Begining stages

[Chefpeter]

My wife is okay with me calling her babygirl and starting to start a chores, rules and punishment list. She was not wanting that, but eventually agreed. What is the next step to get her into ddlg. 

[beanbean]

Yep still got to communicate make sure you both really know what you want . These type of things tend to be confusing so take it slow it's easy to get hurt and confused,  far to easy. So yes my advice is the same maybe even both of you come on here and read the past discussions there is a lot of good content especially from littles on here keep learning always keep learning 

[Little kaiya]

Between your last post and this one it honestly feels like you are pushing your wife to perhaps do things she doesn't actually want to do.

Previously you said you think she has a little side she doesn't want to show. Now you state she didn't want a chores and rules list but eventually agreed.

What seems clear if you want a DDlg relationship but it is not clear that is what your wife wants. Your two posts honestly make it seem more like she is giving in to pressure versus actually want a DDlg relationship.

You can't "get someone into DDlg" or anything else in a healthy way unless it is something they want. Like other folks I would emphasize the need to communicate with your wife about what you both want as it sounds like that isn't really happening.

[Aikko]

My first opinion here is that personally, I have a large capacity to sacrifice things I want for the benefit of a partner, often to my own detriment. I’m not saying that’s what’s happening here with your wife/partner, but if it is and she is simply humoring you by agreeing to something she truly doesn’t enjoy, this can lead to a VERY bitter pill later on down the line. The resentment can fester if she is only conceding because of pressure.

Again, your post isn’t very detailed, so if you’re truly seeking to do this in a healthy way, perhaps you can expound on that a little bit by what you you mean “the next steps to get her into ddlg.” There are many aspects to ddlg and some people, couples, individuals whatever, are not into all aspects of it. Not every thing about ddlg will be applicable to every dynamic or little….you truly need to heed the advice above and communicate with your wife. Is she aware of your presence here and what you’re asking people on the internet for advice in your marriage? I think if it’s a dynamic you’re expecting your partner to be into WITH you, then perhaps you should share these threads with her so she can see there is more than just your take on what DDLG is…I don’t mean that rudely, but if she’s truly uneducated, show her this community and let her decide if it’s something she may want to join you in. It may surprise you what it reveals for both of you looking at it together. Best of luck to you!