Trouble getting into little space

[Princessjessie_]

Hello everyone, I'm a newbie on this but I just want to get some advice really :3 me and my daddy have been in ddlg for a few weeks now and so far we are really enjoying it and everything is going great... But sometimes I struggle to bring out my little.. When she's out I'm like in full on little space but there's been so many distractions... I was just wondering if any littles have any advice on how to help me bring her out more often... Also my daddy struggles with adapting to my little side and doesn't treat me much like a little but more a grown up and I was also wondering if you have any advice on how to bring out that inner daddy..:3 we both really enjoying and it's all both new to us but I'd really like for it to work out:3 thank you very much :3

[A Bookish Baby]

Hey! I feel your struggle. When Daddy and I first got together into DD/lg it was kinda a touchy thing both of us just dabbled in and called it good. My advice is to ask him to take you on a little related date. My personal favorite is going to a large park or toy store. From personal experience, having Daddy push me in a swing and me squealing higher then inevitably having daddy fix my ouchie I always get from jumping out the swing puts us both in our Daddy and Little spaces. Or even building a pillow fort and taking turns telling silly short stories about your stuffies and things like that. or perhaps if your daddy is more of a frank and blunt fellow just tell him "Hey Daddy I love how our DD/lg relationship is going. I feel like it would really help it grow though if you treated me like a actual five (six, seven, how ever old you feel) year old, because I'm not a big girl." I'm sorry my thoughts are really scattered!

[Whispering-oak]

sometimes daddies have trouble relating to a little... sometimes it is because they haven't experienced having children of their own .... as for an older Daddy sometimes when they get a young adult/little who is young in little age *i classify this as under eight years old* they are afraid of being to strict or Stearn with them and the possibility of loosing them ... like any relationship you have to talk together.... some of those talks are grown up to grown up and some need to be little to Daddy.... both relationships will require work and take time to build... when you have a bad day talk to other littles in the chat room ... or other Daddies and perhaps they can enlighten or explain their thoughts on the subject.. don't give up ,... like any relationship there will be good days and bad days... then you will live for the days that are heaven and couldn't get any better... and just remember you have twice the relationship of most women...

IMHO,

whisperingoak

John

[Your Princess]

I am in the same situation, Daddy and I enjoy the dynamic but I do more than him I think. He isn't naturally dominant unless hes angry and finds it hard to punish me when I really want it lol, hes scared to hurt me and doesn't look after me after sex sometimes I want to be treated like his little girl

[daddyslittlefrenchprincess]

I'm in the same boat. I've pretty much given up even calling my daddy "daddy". I'm very sad and don't even go into my little space when I'm alone lately. It's true my daddy is new to this but he hasn't explored, so far, the resources I've given him, even though he asked me for them. I don't think he really wants to.

[Guest Mr TwitchPool]

For you, i think its important you make time for your little, with and without daddy.  Try colouring in a book or watching some disney films with your fav stuffie.  Their are plenty of things you can do and try.

 

I disagree with whispering oaks statement of not having children,  I believe people can be caring and nurturing by nature some people take to it naturally others its a struggle. I dont think you can make someone a daddy or mommy, I believe its a lifestyle and part of that person.  You wanting to play as a little is as natural as me wanting to care and cherish for said little.

 

If your daddy is just struggling to be a big to your little it may just e a confidence thing.  Maybe if you sit and write out rules together for when youre in little space. 1, no swearing, 2.not to much candy 3.bath time. 4 set bed time, It may help bring him some structure and bring our this inner daddy you see.

 

Good luck and thank you for sharing.

[Princess-P]

I want to chip in and add that you need to be comfortable in your little space on your own before you can expect your partner to bring it out in you. Nurture yourself, learn what makes you little and explore that.

 

Once your comfortable with yourself you can have a adult conversation about what you need them to do to help you slip into little space with them. If your partner is not receptive to that conversation or brushes or off or doesn't take interest then you will have to accept that they may not be that into the lifestyle. You can't convert people. It comes naturally. And if someone is only interested in the sex aspect but no aftercare, like one post I saw here, then they are not being a caregiver.

[Little Kitten Princess]

What gets you into your little space?! ^-^

For me sometimes it's as easy as getting a message from daddy sometimes I need my paci and blankie and stuffie to really get me into little space. And then there are the things that push me out of little space like getting a sudden random call from my mother -.- when I see someone trying to flirt with my daddy that pushes me right out and then it's time for BIG GIRL WORDS.

 

So wat about you littles? ^___^

[Guest DaddysLolita]

Sometimes a message, sometimes a stuffie, coloring, or doing a craft.

 

Stress pulls me out or if I'm upset, an unexpected call or visitor.

[Little Kitten Princess]

Being around other littles is a great way and almost always gets me into little space!!!! Sippies are one of my favorite ways to relax and watch cartoons with daddy, sippies stuffies and sockie

[Little Kitten Princess]

And then there's being around new people, (unless they're also littles: ex; the chat room!) which pushes me out of little space. Sometimes being upset pushes me into little space!!! Because then I knows daddy will make it better. Oh being told to grow up by people that pushes me out of little space and makes me angry.

