Advice for a little

[littlecuriosity]

👉👈🥺I sowwy I know this for the grownups but I cuwious an figured asking the group be better directly from mommy's an daddy's how to you find a good caring controlling caregiver but also keep them happy so they won't leave you its my first time going "public" an I'm glad I found this site it has helped but hoping the group can help morwe

[Andriel_Isilien]

4 hours ago, littlecuriosity said:

keep them happy so they won't leave you

Be authentically you and don't try to mold yourself to fit someone else. I like the motto, "To thine own self be true." When someone leaves it's because either you pretended to be something you're not or the other person had an expectation that wasn't you. If you aren't comfortable being yourself then take some time to examine why that is. Can you get to a point to accept parts of yourself, or can you do some work to overcome some of those aspects? What is it that you want/need from a caregiver? What can you provide as a little that you are really good at and like to give?

I need a solid foundation of friendship, respect, and trust before getting into a dynamic. Think of a pyramid with the base being that foundation and each level up is more connection with the top being the most intimate (both physical and mental). Even though I identify as a "little" there is MUCH more to me than that role as a person. I am an adult with hobbies of my own, emotional baggage, talents, goals in life, etc. I want my other person to accept all of me both as a "little" in this community and big me outside of it in the vanilla world. The same goes the other way; I want to be able to accept all of them outside of BDSM lifestyle/roles. So basically, I start with some vanilla topics or conversations, Sure, it's good to know that the other person is interested in BDSM and what side of the slash they are, but I wouldn't make the call "this means we complete one another" on that. 

In short, be you and the right person will be drawn to that energy you put out.

[littlecuriosity]

9 hours ago, Andriel_Isilien said:

Be authentically you and don't try to mold yourself to fit someone else. I like the motto, "To thine own self be true." When someone leaves it's because either you pretended to be something you're not or the other person had an expectation that wasn't you. If you aren't comfortable being yourself then take some time to examine why that is. Can you get to a point to accept parts of yourself, or can you do some work to overcome some of those aspects? What is it that you want/need from a caregiver? What can you provide as a little that you are really good at and like to give?

I need a solid foundation of friendship, respect, and trust before getting into a dynamic. Think of a pyramid with the base being that foundation and each level up is more connection with the top being the most intimate (both physical and mental). Even though I identify as a "little" there is MUCH more to me than that role as a person. I am an adult with hobbies of my own, emotional baggage, talents, goals in life, etc. I want my other person to accept all of me both as a "little" in this community and big me outside of it in the vanilla world. The same goes the other way; I want to be able to accept all of them outside of BDSM lifestyle/roles. So basically, I start with some vanilla topics or conversations, Sure, it's good to know that the other person is interested in BDSM and what side of the slash they are, but I wouldn't make the call "this means we complete one another" on that. 

In short, be you and the right person will be drawn to that energy you put out.

So don't be scared to be myself an definitely don't try to please someone else an not be myself communication an upfront honesty is best thank you so much for that it really helps an I'm hoping I can find my person or atleast avoid the bad ones 

[MoJo]

You role as a princess is not to make your Daddy happy. And if a Daddy frames it that way, big red flag. 
This is a Dynamic, it works for both of you. Meeting the right Daddy is the same as meeting the right princess (from a Daddy’s perspective). 
I always recommend having no expectations, let it flow and see how you feel. Baby steps…