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[babycritter]

i personally am on the asexual spectrum and struggle with voicing that to partners, whats the best way? i enjoy the idea of a caring relationship with a parental like partner, but i struggle with the sexual aspect its makes me so anxious and im scared of disappointing!!

i just want to be accepted and cared for  

[Little kaiya]

The best thing is to be open, honest and confident in what you want. If you approach it hesitantly it may cause the other person to wonder why you are hesitant.

[Cinnamon Bear]

Honesty Is the best thing for anything. I think you'd be able to find a relationship that doesn't Involve sexual things, some people / relationships work perfectly fine without It and a lot of people just want care and affection.

[DDCool]

15 hours ago, babycritter said:

i personally am on the asexual spectrum and struggle with voicing that to partners, whats the best way? i enjoy the idea of a caring relationship with a parental like partner, but i struggle with the sexual aspect its makes me so anxious and im scared of disappointing!!

i just want to be accepted and cared for  

To be accepted and cared for as you say are the most basic requirements of any relationship. 

Communication, honesty, trust, they are the backbone and with them it should give you the confidence to be free and be yourself. Being able to love and be loved is surely the greatest thing. The fear of disappointment lurks in all of us, self confidence , etc, etc but its a natural barrier that we bring up to defend ourselves. You or anyone else for that matter should never feel like you need to be or do this or that, sexual or otherwise. Just be you.

We are only here once, let's all try to have the confidence to be ourselves, love, laugh, live how we want to. 

I have went a bit off on one, not quite sure how to finish to be honest so whilst I type this and think how to do it, nope, had to concentrate on typing.............I know, an emoji will do it for me........hang on.....♥️

 

[KhariKub]

I definitely understand the struggle as I am grey-ace but I would definitely suggest being open and honest with your partner(s) and establishing very clear boundaries and goals you want from your dynamic. You are completely valid in how you identify and how you choose to engage in your dynamic