[LB Chris]

One that that does is if I'm 'playing' chatting away with some who starts dumping a heavy load of serious adult stuff on me, particularly if it's something that for real life reasons I can't understand well or process. On the other hand there's a littles chat  I join for a few hours where I soon start regressing, finding my childs voice is doing the talking.

[Guest Little_Miss]

Sometimes just seeing cute things or being called cute names can do it or feeling too overwhelmed. :3

 

If someone says something sexual when I'm feeling little and not sexual at all it can be really jarring and pull me out of little space.

[Guest spicaterrible]

It's a little hard to get into little space because I'm always surrounded by other people (i live in a college dorm and i go home to my parent's house; I'm almost never alone to explore these things). BUT, seeing really cute things and getting called pet names can make me feel really little ^^

 

I get pushed out pretty easily w/ stuff like my parents calling me or getting reminded all of my schookwork :/

[creepycutie805]

It's easy for me to get into little space.

 

But parents, work, or talk about politics will get me out of it.

[NotsoSweetSub]

Heya guys!

 

SO I have an issue with getting into little space. It used to be super easy all i would have to really do is look at tumblr and id hop right in... But lately i cant seem to get into little space at all and its super stressful.... I dont know if its because my current boyfriend often makes me feel accidentally uncomfortable about being a little because he doesnt know how to handle it or what it is.....

 

Do you guys have any suggestions to help me get into little space and stay in it?

 

Thank you guys!!!

[Lilly_ann]

I would suggest maybe trying to do something you love while being little lay on the floor and color dress up or if you just want to stay in little space while you sleep cuddle with a tedy bear this is how I get and stay in little space

[FitPapaBear]

I'd suggest clearing your mind or making sure you've done the "big girl" stuff before you try going to your little space as it can sub conciously burden you even if you chose to disregard it.

[Guest DaddysLolita]

Sometimes if I'm stressed out or upset I can't get into little space. 

 

Coloring, playing with stickers, cuddling a stuffie or watching cartoons will put me into little space. 

 

Staying in it can be a little tricky, I'm not sure what works for other people but if there's to many distractions (to many people around me, unexpected visitors or my phone goes off) I'll slip right out. I usually end up watching My Little Pony on Netflix in a separate space and that keeps me in.

 

Are you trying to get in while he's around?

 

<3

[fatyknowsnothing]

Seems you and your boyfriend need to talk about this first about how he's gonna handle your little side and how to make you feel comfortable with yourself with or without your boyfriend were around.

I suggest to play outside, like going to an amusement park or karaoke or going with your friends to release your stress first. Clear mind will help to a better judgement.

 

Hope you be well soon

[NotsoSweetSub]

I try when hes around but that never normally works out because i feel like he is judging me. I dont know if thats also why i have problems when he isnt around

[LittlePrincess3]

My Daddy and I have always had a D/s relationship that turned into a DDlg relationship about 5 months ago. It's slowly progressed from being just in the bedroom to being all of the time. I am a little with big responsibilities. I carry lots of stress and anxiety and being little helps me shake it. I'm struggling with the mental aspects of switching between being little and big. When I'm at work i feel like I'm always thinking as a little and pretending to be a professional. When I'm at home Daddy says he always sees me as a little, but sometimes I think he wants me to be big and he is annoyed by my little behaviors. He was the one who encouraged me to explore this side of myself and he admits that he needs to be better at his responses to me sometimes. I have SO much anxiety and it is building like crazy right now. I don't know where I fit. I don't know how to act sometimes. How do you balance being a little and still meeting your big responsibilities and expectations?

[fatyknowsnothing]

Well i don't really have issue on that, i sometimes can control when and where i should act big while the little me is presenting. I try to turn it down with taking coffee or listening to some music that i consider as big music. Or set a goal like if i'm doing this right i'll get some nice treat for myself as reward. As for anxious and depression, i suggest you seek someone for help cz its hard to face it alone. I once have this problem with my bf and life i can't get into little space for almost a month and it stressed me out. When i think i cant take it anymore I decide on going karaoke to release some of the stress and then go to psychologist to seek out for help. You can try that on discuss with your daddy first on how to handle this situasion. Well i'm not good at giving solution so thats pretty much that i can give to you and i hope you'll get better soon and be happy as a little suppose to feel.

[Guest littlemissragamuffin]

I never feel like an adult.

[daddyslittlefrenchprincess]

I kind of go into little space around mine but not to the extent I do on my own. He still has no idea That I use a paci when I go to sleep. Or that I have a sippy cup that I like to use sometimes when I'm home alone. (I live with two other people. But not with daddy). I'll color around him. Or suck my thumb sometimes if we are watching a movie at the house. I am and have always been a Disney nut and loved stuffies etc. We discovered not too long ago that my personality had a name. And I have been learning what I can and sharing with him what I learn hoping he will fully embrace the daddy role. But I'm scared to really bring my little fully out. I'm afraid I'll weird him out. When he first heard about ddlg being a "thing" he immediately wanted to know if I was into bottles and diapers. So I don't know how he'd take the paci and sippy.