Random vent?

[AloRose]

If this is inappropriate to talk about I understand, I just kind of want to vent? 
 

Im just, kind of heartbroken and upset. So basically I met someone on here who I thought was amazing. We began dating back in may and things were amazing. He lives in the UK, im in America. So anyways, I’ve had a trip to germany planned for a while, it was for November, since things were going so well with him I changed my trip up to spend 3 days with him. We had it all planned, I went out of my way to book everything I had it all handled. He made promises of all the things he would treat me to when we were together. Then he ghosts me two weeks before the trip.  So day before I left I changed my status to single and chose to move on, enjoy my trip alone. 
 

I got back from my trip yesterday, I logged on here tonight and saw he changed his status to single as well. And I feel like I should be upset, I should be sad or mad or something, but honestly I’m just numb. This man wasted 7 months of my time, made me spend hundreds of dollars changing my plans so I could see him, for what? I’m more confused than anything, like who does that? I’m just upset that I could’ve spent more time in Germany with my best friend, but he ghosted me at the end so I ended up spending 4 days in London alone. I don’t even know. I will share his name on here is MoveHimIntoTheSun, cute dentist student in London, he has lots of followers so ya know, warning to anyone else out there who may talk to him. He’s a time waster apparently. Okay reading this down now I guess I am a bit angry haha. So thats that. Just wanted to get that all out of my head, I don’t want to tell my friends about this. I feel stupid and embarrassed for trusting him, so yeah, I’m done now. 

Edited November 25, 2023 by AloRose

[Cebakes]

Feckless move. I would not be surprised if he was seeing other people and not totally honest with you the whole time.  Doesn’t sound like much of a man if he doesn’t have the balls to be honest with you about all of this. Glad you named him.    Hope he reads this.  

[beanbean]

I am sorry this happened to you and it really sucks .it could be simple as cold feet were gotten it could just be he got scared. even seven months after seven people now your starting over by meeting someone it can be scary.now I am not saying it's right all and something should have been said .but maybe it just got to real

[littlespace_cadet]

Big hugs to you! Your feelings are valid.

I've been in long distance relationships before, and I think they can be very rewarding as long as people are realistic about how "real" they really want to make things. Some people only want to role play or compartmentalize their relationship, and that's okay as long as they are HONEST about it. But when they are not, people can really get disappointed and hurt.

I don't know the guy, so maybe he got scared and realized he wasn't actually ready for the in-person thing, but in that case he really should have told you or spoken up before you went all that way. Maybe he didn't realize what he wanted yet, but if that were so, he should reflect before trying to find another partner. Either way, you did nothing wrong. 

One door closes and another opens. I hope you find happiness and fulfillment moving forward 💛

[AloRose]

21 hours ago, tish___ said:

I don’t think it’s inappropriate to speak your heart and vent… I feel so sorry for you that this happened to you. 🌸
ofc I don’t know all the ins and outs about your rs with him but like wtf, I can’t wrap my head around the fact that someone would ghost you like that. 

and it’s ok to be angry as well… idk if u have any friends to reach out to but if there’s anything I can do to support you to work through this experience, lemmi know 🌈 take care 

Thank you <3

[AloRose]

14 hours ago, littlespace_cadet said:

Big hugs to you! Your feelings are valid.

I've been in long distance relationships before, and I think they can be very rewarding as long as people are realistic about how "real" they really want to make things. Some people only want to role play or compartmentalize their relationship, and that's okay as long as they are HONEST about it. But when they are not, people can really get disappointed and hurt.

I don't know the guy, so maybe he got scared and realized he wasn't actually ready for the in-person thing, but in that case he really should have told you or spoken up before you went all that way. Maybe he didn't realize what he wanted yet, but if that were so, he should reflect before trying to find another partner. Either way, you did nothing wrong. 

One door closes and another opens. I hope you find happiness and fulfillment moving forward 💛

It’s just so hard, I just feel confused and angry, thank you for your words

[MasterPhotog]

23 hours ago, AloRose said:

If this is inappropriate to talk about I understand, I just kind of want to vent? 
 

Im just, kind of heartbroken and upset. So basically I met someone on here who I thought was amazing. We began dating back in may and things were amazing. He lives in the UK, im in America. So anyways, I’ve had a trip to germany planned for a while, it was for November, since things were going so well with him I changed my trip up to spend 3 days with him. We had it all planned, I went out of my way to book everything I had it all handled. He made promises of all the things he would treat me to when we were together. Then he ghosts me two weeks before the trip.  So day before I left I changed my status to single and chose to move on, enjoy my trip alone. 
 

I got back from my trip yesterday, I logged on here tonight and saw he changed his status to single as well. And I feel like I should be upset, I should be sad or mad or something, but honestly I’m just numb. This man wasted 7 months of my time, made me spend hundreds of dollars changing my plans so I could see him, for what? I’m more confused than anything, like who does that? I’m just upset that I could’ve spent more time in Germany with my best friend, but he ghosted me at the end so I ended up spending 4 days in London alone. I don’t even know. I will share his name on here is MoveHimIntoTheSun, cute dentist student in London, he has lots of followers so ya know, warning to anyone else out there who may talk to him. He’s a time waster apparently. Okay reading this down now I guess I am a bit angry haha. So thats that. Just wanted to get that all out of my head, I don’t want to tell my friends about this. I feel stupid and embarrassed for trusting him, so yeah, I’m done now. 

I'm sorry that this happened to you, unfortunately ghosting is common in Internet relationships because not all users are upfront about themselves or take such relationships seriously. Since you can't fix others' actions, my suggestion is to consider it a learning experience and move on. I hope it's not too late to change your plane ticket so you're able to spend more time with your best friend in Germany without it costing you too much money. Best of luck and have a pleasant and safe journey. 

 

[Bamavet]

It doesnt just happen to littles.  It happens to the other side as well.  I have met so many fake people its not funny.  But sadly the world is full of people who dont care about others feelings.  Its the world we live in and its not right.  I think thats one reason im a daddy.  I just dont want anyone being hurt.

[blingsing]

It's sucky but not surprising. He probably thought the big ocean between you kept him safe from ever meeting.