Feeling Like I'll Never Find A Daddy

[tinytiger20]

I download, the kink dating apps, go on FetLife, go on Reddit, just started on here. I'm in an abusive situationship with an ex that I'm exiting and trying so hard to find a daddy but it feels nearly impossible. All the people online are gross or fake doms or have bad intentions and red flags all over the place. I get so discouraged that I stop the search and then don't return to it for months. My heart is hurting so bad. I just need someone to love me. I'm tired of being alone. I have a lot to give, why doesn't anybody see that? 😿💔😿

[Little kaiya]

Finding the right person isn't easy before mixing in DDlg and does get more difficult but it does happen. I didn't find my Daddy until I was 39 but now we've been together over 6 years.

[Yoshi_Yoshi]

I know that finding a daddy can seem like the be all end all, but love can manifest in lots of ways. For me when I’m confronted with loneliness I seek out my friends. Not in venting sort of sense but to hang out and talk. Exploring Plotonic love has done wonders for me in the past. 

It sounds like your in complicated situation, im glad your leaving a toxic situation. I think now would be a good time to take a break. I don’t know your situation so forgive me if I’m overstepping but If you are leaving an abusive situation I don’t think it’s best to get into a relationship. Your emotions need to rest, surround yourself with what makes you happy, friends, family, stuffies. Allow yourself to heal, you spent your whole life without a daddy you’ve been happy before without one, and you will continue to find happiness whether or not you find a daddy. but please just because things haven’t been working don’t think your doomed to be alone.

 I just got out a relationship with someone who I sure I would exsplore the dynamic with. And like you the idea of going out there makes me queasy from the prospect of going through the whole thing just for it blow up in my face again. BUT the world is full of people like us who believe in love and we have a lifetime to find our match. Tons of people have this kink and there is new people looking for companionship within the dynamic everyday. Your future daddy probably hasn’t written a personal yet. Just be patient and be kind to yourself ❤️

Edited December 22, 2023 by Yoshi_Yoshi

[Quirky]

4 hours ago, gigisweetheart said:

I’m sorry the search is hurting so much and that you’re feeling hopeless. It’s a tough world to navigate. I probably won’t find a daddy but it’s oddly getting easier to let the dream go now. It’s too exhausting to be lonely and to search, lol. 

This one rang for me. I just wanted to say I understand. Fantasy and self rules helped me but it's still hard, partnered or not. Have you tried just talking to Dream Daddy and pretending? Sometimes I meet my needs better when I self regulate that way. On the flip, what helps you? I always think being healthy attracts better humans (sexual and non-sexual partners) and agree, time makes it easier but open need? I try so hard to find healthy alternatives. Share any of yours of course only if comfortable. Otherwise just a little tilt towards our topic starter and you too because hard is hard. Ty for sharing already!

[Cebakes]

It does take time.  I’ve been looking for a little or middle in the Philadelphia area on and off for several years.  In my search, I’ve met nice vanilla, kinky, and submissive  women, but not the right one for a DDLG relationship.  You need to remain confident that you will meet the right daddy.  If you live near large city, FEELD is a pretty good app.   I like the environment and vibe of the app. 

[beanbean]

It's hard finding the right one for sure but maybe re then anything you need patience and remember not to settle then if it happens it happens and hopefully it does 

[Lizzie79]

I feel I am missing a big part of my life but not having a daddy. I do have an amazing BFF that has introduced me to another little that has one and we are now planning play dates. And my BFF is a dom, so he has been able to be a good uncle for me when I am feeling little. Though he loves me too much to scold me he does help me process my sad feelings. And his boyfriend is new to this but willing to learn, so I am thankful I have that support until I find my forever daddy

[Lonewolf58]

as a 58-year-old daddy, my heart really went out to you when I read this. I can’t imagine the kind of longing and pain you must feel in your search. The only real advice I can give you is to never give up. Your daddy’s out there and he’s waiting for you. he just knows that you’re looking for him and he’s looking for you. And you will find each other. Believe in the magic of daddies and Littles. You will find each other. So remember to smile and giggle and have fun in life when you can. So when you meet your daddy, you can tell him about all the cool things you’ve done.  and you can tell him all the cool things you want to do together. And you and your daddy will live happily ever after. 

[lil_rosybaby]

I’ve been looking for a daddy and I just ended up finding that they wanna rush into a relationship and do bare minimum of Vetting and the DD who helped me figure out that I’m a little wasn’t able to provide the right kind of support for me and hasn’t being a good Daddy. So I remember that he wasn’t a good daddy and I am very happy for that because now I won’t just jump into a relationship with just anybody. Vetting people even if they are just potential for friendship plus I would prefer to build a good friendship before going into a relationship with someone who could be a daddy is way better in the end. It’s a hard and lonely road but it’s better than being with someone who isn’t a good match you or they are abusive. 

[DDCool]

Some sad and equally heartwarming comments here. For the op, as is said noone should ever be stuck in an abusive relationship. This is something I can say hand on heart I have never experienced first hand but sadly have had to help friends and family and is heartbreaking. You do what is right for you but heal from any wounds and move on to much better things. There are all kinds of people on this earth, but rest assured there are plenty of beautiful people out there. Hope you can find happiness 😊😊

[Guest takemetothemountains]

I know it sounds silly and a bit lunatic-y, but the right Daddy will come! Usually at a time you are least expecting it. Just keep being hopeful and ready and I promise you someday (hopefully soon) the most wonderful and perfect Daddy will come along. Also- the 'Doms' or 'Daddies' that are red flags and negative energy and are in this for wrong reasons, let them be. Theyre not worth your kindness and energy. Keep staying strong💕

My heart goes out to you! 

[phoenixpixie]

When I get stuck in that line of thinking, I rock out to Whitney Houston (or the Chvrches cover) "It's Not Right but Its Ok." The lyrics "I'd rather be alone than unhappy" are the perfect tagline for the situation because it's true-- I don't want to be stuck in a relationship with someone abusive or even with someone perfectly nice but just not the right person for me.  It took me a long time to reach the point of realization that maybe I won't find the right person-- and that's okay. I'm okay just being me and am happier with myself than I would be forcing myself into a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship. I hope you find the same kind of peace and self-love because you are worthy of all the love in the world 💕

[Softie.Sleepy]

you will find one when the time is right! hang in there