littlespace Losing your little space

[gothix.baby]

Hi!

so I'm not entirely sure if this is the right place to do this but nowhere else has been much help, if there's somewhere better to be asking this feel free to direct me that way! ❤️

I was wandering what some things people here did if they've lost their little space, or have had a period of time where they have really struggled to get into it, since I've been battling it for a few weeks now with consistent struggle even around my CG. 

I already do the recommended stuff. 

• use pacis 
• do little things 
  • colour, watch cartoons, listen to music that makes me small etc. 
• speak to my daddy and have time with him
  • videocalls etc. 
  • he uses "baby voice" and calls me ALL the baby nicknames. 

I'm looking into getting a Sippy cup or something similar, but I'm only willing to go so far with my little space, i.e. me and my daddy aren't all that interested in bringing diapers into the space. But all of the above wont seem to shift my little space to come out. 

any suggestions/ help? 

 

edit: Thanks for the suggestions! ive managed to get it back a little bit! 

Edited December 12, 2023 by gothix.baby

[DiscreetNinja]

Hmmmm

Well, depending on how long you've been out of littlespace, you could try staying out of littlespace for a while?

Sometimes I think I just need a little break from it and then it'll come back to me naturally.

Don't chase after your little self, they might just be hiding away for a little while 🙈

 

Reading littlespace posts(the relatable ones on Tumblr or Pinterest usually, but also on the forum) and talking to people in littlespace also tends to help me❤️

 

Also, think about possible things that may be blocking you from entering littlespace. Are you overstressed? Overtired? Are there too many thoughts in your head? Are u feeling uncomfortable or unsafe in any parts of your life? Are you feeling really sad?

Maybe you need to be gently coaxed into a nap, not necessarily by your daddy using a baby voice, just by your daddy being gentle and loving to you enough for you to feel relaxed and safe and comfortable enough to fall asleep, and then perhaps you'll wake up in littlespace. Sometimes you just need to be reminded that it's safe to be little so that your little self can come out on their own terms🌸

Sometimes bad experiences that may have occured close to or during our time in little space affects us, and we don't even realize it❤️

I do recommend listening to asmr or "you are safe" affirmations (I love Jessica Heslop, her voice is very soothing in my opinion) or some music for relaxation as those might help too, if this is the case.

 

If there's certain emotions that triggers your littlespace(I tend to slip into littlespace when I'm anxious, sad or extremely excited) then try to figure out if you've been feeling those emotions recently or if they've been blocked by something. Don't try to force emotions though. 

 

If your little self was recently upset or sad about something, that might also be a cause. If your little self might have felt denied of something it might have made your little self too upset to come out again.

 

Other things I do when my little self feels like she's fading away: try to be more adultish/matureish(sometimes doing the opposite works), listen to comforting asmr povs, think about things that might be draining my littlespace energy(tiktok is an example of a social media platform that can quickly drain a person's energy) and cut them out, do crafts as my big self because I still like doing crafts no matter what, talk to myself because sometimes it helps and out of nowhere I'll slip into littlespace, make a list of words I love to use when I'm little(wiggle is always at the top of the list, it sounds so funny and cute), do half-little half-big things like reading a comic book(my little self loves picture books and my big self loves manga and manhuas and novels, so funny comics like Garfield that aren't too hard to read, that my little self would love but wont necessarily be able to read, is kind of appeasing to both sides of me) and cuddle things(stuffies, pillows, trees, etc) because its comfortable, releases stress and might make you feel better❤️🌸

 

Last but not least, don't worry too much about not being able to be little, don't force anything and take care of yourself❤️

You are perfect just the way you are, little or big❤️

Good luck with your adventure little one and don't lose hope❤️

-Princess K

[Littlebabyxo]

I struggle to get into little space a lot. But I know it will always come back to me and be there somewhere. 

I have noticed that searching through clothes online that I can wear in little space and ordering them helps me. Even if it’s just a few bits, it makes me feel like I have something to look forward to and gets me in that space.  

Also cuddling my Teddy and drawing random pictures for daddy. 
 

my issue is that I don’t seem to stay in little space for long, which is annoying when I am actually with daddy (we see eachother once a month due to ldr) 

 

❤️