

I think that's wise for sure give it a chance it might go were you want it

[Princess Lilia]

I’m sure you’ve discovered more now as time has gone by, but honestly it sounds like regardless of whether he himself identifies as a Daddy, he likes to do a lot of things that make you feel precious and sweet! He may never have even heard of DDLG but he may still like being an in-control lover in a gentle and nurturing way. Telling him “I like how sweet you are with me,” or, “I love how you take care of me” could help him see how these actions he takes are satisfying to you. You could even ask him, “Do you like how I’m kinda like a kid sometimes?” & based on the moments you shared, he may say yes, & you could tell him, “Well, I actually regress to a littler state when I feel really comfy with someone I’m with, like when I’m with you.” At that point, he’ll either bring up DDLG if he’s heard of it, or he’ll confirm or deny if he thinks this is sweet. 
These are just my ideas!! He may be discovering this for the first time himself, it it does sound like he is a playful and attentive person! 

[blingsing]

Unfortunately he is also a jealous person and resented time I spent with my friends. Sulking for days after I had a night out. Soooo.... what started out with great potential is over.

Thank you for all your helpful comments. Hopefully I'll have another chance.