vanilla relationships + ageplay

[starlie]

i was scrolling through tiktok and i came across this: 

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8GDSoxt/

to me, it seems like this couple is engaging in some form of soft age-play right? i just think it’s interesting the things that vanilla people will accept as okay and not okay. because a lot of people in the comments expressed their desire to be given this type of treatment.  but i feel, if he was wearing more cutesy clothes and the video had different tags (like cg/l or age play) people would shame it a lot more. 
 

let me know what you guys think of this! is this some form of age play or regression, even if it’s not explicitly stated? what are your thoughts?

[Little kaiya]

For me it doesn't come across as ageplay, more subservience.

[CodeName: Trouble]

When it comes to age-play I think it's really about intent. In my opinion, age-play isn't something you do 'accidently' even if you don't happen to know the word for it at the time. If you aren't in a roleplay/dynamic with another consenting adult and intentionally treating them as a different age, not just in a caring or vulnerable way, then it's not age-play. Again, this is just my opinion and of course everyone's definition may be a bit different, but however you choose to define it and identify I think it really does come down to the intent behind the behavior.

It's very normal for people in healthy loving relationships to be vulnerable and silly together and desire to care for one another - the best relationships are the ones that allow us to explore a tenderness that many of us knew, or wish to have known, as children. Newlyweds will feed each other cake at weddings, lovers will speak in soft voices with lots of cutesy nicknames and teddy bears are a favorite gift for all ages on valentines day. I see these all as tender moments, not acts of age-play.

The only people who can really know for sure if this is a form of age-play or not are the people involved. Like Kaiya mentioned, this could be leaning more towards a subservient act, or it might just be something silly they wanted to do for a tiktok. 

Our community may view this initially through the lens of a caregiver feeding their little, but a more D/S heavy group may see a submissive feeding their master, while yet another group may see something completely different.

🤔 We will never truly know what their intent is, or how the people in the comments are choosing to view it. Because they left the details ambiguous people are able to project whatever they want onto it and that's probably why the comments aren't overwhelmingly negative - no clear line was drawn and it's innocent enough. The only tags are #relatable and #life and those aren't very exclusive lol. I think labels scare allot of people and can cause them to draw false conclusions when they are misinformed or under educated on certain issues....

Edited January 25, 2024 by CodeName: Trouble