When Daddy is too stressed to care for you?

[kitten monster]

Daddy and I are in a LDR and are going through a lot in our individual lives. He's having intense family issues and I'm having troubles with my severe depression. Lately I've been unable to rely on him for support, because when I tell him things like I've harmed myself or am having suicidal thoughts he freaks out a bit, gets, angry, and ends up becoming distant and ignoring me because he doesn't know how to deal with it.

Obviously this makes things worse for me because I feel like I'm a burden.

 

I know he loves me a lot, and most of the time he's a great Daddy, he just sometimes doesn't know what to do about my depression.

Last night it got so bad, and I ended up going into little space for the very first time by myself (I usually only can do it when I'm talking to him) and just sort of pretended that Daddy was really busy at work and that's why he couldn't talk to me. That's the only way I managed to cope.

 

Are there other ways to cope? Does anyone else have this issue with their Daddy/caregiver?

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

I kniw he's the daddy, but it's meant to go both ways. Have you shown him support or tried helping him through his problems, or have you just expected him to deal with yours?

Depression of a partner is hard enough to deal with without family issues on top of that. You need more specific help. He can't be your counsellor.

Hope that doesn't sound harsh, just trying to put it plainly.

[caithes]

If you are having depression and suicidal thoughts, you should talk to someone that is trained to help you. While a daddy can be a help, sometimes they aren't enough. You should look into talking with a counselor or therapist if you are getting to the point that you are harming yourself or thinking dark thoughts.

[mermaidgrrl]

Superbighugs that's scary stuff and it sucks to feel alone when you are facing stuff like that.

 

I think sometimes when Daddies are breaking down they do it more quiet and it's harder to know what to do. And sometimes when we are prone to turn on ourselves when left alone - it can get pretty dark. But you came here and reached out and that's good! And it can be fun to be little even without a Daddy around. It's good to get more support to deal with scary things - it is the best thing for you and also will help your Daddy take the best care of you too which if he's a good Daddy he will want.

[kitten monster]

Sorry I didn't respond sooner guys, thanks for all the feedback. And you all are right, I was putting too much pressure on him and not taking his feelings into consideration.

[mermaidgrrl]

Hey you! You feeling any better kiddo? Nudgenudgenudge. I hope you aren't beating yourself up because that won't help either. You doing good things for yourself over there? Taking steps to get more support?

[kitten monster]

Hey you! You feeling any better kiddo? Nudgenudgenudge. I hope you aren't beating yourself up because that won't help either. You doing good things for yourself over there? Taking steps to get more support?

Aww thanks for checking in :3

I'm doing OK, unfortunately my therapist just retired but I'm looking for a new one and things are looking up with Daddy

[mermaidgrrl]

I had a therapist retire once and that blew chunks!! I'm glad things are going better with your Daddy!! Yay! I hope your new therapist is totally rad. <3 glad you're hanging in there.