To the Caregivers out there

[Little kaiya]

I was reflect yesterday on my relationship with my Daddy/Boyfriend and how Cgl is part of not just our relationship but also our lives in general. It made me reflect further on how difficult it can be for Caregivers in this space.

Caregivers face challenges from often trying to deal with trauma their littles may have been through. Providing reassurance when their little feels they are too demanding or too broken to be loved. Facing misperceptions and accusations when so often all a good Caregiver wants is to love their little. Dealing with being used or ghosted. Often not getting the same support that every human being needs.

A lot of Caregivers face stresses that don't get talked about or littles assume Caregivers are or must always be strong.

So to all you Caregivers out there let me share with you what I see as so wonderful in all of you, yes my Daddy especially, that either take on thst role or are naturally Care givers at heart.

You are a light in the darkness.

You are a rock in a sea of emotional turmoil and a safety bar on a rollercoaster of confusion.

You provide a safe haven for littles to rest if even only for fleeting moments.

You provide assurances that letting go is safe.

You provide a mental meadow where carefree happiness and giddiness aren't just ok but are celebrated.

You are a gift that your little celebrates even if at times we don't know how to express it.

You are strong by showing honesty and vulnerability is not wrong.

You guide, you protect and you love deeply and without judgment.

You are treasured. You are loved. You are a Caregiver.

To littles with Caregivers, remember that when we offer vulnerability our Caregivers accept that gift like a fragile bubble and they guard it fiercely and with joy.

To the Caregivers, if you have a little hold them close tonight in a hug that feels like it should never end. If you don't have a little they are out there looking for you.

Not everyone is a Caregiver and should be one. To those who are know how much you are treasured not just as a Caregiver but also as a person.

To all, never settle. Find the Caregiver or little who deserves your heart who will protect yours as fiercely as you will protect theirs.

[DDCool]

What a beautiful post ♥️♥️♥️

[LittleOceans]

This past week, I've been deliberating on a post to remind Caregivers how valued and needed they are in a little's life. Intimate or platonic. Broad or generalized. Their caring, loving guidance in all aspects is cherished. I have been asking, "Why do caregivers choose to be a caregiver," it would be too much of a burden, IMO. I can barely deal with my list of problems and insecurities; there is no way I could carry someone else. The fact that they repeatedly try is a strength. 

"Being people is hard. You've got small heads, no tails: you lie to get what you want, like the Talon chief, back there." 

[FillYouWithMe]

As someone who has been used and abused in the role of Daddy / Caregiver, it definitely does take a lot of effort to get up and be that some days. We have dark times too, and I’ve been pushed away by partners for not being the strong one all the time. It sucks, but that’s a part of it for some people. It’s part of the reason why I avoided being submissive for most of my time in DD/lg, and strictly became a Daddy.

 

That being said, it’s an incredible feeling to be there for someone and to know they love you for being their safe place. Even some of my friends are sort of like my Littles these days, and it’s really an honor to be able to help people find peace in their minds and achieve their goals at the pace they can handle. The task at hand may be hard, but the fruits of our labor can’t be compared to anything else that I’ve ever experienced. It’s why I’m still here, even if who I am is still evolving to be who I want to be.

 

 

[IdkWhatImDoingLittle]

On 3/1/2024 at 10:32 AM, Little kaiya said:

I was reflect yesterday on my relationship with my Daddy/Boyfriend and how Cgl is part of not just our relationship but also our lives in general. It made me reflect further on how difficult it can be for Caregivers in this space.

Caregivers face challenges from often trying to deal with trauma their littles may have been through. Providing reassurance when their little feels they are too demanding or too broken to be loved. Facing misperceptions and accusations when so often all a good Caregiver wants is to love their little. Dealing with being used or ghosted. Often not getting the same support that every human being needs.

A lot of Caregivers face stresses that don't get talked about or littles assume Caregivers are or must always be strong.

So to all you Caregivers out there let me share with you what I see as so wonderful in all of you, yes my Daddy especially, that either take on thst role or are naturally Care givers at heart.

You are a light in the darkness.

You are a rock in a sea of emotional turmoil and a safety bar on a rollercoaster of confusion.

You provide a safe haven for littles to rest if even only for fleeting moments.

You provide assurances that letting go is safe.

You provide a mental meadow where carefree happiness and giddiness aren't just ok but are celebrated.

You are a gift that your little celebrates even if at times we don't know how to express it.

You are strong by showing honesty and vulnerability is not wrong.

You guide, you protect and you love deeply and without judgment.

You are treasured. You are loved. You are a Caregiver.

To littles with Caregivers, remember that when we offer vulnerability our Caregivers accept that gift like a fragile bubble and they guard it fiercely and with joy.

