My daddy dom ghosted me and I’m feeling completely depressed

[Guest Little_sunshine]

Hello, I’m new here, it’s my first time using a forum, i hope i do it right:) 

Before starting this text, i wanna mention i have BPD and a lot of childhood trauma which will probably explain all the big feelings in this post ( also TW’s). I’ve pretty much always involuntary regressed but i only found out it’s an actual coping mechanism a few years ago. I only had two DDLG relationships experiences in my life, both online. The first one was extremely traumatic and was with a fake dom, i didn’t know anything about those relationships and fell into his trap, he ruined me and i refused to age regress or do anything related to DDLG for +1 year. Until i met a new dom, we have been talking for a few months and he’s been the absolute best, he’s been very kind and caring and we had the perfect relationship, I’m not gonna say a lot about him or I’ll just cry even more. We only had one problem, communication, we texted only when he wanted to, sometimes if he didn’t start the conversation i had no way of contacting him, i kindly  asked him to have a conversation about that and it ended up with him refusing to resolve the problem and me having a panic attack. After that he completely ghosted me, and saying I’ve been fine would be a total lie. It’s been two weeks and I’m barely taking care of myself, I’m completely empty inside and started not going to work lately,  i can’t sleep at night, i keep throwing up and crying and reading our old texts. During the day i take long naps to avoid having to live, i don’t even need them i just have no strength to live anymore. I told him everything about my mental illness and my trauma and he was so understanding and lovely, i never thought he could do something like this. I trust one person after years of not doing so and this is my reward, what always happened to me during my whole life. I feel completely broken inside and have no will to live anymore. I’ve hidden all my age regression related stuff and I’ve been rotting in my bed for i don’t know how long, i can’t even eat anymore and my whole body feels numb while my mind is screaming horrible horrible thoughts. I honestly don’t know why I’m writing this, i never did this before but if anyone knows how to help, what to do get better, please tell me cause i feel like my life is completely over right now. Everything is falling apart. Thank you for anyone who’ve read all this and I’m sorry for all the negativity in this post, i don’t know how to deal with this by myself anymore, I’m sorry. 

[Pls delete this account]

Don’t be sorry that sucks. Relationships are all about communication and being open even more so these kinds I guess. But non of it’s your fault and can’t say anything to make it better, but I’ve be very depressed before and not wanted or been able to do anything , so if you just want someone to listen for a bit message and I’ok message when I can.

[RebelKing]

Relationships are difficult, none of this is your fault, we don't know why he would do something like that, but he did, there is someone out there that you can trust that will return that favor and be the right one, ghosting is pretty common these days, I've been ghosted by numerous littles months into relationships and it hurts, but you will get past this and take something from it.

 

[Guest DemandingMan]

Hello, let me start by saying how sorry i am for your experience.

Perhaps you could ask for a temporay care giver, or non sexual care giver to help you through this. I'm new here, but i'm sure there are plenty in here who would help.

Also perhaps reach out to some of the more experienced littles in here?

Going forward you should expect a certain level of respect from any CG, Dom, Daddy etc. And you should expect any of those to verify who they are ( adds accountability).

You have to be strong, put yourself first. Make sure you're eating and drinking etc.

Your post isn't negative and you've just been unlucky, it certainly isn't your fault!, You've taken the first important step in facing up to it and reaching out for help. So well done you!

[BabyWuvsy]

Darling, you didn't deserve that. I don't even have the words, but I am glad that you reached out here for support. 

 

Please don't try to go through this alone. Be safe.

[DDCool]

Really sorry to hear the horrible experience you have had. As said talking about it and getting it out there is vital. As someone else mentioned, you have to look after yourself, no matter what. Eats and drinks are a must. Sending positive thoughts, good luck and please take care x

[Kittyara207]

@Little_sunshineHi!!!!

Wanted to say hi.  And I am here to say a few things.  I have been ghosted before.  After a few months of thinking there was a great connection.  Things were not the same for us.    I have trauma in my background.  Not idea as to yours and I will not pretend it's like that.

But from my experience too good to be true is a thing.  There are those folks.  Even if you follow through with all the red flag warnings and vet people well some will slip through.  It's hard to look from the position you are in and see light on the other hand.  Trust and honesty to some mean so much more.  I had to remember just because I was truthful and the person seemed genuine that they sometimes have other motives.  I wanted to just give up on this site and trying.  But some of the people here reached out to me and didn't let me pull back and give up on this side of me.  There are some amazing people here that would love to have a friend or a connection that are willing to talk and assist you.  

