New little + some questions!

[Pandabears]

Hi! I'm very very new to the dd/lg community, as I only discovered the community a couple of months ago.

 

And the questions:

My family is from a culture where, well, family is really important. It's so important that all major decisions are made with the family's consent! This includes choosing a lfe partner. Now, I'm free to do whatever I like - But when it comes to things like marriage, my family would like to be a part of the process. This means that I probably won't be able to live freely as a little - ever, which is sad. But I've sort of come to terms with it, and might marry someone (even though I don't think so) who will be able to fill the role as a caregiver/daddy etc. (Also, dating is a big no no in this culture - which limits meeting a potentinal someone. And it's not like I'm getting married anytime soon - it faaaar in the future) But, if I don't, I'd really like to ask you guys if you have any tips for what to do when things get overwhelming? I just moved out to study abroad (which has been a very very fun and difficult experience), and I suppose I live more freely - but it also makes it easier for me to neglect my daily responsibilites - any tips on how to keep some structure without anyone to look for guidence?

 

I have a ton of questions, but I've sort of lost them now that I'm writing this >.<

 

Edit: Is this the right place to ask this?

[Pandabears]

Hello! Welcome to the forums! I really thing this is a great question that I'm going to move to DDLG Discussions. I would maybe edit the post to take out the introduction part and post just your own intro. I think the questions you have are very interesting and deserve their own attention!

Thank you!! I'll edit it out

[Guest Heavenly.D.Carr]

If you have any more questions feel free to message me.

[LolitaDaddy]

Just curious, which culture?

[Guest Miss Braid]

Very interesting family expectations & cultural dynamics... I'm sure you could find someone that might be in your culture, given time & exposure. Just curious, which culture?

 

This issue with finding a person is the extreme limits on dating! Makes it very difficult to get to know someone well enough to be able to ask about interest in CG/l types of things.

 

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To answer some of your questions, OP, one of the biggest things I do, is to imagine: If I had a Daddy, what rules would be make for me? Then I try to write them down and follow them. It really can help quite a lot.

[Pandabears]

I'm really sorry for not replying!! But thank you so much for the brilliant tip!! It'll definetly make a difference!

 

My family is from India - So that might explain some of their way of thinking? ^^

[Pandabears]

Thank you so much for taking the time to answer! I honestly feel like I have more options than I thought in the beginning!!

[DaddysLolita]

If you have a smartphone, consider an app like Chore Monster to keep your daily stuff on track. I've never used it but lots of people I've talked to have, you input tasks and get points for completing them (I think). Then you could reward yourself for getting x amount of points! Fun!

 

As for relationship stuff, I like Diana's suggestion of having a platonic caregiver relationship. 

 

 

<3