Does anyone have tips or things that help for littles going through really tough times who don’t have caregivers?

[FuzzyLamb]

Hi, I haven’t had a caregiver in a while and it’s quite hard to find them where I am not to mention with my position. I was wondering if anyone has any advice or recommendations about things that help? It’s also a very hard time in life right now and I’d just want some sort of comfort, it seems all people wanna do is hurt or use you sometimes.

[Middlespace Brat]

I totally understand feeling this way. It can be really hard to get through these things, especially with seemingly no support. My biggest advice is to 1) find a good support system, doesn't have to be a caregiver, and 2) find ways to be extra compassionate and loving to yourself until you find your person. 

There's wonderful threads here on how to be your own caregiver (look in the knowledge group). But trying to show yourself extra patience and self care as you get through these things. There's always hope, so remind yourself of that often. I do this by engaging in things I consider treats - watching my comfort movies or shows, making homemade meals if you can to feel satisfied, staying grounded and in the present, and maybe making a small purchase heehee!

Another thing is to find what support you currently have. Through years of therapy and research on how to be happy, I have found that a sense of community is one of the most healing things there is! You can use this forum, Youtubers, real life friends and family, or local groups to help you feel like you belong. 
 

In terms of actually finding a caregiver, the best advice is to just be patient. I know how extremely lonely and saddening it can be to be by yourself, but waiting for the exact right person will make it all worth it in the end. I had to go through a lot of bad relationships to find my perfect daddy, and he even said no at the very start! Being patient is hard but important. 

I hope this helps. If you have any other questions or just need to chat this is a wonderful place to do so ❤️

[Wikkd]

Try to be mindful of how you feel and I agree having a good support system helps a lot. The support  doesn't  have to be IRL, just feeling like you've  been heard helps too. I lost my Daddy last year and people here were super supportive. I also joined communities elsewhere (I was a twitch streamer for awhile) and being around people who enjoy  the same interests helped too. People  are out there and you never know when you'll  make a true friend!

[EHarleyQ]

I agree with all of this I know it might sound weird but if you can go stand barefoot on the ground outside and take deep breaths. Also community is amazing I don’t have a caregiver or a dom and iv been healing from Alice full of trama these past few months and I wouldn’t be here where I am if it wasn’t for my irl and on here community and therapy. Hang in there you got this I know we don’t know each other but I believe in you if you need someone to talk to send me a follow and we can talk. 

[EHarleyQ]

We are here for you

[Lil Nickolas]

I am glad this thread was made. I been in the same boat lately. I joined the forum recently only because I wanted to get more community as my friends have all moved on and become more engaged with their families and less with their friends. Totally going to try the barefoot on grass thing. that sounds amazing. Too bad there isn't mud.

[EHarleyQ]

 

5 minutes ago, Lil Nickolas said:

I am glad this thread was made. I been in the same boat lately. I joined the forum recently only because I wanted to get more community as my friends have all moved on and become more engaged with their families and less with their friends. Totally going to try the barefoot on grass thing. that sounds amazing. Too bad there isn't mud.

It really helps ground you and bring you back to yourself if you are having problems staying present or anything really the earth really helps 

[EHarleyQ]

All of you can add me 

[Lil Nickolas]

I found something that helped a bit this morning. I don't recall how i came up with this. I got up early went outside and just sat for like 15 minutes outside. I just thought of all the mornings I would wait for the bus, and kinda just think to myself about all the things that use to worry about back then, and then got ready to go to work. Its kinda weird to think of all the times I was so worked up over stuff, and its weird to think how much has change. Didn't really make a big difference, but its kinda a good thing to try. Also its luckily not that cold here.

[FuzzyLamb]

On 11/7/2023 at 10:29 PM, Princette Bambi said:

I totally understand feeling this way. It can be really hard to get through these things, especially with seemingly no support. My biggest advice is to 1) find a good support system, doesn't have to be a caregiver, and 2) find ways to be extra compassionate and loving to yourself until you find your person. 

There's wonderful threads here on how to be your own caregiver (look in the knowledge group). But trying to show yourself extra patience and self care as you get through these things. There's always hope, so remind yourself of that often. I do this by engaging in things I consider treats - watching my comfort movies or shows, making homemade meals if you can to feel satisfied, staying grounded and in the present, and maybe making a small purchase heehee!

Another thing is to find what support you currently have. Through years of therapy and research on how to be happy, I have found that a sense of community is one of the most healing things there is! You can use this forum, Youtubers, real life friends and family, or local groups to help you feel like you belong. 
 

In terms of actually finding a caregiver, the best advice is to just be patient. I know how extremely lonely and saddening it can be to be by yourself, but waiting for the exact right person will make it all worth it in the end. I had to go through a lot of bad relationships to find my perfect daddy, and he even said no at the very start! Being patient is hard but important. 

I hope this helps. If you have any other questions or just need to chat this is a wonderful place to do so ❤️

Thank you so so much! This was so sweet and thoughtful 💕

[FuzzyLamb]

For everyone who sees this, thank you for the kind words under this thread. 💕💕🎀🫖🌸

[Andriel_Isilien]

There is a list I put together (can still add more to it) in our club Knowledge is Power for tips on self-soothing when you don't have a caregiver. Give it a look and see what you think