Littles who need Daddy advice without one?

[Aikko]

Hi guys! I am just curious how to handle this and was wondering if anyone’s experienced it before. I have some questions and I’m kind of ready to start exploring looking for a CG/Daddy but I am kinda scared. I want a nice Daddy but one who will help me know what I need when I don’t know….I also have some ptsd trauma to work thru in my little space but I don’t know how to put that. Should I put it? See? I clearly need some guidance here. Lol Should I just ask for advice first without having one Daddy/CG? What have you all littles done on here? Those that have been successful on here, how have you done it? Are there really good Daddies and CGs here? 🥹

[beanbean]

I think the biggest thing is deciding what you want and asking them all the questions to make sure the same page is attainable 

[Guest GreatWazoo]

You can discuss some things in the group to be sure. A lot of other littles may have experience or insights as to what you’re going through, that a Daddy or caregiver just may not have. But the most important thing in finding a Daddy is to be comfortable with them. If you don’t feel good about something, speak up. A good Daddy or caregiver wants to learn as much as you do. If you find resistance, then it’s a red flag and time to find someone else. 

[Aikko]

@GreatWazooohhh! That’s a great point about the wanting to learn the same as me. I like that aspect because I love to learn things and be taught things and doing that with someone sounds great, so thank you for telling me about being red flag if they resist it! 

[Guest GreatWazoo]

You’re welcome. I figure that if I expect someone to follow rules, then I should have rules as well. It’s only fair. Otherwise it becomes a dictatorship, and then it’s work work work work. 

[LittleOceans]

Time, dedication, and unfiltered honesty are what is needed. I look for people who are honest with themselves and with others. There are going to be bad people. There are good goods, too. The bad are those unwilling to grow, listen to critical feedback, have mature adult conversations, admit when they've been wrong, or say sorry instead of blaming another. It doesn't matter what roles, genders, etc. One must be open to the possibility of being hurt. Stay strong in your core beliefs. Figure out your needs and embrace them for what they are. 
Be smart, trust your instincts, and dont be afraid to ask questions. 

Bye bye,

Oceans.

P.S. I wish you all the luck! If you believe in that sort of thing, of course. 

[Andriel_Isilien]

Personally, I've been needing to wait to work out some issues of my own before getting into a dynamic and to learn from others. That's what this forum is for! There are loads of discussions to browse on topics about self-improvement, relationships, mental health, and more. We also have clubs too you can check out.

[Cebakes]

11 hours ago, Aikko said:

Hi guys! I am just curious how to handle this and was wondering if anyone’s experienced it before. I have some questions and I’m kind of ready to start exploring looking for a CG/Daddy but I am kinda scared. I want a nice Daddy but one who will help me know what I need when I don’t know….I also have some ptsd trauma to work thru in my little space but I don’t know how to put that. Should I put it? See? I clearly need some guidance here. Lol Should I just ask for advice first without having one Daddy/CG? What have you all littles done on here? Those that have been successful on here, how have you done it? Are there really good Daddies and CGs here? 🥹

This is a great forum and place to ask questions that you have and it offers good discourse and insight .  I would recommend spending  time reviewing past topics and discussions here as well as utilizing the internet to gain knowledge in DDLG.

It’s good that you are aware of your trauma and needs and are working on that.  I think it’s  important to understand your issues and needs before entering any relationship.   A good daddy or CG will recognize and understand your needs and have a passion for helping you overcome the past and grow. 

[LittleTurtle69]

How do u get over being scared to tell someone about my regression? I'm scared my age for regression will scare every CG/Protecter away 🥺

 

Like ummmmmm how do u know if someone is a CG/Protecter? It's scary 🥺

Edited April 16, 2024 by LittleTurtle69

[Cebakes]

4 hours ago, LittleTurtle69 said:

How do u get over being scared to tell someone about my regression? I'm scared my age for regression will scare every CG/Protecter away 🥺

It shouldn’t scare every CG/protector away.  It’s a natural part of DDLG.  I’ve seen ages from newborn to teens.  Some CG may want a little or a middle. I loved when my last middle would age regress to a teen and even younger.

Edited April 16, 2024 by Cebakes

[Aikko]

Kinda fair warning *feeling sorta middle-little blendy* and I don’t want to ask or break any rules about it before messaging someone privately. I’m not asking this right. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Like is it okay to ask someone directly in a message to if they’re okay talking with you like this? To not obviously be a daddy, but I just didn’t want to break any rules if it wasn’t discussed before I was talking when I felt really in little space if that makes sense. I hope it does. Thanks guys. 🎀🧸