I met one that helped me and was patient beyond what I ever expected from anyone.  Willing to push me but only to the point I was comfortable with.  It took me a long time to feel I could trust them.  When I say a long time it took me a few months.  A good Daddy is patient and there for you.  Putting down what you expect and how you wish to be treated and they do the same.  Communication is so important.  The fact he was like this means he has a lot to learn about being a Daddy.  He could just be a Dom trying to be a Daddy.  Some littles realize they are Middles or switches.  In life we are always learning and adapting.

If you want to personally message me go ahead.  I am going to put a request to be your friend if you decide to accept great.  If not great as well.  Not great with advice because but I have a great teacher.  I

 

f he reads this not trying to get brownie points/ good girl points or anything.  But if i do yay!!!

[wissing]

On 3/10/2024 at 7:03 PM, Little_sunshine said:

Hello, I’m new here, it’s my first time using a forum, i hope i do it right:) 

Before starting this text, i wanna mention i have BPD and a lot of childhood trauma which will probably explain all the big feelings in this post ( also TW’s). I’ve pretty much always involuntary regressed but i only found out it’s an actual coping mechanism a few years ago. I only had two DDLG relationships experiences in my life, both online. The first one was extremely traumatic and was with a fake dom, i didn’t know anything about those relationships and fell into his trap, he ruined me and i refused to age regress or do anything related to DDLG for +1 year. Until i met a new dom, we have been talking for a few months and he’s been the absolute best, he’s been very kind and caring and we had the perfect relationship, I’m not gonna say a lot about him or I’ll just cry even more. We only had one problem, communication, we texted only when he wanted to, sometimes if he didn’t start the conversation i had no way of contacting him, i kindly  asked him to have a conversation about that and it ended up with him refusing to resolve the problem and me having a panic attack. After that he completely ghosted me, and saying I’ve been fine would be a total lie. It’s been two weeks and I’m barely taking care of myself, I’m completely empty inside and started not going to work lately,  i can’t sleep at night, i keep throwing up and crying and reading our old texts. During the day i take long naps to avoid having to live, i don’t even need them i just have no strength to live anymore. I told him everything about my mental illness and my trauma and he was so understanding and lovely, i never thought he could do something like this. I trust one person after years of not doing so and this is my reward, what always happened to me during my whole life. I feel completely broken inside and have no will to live anymore. I’ve hidden all my age regression related stuff and I’ve been rotting in my bed for i don’t know how long, i can’t even eat anymore and my whole body feels numb while my mind is screaming horrible horrible thoughts. I honestly don’t know why I’m writing this, i never did this before but if anyone knows how to help, what to do get better, please tell me cause i feel like my life is completely over right now. Everything is falling apart. Thank you for anyone who’ve read all this and I’m sorry for all the negativity in this post, i don’t know how to deal with this by myself anymore, I’m sorry. 

Okay first of all he is a dickhead if he comes back show him your most beautiful finger the middle one. I don't care how old you are, if you are a man or woman lg, lb, dd, dm, trans they them if you are in a relationship you do not ghost your partner unless you are in a coma in the hospital, fear you so much that he/she/they/them are afraid to be killed or beat up buy you, or dead. Those are the only 3 excuses ever. 

The least you can do is to show the other person the minimum of respect:  to write a text: i am sorry but I am no longer interested, and even that in my book is low unless your partner are violent they deserve to be told in person and that counts for long distance aswell. I am from denmark and I ones had a boyfriend in the Nederlands I was the one hwo ended ot in person in his country and at his home coz he deserved nothing but respect.

And the fact that you could not contact him screams a million red flags to me.

So baby girl cheer up that insect is not worthy of your tears or that you don’t take care of yourself. No Man or Woman is ever worth that.

You are nr 1 you have to be especially as a little/middle or you will crumble if faced with an insect like him.

When someone hurts me badly I take my phone and print out the picture of him put it on my dart bord and suddenly I hid triple 20 and bull's eye all the time the arrows are some what hard to get out again but what the heck 😊 perhaps an ide? 😁

And then I call my best friend the ex from the Netherlands and bitch about men and how it is unfair we woman don't have an annual day where it is allowed to shoot all men hwo ever wronged us or worse, for some od reason he don't believe it would be good ide to give me a day like that, hmm don't get it i think it is fair 😉❤ 

Give it time you will find right one. If he doesn't allow you to contact him then you trow him out to the right coz then something is definitely wrong.

