Advice

[Daddy Laum]

Hi everyone,

So I found out my little has been chatting to her previous daddy,this past weekend.

She sent him a picture of her not a nude, she called him a handsome man, apologized when she did not reply immediately, even said thank you when he told her he misses her body and if she lived with him he would never let her wear clothes.

She even said good night very nicely to him. I wanted to know if there is any advice should I leave her and move on or how should I deal with this.

[Little kaiya]

It sounds like both your little and her former partner aren't being respectful at all. You can try talking to her, I usually recommend communication as a starting point, but odds are she may get defensive and try to excuse her behaviour.

Personally I find emotional infidelity or cheating to be a much bigger issue than some other things. Her actions, in my view, constitute a breach of respect and trust.

I'm not saying leave her, only you can decide what is right for you, but I will firmly say that I think both of them crossed some lines that shouldn't have been crossed.

[Cebakes]

How did you find this out?  I would tell her that you are no longer her daddy and move on. 

[beanbean]

Trust is important it's up to you decide if she broke your trust and might be time to move on 

[MissNMTX]

This does off the top seem clearly disrespectful. But none of us know the dynamics of your relationship. How long you've been together, age difference? Etc.

This seems terribly needy and a desperate need for attention. Based on this I'd advise talking to her to clarify both of your needs and expectations. In this case, though given the behavior, I'd have the conversation as a last appeal with a eye towards a clean, mature exit 

[Josey Wales]

I’m not sure of all the circumstances but if she is living with you ( RTR) and the exchange between them was just emails and you really care for her then put up a fight , put your foot down , give her a good punishment spanking , send her to her room afterwards, let her think about what she has done and by reacting you are showing you care about her. I think she needs some discipline , rules , let her know what you expect of her, get her mind on your relationship, keep her busy

If you don’t care for her end it immediately   That’s my 2 cents 

[Josey Wales]

23 minutes ago, tish___ said:

well… if that’s the best 2 cents you have to offer, you might consider saving them all to stuff your piggy bank 🙂it probably come in handy to purchase a BDSM basics e-book or something 😅

Anyway, it’s interesting to me that you advice someone to consider any form of punishment as a repercussion when trust that has been broken in a relationship. Even more interesting saying such things when you obviously have no clue what their relationship is like. 

If eg trust has been broken, boundaries overstepped, it should be discussed apart from Ds/DDlg dynamic. 
Trust & clear communication are fundamental in any vital relationship, even more in a Ds or DDlg dynamic.

In my pov, misusing power dynamics to resolve a relationship conflict is unhealthy, especially in this case because it would be driven by emotion. It would be a case of abuse of power which is toxic af imo.

 

 

Well like they say everyone is entitled to an opinion , you certainly have yours ! FYI I certainly don’t need yours , nor do I need your advice on what I should say or do ! If you don’t like what I have to say pass me by or tell someone who gives a shit. I certainly don’t care what you have to say ! 

[Josey Wales]

Evidence lol. For giving his little a spanking and sending her to her room for disrespecting him lol   Whatever ! So now listen up if you give your little a spanking you are not practicing safe DD/ lg dynamic lol.   My god I must be a monster lol   Now go to your room little one ! 

[Josey Wales]

I was speaking man to man. I guess that’s not allowed here   I don’t really care I speak my mind   I see the Daddy is 33 years old , that a man. I’m sure he can decide for himself wether he would listen to anything I had to say . I assumed he would talk with her   I would too and explain the reason she would be punished   Hey it’s no big deal , you don’t like what I have to say I don’t really care 

[beanbean]

I don't know it's a trust issue lots of things going to we don't know.my advice would be to talk to her ask her what figure it out from there

[Josey Wales]

I have better things to do than argue with you ! 

[Andriel_Isilien]

On 11/6/2023 at 10:32 PM, Daddy Laum said:

I wanted to know if there is any advice should I leave her and move on or how should I deal with this.

When someone shows you their true colors/selves, believe them. I have no tolerance for people who are fickle with commitment and disrespects their partner. Clearly an open relationship/dynamic is not what you agreed to. Move on. You deserve someone to at least match your fidelity.