advice? Relationship advice from a kink-friendly perspective

[Anonymous Bean]

Hi anyone reading, 

I specifically joined the ddlgforum to ask for advice from people the most likely to have the best insider knowledge, and best equipped to answer honestly whilst being well informed. 

The issue I'm facing is I'm in a several year long relationship with a man I love dearly however he's not all too interested in ddlg (a massively important part of my life) however, in every other way we get on great and are on the same page. 

He knows about my little self and is even 'into' ddlg and being a Daddy except he never initiates anything or entertains my regressed self when I do manage to get into my headspace without any external help. 

I personally have tried to teach him and communicate my needs but he always assures me he understands and will do better but then nothing changes. I love him but I feel like I'm neglecting a huge part of myself and that it's become a seriously unmet need that's demanding I make some sort of change. 

Does anybody have some suggestions or advice regarding what they think I should do? 

I appreciate the time you've taken to read this and any replies you have! 

[DaddyUmbreon]

Firstly, I want to commend you for reaching out and seeking advice in a space where you feel understood and supported. It's clear that your relationship holds a lot of love and connection, but it's also important to acknowledge and honor your own needs, especially when it comes to something as integral to your identity in DDlg.

Communication is key in any relationship, and it's encouraging that you've been open with your partner about your desires and needs. However, it sounds like there may be a disconnect between understanding and action on his part. It's understandable to feel frustrated and neglected when your needs aren't being met despite your efforts to communicate them.

In situations like this, it might be helpful to have a candid conversation with your partner, expressing your feelings and concerns in a non-confrontational way. Let him know how much DDlg means to you and how it impacts your sense of fulfillment and happiness. Ask him if there are any barriers or hesitations he may have in fully embracing this aspect of your relationship, and explore potential compromises or solutions together.

At the same time, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness. If you find that despite your efforts, your needs continue to go unmet and it's taking a toll on your emotional health, it may be worth considering if this relationship is truly fulfilling for you in the long term. Sometimes, despite how much we love someone, things can drift apart or disconnect in some senses. 

Remember, you deserve to be with someone who not only loves you deeply but also respects and supports all facets of who you are. Trust your instincts and prioritize your own happiness as you navigate this situation. You're not alone. There have been others to go through similar things and have posted it. Hopefully, they chime in. No matter what side of the dynamic you are on, it comes down to what you can or can’t live without more and keeps you as whole and as happy as possible. 

[Anonymous Bean]

Thank you DaddyUmbreon so much for everything you've said. I guess it's up to me to work out where I stand and as you said, decide what I can't stand to live without more. 

[Cebakes]

This is something I wrestle with as I’m chatting, meeting, and dating women on different online sites.  It is challenging meeting others involved in a DDLG kink/lifestyle.  The numbers I've seen in the Philly area feel surprisingly low compared to other kinks and lifestyles. 

My last middle met a guy who she is in love with.  He is dominant, but not a daddy and it leaves a massive hole in her heart and life.  

[Pink Star Bubble Sky]

Hi there bean 💓 I totally understand what you wrote in your post, my daddy and I have been together for years and it was never really labeled as a DDLG relationship hes just really accepting and understanding just like your guy seems to be which is a beautiful thing because not a lot of people even understand it let alone accept and wanna be a part of it. 

Give him some time and keep encouraging him to initiate things with you, while still respecting his boundaries of course. But it seems like he really loves you for you so I'm sure with time he will come around. 

In the mean time don't neglect your little side keep being your best little self 🩷🍼🧸 and you're not alone. Little space is how I express myself, cope with stresses, and this is how I feel the most me so I totally feel you when you say it's a big part of your life you can't just ignore. 

Reach out to like minded people to feel less alone. And if you need more little fwends I'm not mean at all you can always inbox me 🩷

[LittleRopeBunBun21]

As of a month ago i finally told my daddy that im a little at heart as well as a pet. yes i like the kinky side of it but i love just doing our day to day as a little\pet. its hard opening up about it but if he truly loves you he will really try as mine has. find things in your kink that he could enjoy. my daddy already liked that nickname and was already into "claiming" me and even using collars on me. the kinks are easier to explain then the mental aspect of it unfortunately. but he needs to be a good listener for yall to work. its hard but a relationship is about being 100% yourself and him loving all 100% of you.