I send you a lot of hugs and if you need to wend send me a text and ill give you my msn ohh and if you get on my msn do feel free to contact me! you don't ever have to wait for me to write to you 😘🫂🫂

[PrimalScream67]

I just joined but as a former "daddy" and "caregiver", I'd like to say I'm sorry you're going thru this. My personal experience is a bit similar only it was her that was the one who quit on our relationship. We'd known each other since 2013 and we were together until 2019 even got married in late 2018. But she had numerous mental health issues as well as childhood trauma and a drug addiction. To say our relationship was rocky would not come close to the truth of the matter. Towards the end her drug addiction and mental health issues turned her into someone I didn't even recognise anymore and I found that no matter what I tried I could no longer find a way to help her .or us any longer. Then one morning several months after we'd married I came home from work early intentionally because I'd suspected she was having people in our home and that they were more than just friends, they were the one supplying her with the drugs and she was sleeping with them. I confronted her and basically told her either she agreed to check back into the local mental health centre and stay there until she was clean and got the help she needed in several areas or we needed to seperate until she did so. I went to work the following night and was called out by my supervisor because members of law enforcement wanted to speak to me. They were there to serve me with a notice to show up in court the next morning for a restraining order hearing with a judge who after I appeared ordered me to leave my own home for 30 days. Long story short, she ended up stealing everything in the house, cleaning out my bank account and leaving the state. 

To this day in still very much in love with her despite all this. It's been going on 5 yrs now and I can't go a moment of the day without feeling the grief if loosing her, and the pain of what I feel is my failure to take care of her as I promised and worked so hard to do from the first time we met. Five yrs and I haven't tried to see anyone else, I've gotten to where I only eat when my stomach starts to hurt from going hungry for days at a time, I can't sleep so I stay awake until my body forces me to finally fall out, and I've not been able to hold down a job (thankfully I'm on SSI so I've at least got money for rent and utilities) and I'm barely getting by financially. 

I don't know what advice to give you. I wish I could tell you that the pain if the loss gets better with time, but at least in my case it hasn't seemed to. I've thought about trying to meet someone else in this lifestyle but it's not as easy as some might think, so I sit at home alone with my cats, listen to music and watch movies and spend countless hours online surfing through meaningless crap until my eye hurt, wishing I could meet someone to help me forget her and move on. I'm 56 yrs old now and she just turned 29 this past summer... And I miss her with all my heart. 

Feel free to reply if you'd like. Maybe we could find some answers.

 

[DDCool]

Primalscream67, that is difficult to even read. From one person to another though you have done incredibly to get to this point through such a traumatic experience. No to relationships are ever the same but I hope you can at least forgive yourself, sounds like you did everything you could to help and support your partner. Best wishes 

[Guest Little_sunshine]

2 hours ago, PrimalScream67 said:

I just joined but as a former "daddy" and "caregiver", I'd like to say I'm sorry you're going thru this. My personal experience is a bit similar only it was her that was the one who quit on our relationship. We'd known each other since 2013 and we were together until 2019 even got married in late 2018. But she had numerous mental health issues as well as childhood trauma and a drug addiction. To say our relationship was rocky would not come close to the truth of the matter. Towards the end her drug addiction and mental health issues turned her into someone I didn't even recognise anymore and I found that no matter what I tried I could no longer find a way to help her .or us any longer. Then one morning several months after we'd married I came home from work early intentionally because I'd suspected she was having people in our home and that they were more than just friends, they were the one supplying her with the drugs and she was sleeping with them. I confronted her and basically told her either she agreed to check back into the local mental health centre and stay there until she was clean and got the help she needed in several areas or we needed to seperate until she did so. I went to work the following night and was called out by my supervisor because members of law enforcement wanted to speak to me. They were there to serve me with a notice to show up in court the next morning for a restraining order hearing with a judge who after I appeared ordered me to leave my own home for 30 days. Long story short, she ended up stealing everything in the house, cleaning out my bank account and leaving the state. 

