Newbie Daddy question on LittleSpace and sex

[DaddyDC]

I've been a dom for a while and recently started a romantic and sexual relationship with a sub. She has expressed a strong interest in DD/lg (she's never tried it before however), and we plan to set up regular times for LitleSpace in the future. Her Little Age is 10.

I'm an empathetic dom and always quickly learn what my partner needs emotionally, physically, and mentally then give them what they need to thrive.

So I'm super open to LittleSpace and making it exactly what she needs with all the activities, nurturing, fun, and care, etc.

Since I'm new to DD/lg however, there is one huge question I have that I can't seem to find many good answers on so I would really appreciate some feedback.

My question is...

Is it common to engage in sexual actives during active LittleSpace time?

I'm fine with ageplay in general but the thought of sex during active LittleSpace to me seems like it might not be a good idea - I don't know.

If my parter wanted this, I might be open to it if she needs it. But if in general, if active LittleSpace is not the time for this then I would want to discourage her on this.

Thank you so much for any responses! 

[Little kaiya]

It 110% depends on the little. Some are completely non-sexual in littlespace and others are VERY sexual. One is not right and one is not wrong, it's all about the individual.

Personally my Daddy and I are very sexual whether both not in littlespace and while in littlespace.

Some people may try and shame people being sexual in littlespace but that's their opinion, not a factual thing or a community standard.

Talk to your little and set your own way forward together.

[Cebakes]

Everyone is different, so all that matters is what the two of you want.  My last middle and I are highly sexual and we never really had sex while she was in little space. Littlespace never really happened in the bedroom, always in my family room. It involved lots of laughter, leg rubs, head pats, silliness, goofiness, feeling safe, protected, and carefree. I would recommend not putting too much pressure to try to get her into littlespace.  Just let it happen. It will be easier and easier as you get to know each other.

Edited December 25, 2023 by Cebakes

[Cheese]

Some great answers here already. I would personally suggest trying the ddlg dynamic outside of sex for now. Since it's new to both of you, I think it would be helpful to first try things out and see what works for both of you without having to add the element of sex. Once you two are more comfortable and develop what works, feel free to add to it. I think taking small steps works best and remember it's a process! 

[DaddyDC]

This is all super helpful. Thank you all, I really appreciate the advice!

[blingsing]

We do, it's very sexual for us

[DaddysMonkey]

On 12/25/2023 at 1:39 PM, Little kaiya said:

It 110% depends on the little. Some are completely non-sexual in littlespace and others are VERY sexual. One is not right and one is not wrong, it's all about the individual.

Personally my Daddy and I are very sexual whether both not in littlespace and while in littlespace.

Some people may try and shame people being sexual in littlespace but that's their opinion, not a factual thing or a community standard.

Talk to your little and set your own way forward together.

I would like to 1,000,000% agree with Kaiya. Everyone is going to have one of two answers : Yes, or No. There is no right or wrong answer.

It is very often that people in this community will preach acceptance from the rooftops , but the moment someone says they are sexual in their little space with their partner - they are outcast and treated like perverts and lepers. I am not sure why but this sentiment in particular strikes me in an uncomfortable way. I do not like the idea of members of this community , which at its core is under the BDSM umbrella - being shamed away for being consenting adults with their partner and doing what makes them feel fulfilled and happy. 
 

I am proudly sexual in my little space / headspace. While I might not ALWAYS be sexual - I find it extremely satisfying and it is something that I gain the most pleasure from during my sexual experiences. It is something that is extremely special - to be sexual in that headspace - and something that happens organically for me. 

Let your partner be themselves - don't put pressure on anything or specific scenarios - be honest about what you are morally and mentally comfortable with , and most of all - DO NOT RUSH IT. 
 

It also sounds like you need to ask yourself some questions too … I don’t mind asking them for you : 

What about it sounds like it might not be a good idea to you ?

Are you afraid of feeling like you would be taking advantage of an innocent moment ?

Are you nervous it might make you feel like you are doing something wrong ?

Is it something you find sexually attractive or something you would be doing to appease your partner ? 

I wish you and your partner the best of luck. 

[DaddyDC]

Thank you so much for the incredible advice! We plan to discuss this fully, determine if either of us has any boundaries here, and experiment.

[DaddyMarin]

Being open and honest to yourself asking these questions is in my opinion a very wise and good thing, but discus it together with your partner/sub/ little is even better as long as your partner/sub/little is consent I don't see a problem, for you and your partner/sub/little. Communication/safety/trust is always key take one out and you know things aren't ok,.at least in my book