To the Caregivers, if you have a little hold them close tonight in a hug that feels like it should never end. If you don't have a little they are out there looking for you.

Not everyone is a Caregiver and should be one. To those who are know how much you are treasured not just as a Caregiver but also as a person.

To all, never settle. Find the Caregiver or little who deserves your heart who will protect yours as fiercely as you will protect theirs.

Beautifully said and so true! 🌸🤍

[chris23102310]

Wonderful topic and post. 

 

[DaddyDom3238]

Love that and appreciate it very much, having been in the lifestyle for a very long time. I recently had to step away because I was emotionally and physically drained because of a relationship I had been in with my little/sub and I am having a hard time stepping back into one.  The dynamic is extremely intense for both the Daddy and the little. The bond that is shared is like no other as I feel there is a misconception that the little is the one that is most vulnerable, I feel the Daddy is just as vulnerable as they have been given the gift of their little's trust, submission, love, and vulnerability. From a Daddy's perspective their is nothing greater, nothing scarier (at times), to be holding their littles, trust, safety, love, intimacy, and vulnerability in their heart, mind, and hands. 

Just a thought, don't know if others feel the same. Had to express that. 

[chris23102310]

5 minutes ago, DaddyDom3238 said:

Love that and appreciate it very much, having been in the lifestyle for a very long time. I recently had to step away because I was emotionally and physically drained because of a relationship I had been in with my little/sub and I am having a hard time stepping back into one.  The dynamic is extremely intense for both the Daddy and the little. The bond that is shared is like no other as I feel there is a misconception that the little is the one that is most vulnerable, I feel the Daddy is just as vulnerable as they have been given the gift of their little's trust, submission, love, and vulnerability. From a Daddy's perspective their is nothing greater, nothing scarier (at times), to be holding their littles, trust, safety, love, intimacy, and vulnerability in their heart, mind, and hands. 

Just a thought, don't know if others feel the same. Had to express that. 

Totally agree on that

[lilpincess]

What a beautiful post!

[Verbose Validator]

Thank you so much. Needed to see this in words more than I realized. Wonderfully put!

[Guest DaddyDoug]

On 3/1/2024 at 4:32 PM, Little kaiya said:

I was reflect yesterday on my relationship with my Daddy/Boyfriend and how Cgl is part of not just our relationship but also our lives in general. It made me reflect further on how difficult it can be for Caregivers in this space.

Caregivers face challenges from often trying to deal with trauma their littles may have been through. Providing reassurance when their little feels they are too demanding or too broken to be loved. Facing misperceptions and accusations when so often all a good Caregiver wants is to love their little. Dealing with being used or ghosted. Often not getting the same support that every human being needs.

A lot of Caregivers face stresses that don't get talked about or littles assume Caregivers are or must always be strong.

So to all you Caregivers out there let me share with you what I see as so wonderful in all of you, yes my Daddy especially, that either take on thst role or are naturally Care givers at heart.

You are a light in the darkness.

You are a rock in a sea of emotional turmoil and a safety bar on a rollercoaster of confusion.

You provide a safe haven for littles to rest if even only for fleeting moments.

You provide assurances that letting go is safe.

You provide a mental meadow where carefree happiness and giddiness aren't just ok but are celebrated.

You are a gift that your little celebrates even if at times we don't know how to express it.

You are strong by showing honesty and vulnerability is not wrong.

You guide, you protect and you love deeply and without judgment.

You are treasured. You are loved. You are a Caregiver.

To littles with Caregivers, remember that when we offer vulnerability our Caregivers accept that gift like a fragile bubble and they guard it fiercely and with joy.

To the Caregivers, if you have a little hold them close tonight in a hug that feels like it should never end. If you don't have a little they are out there looking for you.

Not everyone is a Caregiver and should be one. To those who are know how much you are treasured not just as a Caregiver but also as a person.

To all, never settle. Find the Caregiver or little who deserves your heart who will protect yours as fiercely as you will protect theirs.

Thanks this is lovely. Sometimes it is hard to get the balance but if we as Daddy's can make you feel loved and free to let go as you say then that's lovely! Excellent post thanks for sharing g!

[antoRCB]

What a heartfelt and beautifully written post! 💖 As a little, I can’t help but feel so grateful for the love and support that Caregivers provide. It’s true sometimes we forget that they have their own struggles, too. They offer us safety, comfort, and unconditional love, all while carrying their own emotional burdens. 💕

To all the Caregivers out there, you are cherished more than words can say. You create a space where we can feel vulnerable and safe, and that is a gift beyond measure. 💫 Hold your little close tonight, and know you are deeply appreciated. 🥰