Structure vs Chaos keeping that happy balance

[ktownDaddy]

Hello and welcome to Monday. I took the week off this week to give myself some well needed rest. Though that’s easier than it sounds. I have what’s called an overly active mind and down time can often lead to chaos. That then leads to me fixating on things going on in my head. These thoughts are comprised of that never ending to-do list of things that need to be accomplished. 
 

Instead of relaxing and focusing on something enjoyable and fun - I somehow make myself feel guilty for not accomplishing something meaningful and positive. I mean, peace of mind is a positive thing - it’s just hard to get there. 
 

I miss having a little girl/middle in my life. In giving structure to someone else, I find structure myself. With guidance there comes purpose and with purpose there comes sanity and in turn a calmness. 
 

It’s that mental internal fight between structure and chaos. 

[MyMy]

I love this. It is definitely a struggle to keep an over active mind in check. I’ve taken up meditation and instead of a thought popping in every two seconds it’s every ten seconds now lol 😆. I love the statement but I’m curious as to why giving structure to someone else allows structure for you? Is it because you’re able to see it from an outside point of view? 
 

[ktownDaddy]

Hello MyMy,

Thanks for the message and your response. I used to read, write as well as meditate in the past. I have really bad ADD and routine and structure used to help that. 
 

I think we are forced to feel that if we are not watching, reacting, consuming we are not living, are brains have become so addicted to that hunter gatherer endorphin rush. We have become addicted not only to the screen but chaos that comes with it.

A prime example is what I am doing now - interacting here as it brings me some form of solace from my perceived alternative - which is what….

It’s funny that my friends all question how I am able to cope in the job that I do, how I can function is such chaos and in all honesty at times that when I am most at peace, when my brain is racing to organize, analyzing and coming up with solutions. 
 

This get me back to your point, when I have to assist in a structural methodology for someone else it allows my brain to move into a routine and find clarity for itself.

 

Hope that makes sense. 
 

D. 

[MissNMTX]

As a person who thrives off structure and feels it more in D/s dynamics. I appreciate hearing from a Daddy's perspective as well. As a middle it's nice to know that Daddies benefit as well.

[beanbean]

Balance vs structure is always battle to find the right mix for me anyway I think I am getting better

[ktownDaddy]

I think that a role of a Daddy is to provide guidance and structure, this can be done through rules, support and various forms of motivation. 
 

In every dynamic it’s paramount to support each other. I am always trying to find ways to improve and be a better Dom - like wise it also equally important to help your partner also to become better. In finding areas that need improvement you can put a set of goals and practices into place. She will hopefully benefit from this as the Dom will also become stronger by making themselves accountable. 
 

It’s my goal to make sure that in each dynamic I go into the person is better always improving and if it does end they are wiser, more confident and more knowledgeable when it comes to a close.

D. 

[ktownDaddy]

2 hours ago, beanbean said:

Balance vs structure is always battle to find the right mix for me anyway I think I am getting better

I have been working on that for years and hope that with each year that passes I get better at it. 

[beanbean]

1 hour ago, ktownDaddy said:

I have been working on that for years and hope that with each year that passes I get better at it. 

That's all we can do