Any Daddy mentors?

[TattooedDaddy]

I am a very vanilla daddy and would really like another daddy with way more experience to maybe be my mentor?

[auban]

well, i will often disappear for extended periods of time due to the nature of my job, but if you want to ask questions, i would be more than happy to answer them for you to the best of my ability.  

 

i can help with general power exchange dynamics, what to expect, and how to find resolutions for problems that arise.  

[Guest Heavenly.D.Carr]

I don't mind giving advice and helping you along the journey!

[ANewDragon]

I am new to this as well, But I would be willing to answer any questions I can, as well as find out what I can for you if I do not. 

[Guest NYGuy]

Although there's no catchall advice this tumblr blog archive is very detailed and can be the jumping board for you to fine tune for yourself and your partner.http://dominantlife.tumblr.com/library

 

It helped me many times when I was first introduced to ddlg.

 

Also I'm willing to field any questions you might ever have. Just shoot me a message and I'll try my best to help. I don't have a little now so it'll keep me from losing touch haha

[LolasDaddy]

Hi, I'm still a new daddy and needing a mentor. My middle and I enjoy and love the ddlg dynamic but I tend to slack on things. I don't mean to but when I do my little gets upset, I don't blame her this is a big want and need for her. I love making her happy but need help being the daddy she needs daily. What are some ways to stay in "daddy" mode?

[auban]

ways to stay in "daddy" mode:

 

Honestly, there is no need to stay in daddy mode all the time, but the only way i know of to be in the game 100% all the time is to picture a personality that you want to emulate and constantly check your actions against this alter ego.  Basically, if you want to be the kind of person you are choosing to be, then you will have far more staying power than you will if you feel like you are putting on an act just to keep somebody else around.  psychologically, nobody can act against their own thoughts and feelings forever.  notice i said thoughts AND feelings.  

 

truth is, you can act against your own feelings all day long for years on end if you are doing it in pursuit of a goal you find worthy.  men can work for companies for years that they don't really like, stay in the military until retirement even though they don't really like it, etc.  the reason they can keep it up so long is because they are pursuing a goal that they believe in, something they find as possible and worthwhile.  

 

so, the only way for you to be in the game incessantly is to literally become your ideal alter ego.  it wont be instantly easy.  every day you are going to face new challenges that you are not used to, new frustrations and ups and downs that will make it difficult for you to keep on track.  that is ok, its just part of the learning process.  when you realize that you strayed from the vision of being exactly who you want to be, just get back on it.  ask yourself  "what would captainlolasdaddy", or whatever nickname, do right now?  and then do it.  

 

beyond that, the only way for you to stay in daddy mode all the time is to only be doing things that you enjoy.  the problem with that is that eventually, you will eventually find yourself enjoying things less and less after the bazillionth time you have done them.  so, really, the only sustainable way is to create and pursue a vision.  and easiest vision to both create and support is an ideal self.  

[HerDarkDaddy]

Feel free to send any questions you have, my way...I don't mind answering questions or giving advice.

[SugarDaddy]

I am a new daddy and I am looking for someone to teach me.So if anyone knows books or online website that I can visit to learn from I would be truthful grateful.