Does having an online Daddy work?

[MsCuddleSeeker]

Hello! I’m new here, I’m a middle who is just feeling comfortable to come back to the community after a disastrous previous experience. I really find I’m craving an attentive Daddy who loves to be a Caregiver too, but I’m really worried about opening myself up again. Has anyone here ever had an online Daddy? Does it work? 

[beanbean]

It can work but it takes work and not rushing in to to things and it not going to be easy always going to take lots of hard work and patience 

[Little kaiya]

It's going to vary person to person based in what they are seeking. I know some folks crave the direction, rules and having someone else set direction. For those things an online caregiver could certainly work.

For myself touch, cuddling, being held and my Daddy's scent are absolutely CRITICAL components. I also want a caregiver I can live with who is part of both my little and adult parts if my life. So an online caregiver is not something that I would consider as I know it wouldn't work for me.

Consider starting by identifying what you individually would want from a caregiver and then assess whether that's feasible online or whether it needs to be in person. An online caregiver can work if it aligns with your needs, wants, desires and life goals. Like any relationship, in person or online, it will take effort and adjustments from all parties involved.

Edited March 19, 2024 by Little kaiya

[FillYouWithMe]

In my opinion, it’s a lot more difficult to maintain a healthy relationship online or long distance. I struggle to balance my real life and my online life, because I can get intense cravings for the real thing that can’t be fulfilled by an online dynamic.

 

That being said, it never hurts to have someone online who you can confide with or that can talk to you while you’re in that headspace. I have had a number of friends that I read bedtime stories to when they didn’t have a Daddy/Mommy to do it, and it’s a nice experience when it’s a mutual understanding like that. Even if it’s only a friendship, it’s nice to be able to have someone to depend on for talking and having time with. Just make sure it’s in a dynamic you can both agree upon, with terms and conditions that meet both of your expectations and needs.

[BJZ]

I'm glad ya'll have this topic open. Like mscuddleseeker I have been asking the same question about remote Daddy vs in person Daddy.  

I may be wrong but remote or online sounds like long distance dating which in my life never worked. There is only two body senses speech and hearing being addressed. Touch smell taste are so important for a healthy relationship, I think. 

I will be reading everyone's thoughts but thank you for getting this question rolling! ❤️

[Cebakes]

To each their own, I would never be able to be in a long distance or online relationship.   

[LittleOceans]

Long distance takes dedicated work. There is a lot of communication and honesty, which has to go above and beyond the requirements of an in-person relationship. I find that most of the time, I cannot regress because I do not have my safety near. In my mind and actions, I am a 3-year-old when I regress, and if I don't have someone watching me, I could seriously hurt myself. I have a challenge with handling the emotions of my little side as well, and not being in person to have help regulating or comfort makes long distances nearly impossible. I am middle always; I am 15 or 16, and she is "easier" to manage. (Easier is in quotations because I am not an easy person to care for.) I am devious and love the thrill of trying to get away with something. I twist the truth to my standards and love to sneak. I have a smart mouth and respect anyone who can intellectually keep up with me. I unintentionally run all over those who can't keep up with me.

The short answer is that long distance is achievable. It is dependent on the needs and social capabilities of the parties involved. 

[GrampyP]

Another consideration is that not everyone has the option to have an in person relationship such as people learning about ddlg etc. later in life after already being in a committed relationship, people who can't or don't want to move to be with their person for whatever reason, and people who can't find a suitable person.

But online/long distance can be better than no relationship at all. Some needs can be met some comfort had, some progress made, some itches getting scratched and things will be learned.

The bar for an acceptable long distance person can be lower than for an in person person, thus there are a lot more people to choose from.

Also, it is usually a step toward an in-person scenario anyway.

Long distance relationships have a place and always will for lots of people, even though in a perfect world they would likely be lesser in most ways.

[DaddyDom3238]

Hello, This is a great topic to bring up. I have been in the lifestyle for over 15 years and have had a few online relationships in the dynamic. I will say it is difficult as I crave and need my baby girl in person as well. That physical connection is very important to me and being able to hold and cuddle her. That being said, online can work as long as you both talk and establish what you both need and set realistic expectations for online communication. 
I wish you the best!!

[BabyPuff]

It can… it takes a lot of work. And a bit of extra compassion and understanding.