Maintenance Spankings?

[plumplilprincess]

So Daddy and I have noticed that I start acting bratty more if I don't get punished for a while, so Daddy decided we're going to start doing "maintenance spankings" to make sure I don't get to cocky. So I was wondering, do you guys have that in your relationship? If not, what do you Bigs do to keep your littles in line?

[LolitasDaddy]

It seems that you are getting hung up on spankings being a punishment. If you enjoy spankings, and he doesn't mind administering them, why not make spankings part of a reward system?

[Littlest_Lushie]

I don't personally have this concept put into place in my relationship, but I think it does sound nice. I'm generally a good, obedient girl for my Daddy but at times I playfully act out because it is exhilarating, and quite personally arousing OR sometimes I'm just straight bad not intentionally. More often than not its just a playful thing and no real punishment is needed, not an intentional "I'm going to be as big a brat as I can" kind of thing which would warrant a serious punishment.

 

I can see it now... if a little one starts acting a little snotty, a swift swat on the butt and having daddy say "Remember who is in charge, Princess." is a great way to lightly remind the little who is in charge and what can happen if he/she continues that behavior. 

 

I like that idea. I may even mention it to my Daddy.

[plumplilprincess]

It seems that you are getting hung up on spankings being a punishment. If you enjoy spankings, and he doesn't mind administering them, why not make spankings part of a reward system?

That's actually not the case. I was even like that as a child, I'd be good for a while because of fear of punishment, but after a while that fear sort of "wore off" & I'd start to get out of line again. I guess that part of me just never changed.

[LolitasDaddy]

I didn't see it in a "testimg the limits" type of thing, but I guess that makes a lot of sence.

[Guest CamNE]

The best schedules of reinforcement (behaviorism) are intermittent. A fixed ratio or interval schedule as you describe will work but only for awhile. In the long run it will promote disobedience not compliance/submission.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Yes, but it's not a regular thing. Just if daddy notices I'm getting a little grumpy, or directionless, he knows I need actual physical discipline to bring me back round. I don't mean brattiness or behaving badly, or even grumpiness with him specifically, just if I'm struggling and kind of a bit "lost "

I don't need that much actual, "obvious" discipline, as I'm hard wired to want to be his good girl, but his discipline is implied at all times.

Little verbal reminders, his manner, a certain look. I very much live under his rule, and I need that very much. I need to feel kept in my place.

[Guest buddhagirl]

We don't have "maintenance spankings", but Daddy knows when I need him to be extra growlie, dominant, strict, etc., to put me back in my secure, owned, safe space with him. I used to get a little bratty when I needed this (not consciously), but now Daddy reins me in before I get that far from him.