To this day in still very much in love with her despite all this. It's been going on 5 yrs now and I can't go a moment of the day without feeling the grief if loosing her, and the pain of what I feel is my failure to take care of her as I promised and worked so hard to do from the first time we met. Five yrs and I haven't tried to see anyone else, I've gotten to where I only eat when my stomach starts to hurt from going hungry for days at a time, I can't sleep so I stay awake until my body forces me to finally fall out, and I've not been able to hold down a job (thankfully I'm on SSI so I've at least got money for rent and utilities) and I'm barely getting by financially. 

I don't know what advice to give you. I wish I could tell you that the pain if the loss gets better with time, but at least in my case it hasn't seemed to. I've thought about trying to meet someone else in this lifestyle but it's not as easy as some might think, so I sit at home alone with my cats, listen to music and watch movies and spend countless hours online surfing through meaningless crap until my eye hurt, wishing I could meet someone to help me forget her and move on. I'm 56 yrs old now and she just turned 29 this past summer... And I miss her with all my heart. 

Feel free to reply if you'd like. Maybe we could find some answers.

 

wow, im really really sorry this happened to you, nobody should ever go through that :// just know it wasnt your fault, you did everything you could and it’s not your fault if it didn’t work. 

[Guest Little_sunshine]

13 hours ago, wissing said:

Okay first of all he is a dickhead if he comes back show him your most beautiful finger the middle one. I don't care how old you are, if you are a man or woman lg, lb, dd, dm, trans they them if you are in a relationship you do not ghost your partner unless you are in a coma in the hospital, fear you so much that he/she/they/them are afraid to be killed or beat up buy you, or dead. Those are the only 3 excuses ever. 

The least you can do is to show the other person the minimum of respect:  to write a text: i am sorry but I am no longer interested, and even that in my book is low unless your partner are violent they deserve to be told in person and that counts for long distance aswell. I am from denmark and I ones had a boyfriend in the Nederlands I was the one hwo ended ot in person in his country and at his home coz he deserved nothing but respect.

And the fact that you could not contact him screams a million red flags to me.

So baby girl cheer up that insect is not worthy of your tears or that you don’t take care of yourself. No Man or Woman is ever worth that.

You are nr 1 you have to be especially as a little/middle or you will crumble if faced with an insect like him.

When someone hurts me badly I take my phone and print out the picture of him put it on my dart bord and suddenly I hid triple 20 and bull's eye all the time the arrows are some what hard to get out again but what the heck 😊 perhaps an ide? 😁

And then I call my best friend the ex from the Netherlands and bitch about men and how it is unfair we woman don't have an annual day where it is allowed to shoot all men hwo ever wronged us or worse, for some od reason he don't believe it would be good ide to give me a day like that, hmm don't get it i think it is fair 😉❤ 

Give it time you will find right one. If he doesn't allow you to contact him then you trow him out to the right coz then something is definitely wrong.

I send you a lot of hugs and if you need to wend send me a text and ill give you my msn ohh and if you get on my msn do feel free to contact me! you don't ever have to wait for me to write to you 😘🫂🫂

Thank you so so so much for your kind and sweet message. I wish we had a day like that too hhh

[DDCool]

There's some useful info in a section called forum tutorial that's definitely worth a look, I only found out the other day how to properly follow someone. Hopefully it helps 🤞🏻🤞🏻

[Kittyara207]

There is always someone who has been there or here that can offer wisdom or support.  As a community I would like to think we are very supportive and amazing.  Never be afraid to ask for help.  No one is fully alone in this forum.  No matter how hard we all try to hide who we are in the public or around the vanilla people never worry about it here.  Always be you if someone doesn't accept you for you they are not worth your time. Kay all I am in my own mind and getting too distracted to deal.

[Brattylilprincess]

Hey girl!
I did read your post yesterday but just didn't had the time to answer..

I'm sorry that you have to go through all of that, really am. People can be cruel, even the ones we choose to trust the most.
I have the same feelings and emotions when someone decides to leave me, not that my last daddy did this, but i went through the same emotions and feelings..
It's never easy, at least not with having all these anxiety's that trigger things like that, but if you need someone to talk to, feel welcome to send me a message x3

I hope you feel better very soon x3

[Guest Amaria]

if you ever need a listening ear of a fellow little I'll listen! I've had childhood trauma and some stuff too. 

[DaddyAnthony]

First off.... hugs!  

I'm sorry you are going through this but I think you've taken the first steps to being healed which is talking about it.  Understanding sometimes things don't make since & it's not you that is always the problem is the foundation of healing.  

