Ddlg by proxy

[Dkdd]

I'm in a relationship with a woman and have a Dom/sub relation with her. She likes that I'm in absolute control and I decide what she can do and can't do (sexually, mostly). We can have sex with others, and sometimes I arrange her to be the center of multiple men at the samme or even another dominating man. But no matter the scenario - in the end I'm still controlling and has the power (as we both want it 😊) 

The thing is... 

She is really turned on by the idea og ddlg. We have done it a few times, and she is really into it. But I am definitely not. For me it feels like roleplay, acting, and it's not something for me. 

I would really like her to explore ddlg, living out this fantasy and let her have the pleasure of it. So maybe someone else could give her that..

But the Master in me, HER Master, cannot let go of the control and power in a ddlg setup. Especially because ddlg is not only a physical play. There's so much intimacy and emotions involved. 

My question to all you experienced ddlg's in here:

Do you have any experience in, or idea of how to, how I can combine that she's living out a ddlg fantasy, while I'm still her absolute Master and still in control and have power of the situation? 😊 

[Vampiress]

I don't have personal experience with this, but I guess it depends on if you are okay with allowing her to do this sexually with someone else. If no sex is going to be involved, you could find her a platonic Caregiver. Whether sex is involved or not, you could find her a soft Daddy who may not really be dominant but likes to take care of a little. There are also submissive Daddies, but that might be hard to find. Not all people in this lifestyle are into Dom/sub. Like yeah there is still some power exchange in the Caregiving aspect, but it's not like traditional BDSM in that regard. So you could definitely find her a Daddy that has no interest in being in control in the same way you are, but it might take some looking because this is a small, niche community.

[beanbean]

I don't know it probably could work but it would have to be the daddy or mommy and with many it probably would work most daddy/mommy dom's need some sort of control and it would personally not be something I could do but I am sure would be some that would do that but it would take lots of communication for sure

[shadowrider]

 You might have better luck looking for another little or middle for her to spend time with, that could be sexual or non sexual. That way they are not trying to be her dominant but she can still experience some of the lifestyle.

You are right about the intimacy and emotions getting involved in DDlg. That is why I am not a strong promoter of a platonic pairing outside of a relationship. We all know feelings happen and in this lifestyle they can happen quick and run deep.

I wish you luck.