Incorporating BDSM?

[plumplilprincess]

So I recently discovered I was a little while researching types of Doms and subs. It's amazing and I love it, but I sorta feel like we don't incorporate the whole D/s thing into it very much. How do you guys and your Daddy's incorporate it into your relationships?

[caithes]

First, welcome to the forum and the community.

 

Every dd/lg type relationship is different. There is no one correct way to do it, and that also includes the D/s dynamic. Without going into a lot of details, my kitten and I are not into D/s so much. There is that element, but only in regards to her being a little and deferring to me, as a big, to make decisions and help her like I would a "real" little. We are finding this works best for us, at least for the time being. If there's a need for it in the future, we can always discuss it and try things differently.

 

The important part is to do what is comfortable for you and your partner. Discuss, communicate, and understand. If you don't want to include D/s stuff, or anything else, then don't.  

[Guest Bear]

Communication, my dear Watson!
I know, it's easier said than done, but that's the way to go.

From my understanding you're the little(sub) and you have a Daddy(Dom, I assume). 
Now all you gotta do is find ways for the both of you to enjoy being dominated and dominating like:
Rules, treats, punishments etc etc. This can pretty easily be transitioned into the bedroom with some imagination, but It can also be a huge foreplay that you do throughout the day if you enjoy the sexual side of it.


Keep it healthy and communicate! 

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

We just do. That might not be very helpful lol, but it's as simple as that. We are dd/lg, we are Dom/sub, we are master/possession. We are all those things equally. It's seamless and natural to us.

[swans]

BDSM and D/s are distinct things, though they share some things in common and many people who practice one also practice the other.  In my opinion, DD/lg is undeniably a D/s dynamic. After all, one of the D's in DD/lg is "Dom", so I don't know how you can get around having some kind of Dom/sub dynamic in a true DD/lg relationship.

 

As for BDSM, which is usually defined as Bondage, Discipline, Sadomasochism: I think most DD/lg relationships incorporate some form of discipline at the very least, but I suppose that you don't necessarily have to. It depends on how you define discipline and how a couple decides the Daddy Dom/little girl dynamic is going to work for them. How can you be a daddy without providing discipline? Personally, I'm not sure how that's possible, but maybe some couples find a way.

 

You can definitely have a DD/lg relationship without incorporating bondage or sadomasochism. There's nothing about a DD/lg that requires restraints or pain. I do think the D/s dynamic is inseparable from DD/lg, though. How that D/s dynamic works will differ for each couple.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

I don't take bdsm as a literal thing. We don't use whips and chains. I use it in a broader sense. As in he is my Dominant and my master, which puts it under the bdsm umbrella.

[Sailordaddy]

Just before I met my little I stumbled upon DDlg quite by accident and it intrigued and stirred me. I was directed by the lovely people here to fetlife. After poking around there i identified as a sensual Dom as well. When I met my sub she was clearly both sub with a lot of kink and lg. It was a bit awkward at first as we considered them two seperate things. But the reality is we melded together without out thought very well after a few weeks. I suggest a blog called 'Thedominantsoul' on Wordpress. Sensual Domination fits easily into the dynamic i feel although spankings are a terrible punishment choice as she likes them way too much. She does really hate writing lines though. This is a very comprehensive resource and a very intimate form of D/s.