Please note there are fake daddies, fake littles, cg, mommies & many more fakes that will try to open your door to trust to open your heart, body & mind.  But please note you do need to be careful and use your judgment but also don't let past hurt or experiences or ruin your future because if you do the past fakes win!  

As many here I've had trauma very very young & it continued for many years.... if I finally didn't find someone to open up to and talk about it, I'm sure I'd never let anyone close to me ever and I end up losing in life.  However, opening up and realizing I'm not the only one who has been used and hurt made me a great daddy who now uses my past experiences in a positive way. 

Your first step in healing is knowing, even I and others had fakes in our lives and people that hurts us but in time with talk, healing and learning from past experiences you will grow into an even better person if you let it and get out that depression mood.   You can do it and I believe in you but you must believe in yourself too.  You can do it..... and congratulations on taking the first step to healing with talking now keep moving forward!  #hugs

 

[DdDySL]

Oh dear, im sorry. 

If u have to cry do it , let these emotions get out of your body

For now it sucks I know that pain its sometimes difficult to handle but eventually you will find someone to trust completely.

Remember that you are important!

Now as advice try to do things that make you happy , that help a lot even if its difficult to do something right now.

A lot of hugs for you!

Everything will be ok again 

[Kittyara207]

See told u lots and lots of support here on this forum.  Doesn't matter who or what you are.   It's like Olive Garden 'When you're here you're family'!!!  But we are not family just a group of people that try to be understanding and supportive but still relatively weird and supportive.   We got your back.  Hugs

[PrimalScream67]

On 3/13/2024 at 7:51 AM, Little_sunshine said:

wow, im really really sorry this happened to you, nobody should ever go through that :// just know it wasnt your fault, you did everything you could and it’s not your fault if it didn’t work. 

 

[PrimalScream67]

🥺 Thanks. And I hope you find a way to heal as well and as you said to me...this wasn't your fault. He abandoned you. That was wrong to do without explaining himself. No matter how bad or trying or stressful things became in my situation the one thing I never did was abandon her. I came to a point that I had no choice but to  lay down hard rules and boundaries that were absolutely non negotiable which time and time again she chose to violate and in doing so it finally became so bad my rules and boundaries were transformed into ultimatums that she was given a choice to follow through with or walk away. That's what hurt me the most is that she threw away everything for drugs.

The pic attached was us in around 2015.

[Guest Little_sunshine]

6 hours ago, PrimalScream67 said:

🥺 Thanks. And I hope you find a way to heal as well and as you said to me...this wasn't your fault. He abandoned you. That was wrong to do without explaining himself. No matter how bad or trying or stressful things became in my situation the one thing I never did was abandon her. I came to a point that I had no choice but to  lay down hard rules and boundaries that were absolutely non negotiable which time and time again she chose to violate and in doing so it finally became so bad my rules and boundaries were transformed into ultimatums that she was given a choice to follow through with or walk away. That's what hurt me the most is that she threw away everything for drugs.

The pic attached was us in around 2015.

I’m really sorry she chose drugs over your relationship, you seem very kind and deserve way better. She’ll regret it someday but i wish you to heal 💗💗

[Pink Star Bubble Sky]

Hi fwend I'm really sorry that happened 😥💕 I feel for you especially because I suffer from anxiety and depression and it causes me to have really bad panic attacks. Having one after an argument IS NOT EASY. I can't believe he reacted that way💔 and that fake daddy from your previous relationship is really messed up too. 

It's really hard being someone who uses regressing as a coping mechanism because not everyone is accepting 😥

We're the same age and I've gone through my fair share of difficult times if you ever wanna vent or just need a new friend I'm here girly 💕💖🍼 

[bouncie]

Hi! I'm so sorry this happened to you. Can you message me privately? You said you'd been ghosted for 2 weeks on March 10. That is almost exactly the time my Daddy disappeared, and 2 weeks later I found out he had passed away. I posted about in on another DD/lg site and also found out he had been cheating on me. Could you share his name? I really hope it isn't the same person. :/

[Guest Amethyst_MoonDream218]

I'm extremely sorry that this happened to you. I've been ghosted before by Daddy Dom's and it devastated me each time it happened. Now I'm a lot more cautious when it comes to new relationships. Being ghosted is horrible and definitely leaves scars. In the meantime and I know it's hard, try to do something for yourself. Safe hugs. 💜