Need some help

[Rainbow_Kitten]

My bf is into DDLG, and wants to roleplay over text. I'm not that good at roleplaying and I was wondering how I could stop having bad anxiety about it. He has said that he wants me to call him daddy, but I'm a little afraid to. I never know how to respond to roleplay, I always get really nervous and awkward.

Any tips or advice? Thanks

[Guest AllAboutYou]

I've done a decent amount of texting with girls about ddlg, but now looking for something real life...so I'm jealous of you and your bf!  So about your question...  What I'd suggest is starting with what you're comfortable with.  Remember Daddy doesn't mean Father.  It CAN mean father, but it can also mean DDLG Caregiver.  That being said, if you're nervous about that, maybe there's something else you can call him for now...Sir maybe?  And as far as roleplay, it's very important that your bf be sensitive to your nervousness.  He might have to hold back on the dominance a bit while you get your bearings and find your comfort zone.  Then when you understand what you're ok with, without getting overly anxious, you two can slowly take it from there, to places that might give you anxiety now, but with an easy, slow, gentle approach might make you feel differently about it when the time comes.

DDLG can be truly wonderful.  If your Daddy can be sensitive and patient with you, maybe you'll find that you like DDLG just as much!

[HerDarkDaddy]

If you're not into it...then, you're not into it.  You don't have to force yourself into something that you aren't comfortable with if you don't want to. If you are willing to give it a shot, for his sake, that's cool and I applaud you.  But, if you do and you find out that it really is not your "thing"...then, be honest and upfront about it...and tell him that you really aren't comfortable doing it. Compromise isn't about doing something you hate, just to make someone else happy...it's about doing something that makes you both happy.

 

That being said...ease yourself into it, let your BF know that you are REALLY nervous about it and that you will need to go slow.  If he rushes you, that will just drive your anxiety through the roof and put you off of it totally.If you don't feel comfortable calling him Daddy, tell him so...if you are being forced to do something that makes you uneasy...then, again...that will make it a bad experience for you and will push you away from the subject.  He will have to be patient and let you pick things up at a pace that you are comfortable with. Try to think of other terms you can refer to him by, that you ARE comfortable with.  Things like "Poppa", "Sir"...or something similar.

 

Just take your time, if you are truly willing to give it a shot...if not, then be honest with him and say so.