Can someone outgrow being daddy?

[Cutelilgirl]

Um.. so.

I met a daddy on forum.. he said he was daddy and dom and there were other lifestyles he wanted to explore n all.

But he knew I was little because we talked about stuffie kingdom and all..

I wanted to explore my sub side with him and we started exploring.. one time I slipped into little space and told about what little things I want... he didn't say anything.. but afterwards when I asked him.. he said he is not daddy but dom only..

Now at start he did mention he had online relationships being daddy as well.

I mean we are not together now . But I just keep wondering did he lie to me about being daddy or it was something he was interested in before and then outgrow later? 

Like i don't see myself outgrowing being little.. its like a part of me.. is it not the case with daddies? I mean I have talked to many Doms who were Doms when older bt later on they mellowed down and became daddy...so is it different for daddy?

Because that's my fear.. what if someone likes being daddy then outgrow it.. then what?? 

 

[blingsing]

Tough one. I have found this myself. I don't think he lied. Sometimes the idea and the reality are two very different things. My last Daddy, ened this week, did like the "fun" sides. He liked me being cute. He liked being called Daddy. He liked some controlling aspects. He didn't like how much attention I needed.  And a little day really turned him off. He wasn't able to offer me the support I needed. Maybe he would be enough for someone else.

[pawpaw]

I can't speak for others, but I was born an Alpha male and have been a soft DD since my teens.

I have evolved to some extent as times have changed, but it's who I am.

So I personally will never "outgrow" it.

[Alisolte]

I think sometimes people like the fantasy of a thing more than the reality of it. It's important for a Daddy to be able to self-assess and promote what they are and are not truly comfortable with. Sometimes people learn along the way, though, and that's just part of gaining experience. There are certainly good and not so good ways of relaying your thoughts, though, so hopefully they are always respectful! Especially when we're Little. 

[PapaMax]

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I was born an Alpha male

Impressive, most of us were born as helpless infants

People obviously grow and change, but moreso in their teens/twenties I think, if you make it past that you kind of get set in your ways.

Everyone is different though, every relationship you get into (and this applies of course to anyone from vanilla to kinky central) there's a risk it won't work out, so I wouldn't say it was worth spending time and energy worrying that a potential future daddy might suddenly decide he wasn't a daddy any more.

[beanbean]

Yeah I don't know if they outgrow it so much as some people lump it in into other bdsm stuff and the realize that that not what they want 

[Princess_Dee]

I have an ex that identifies as a Daddy but the things he likes that make him a Daddy are not the things most of us are looking for in a Daddy.

What he likes are girls that are skinny and look younger, being called Daddy during the sex and doing sex when you're not supposed to. However he's not into girls acting cute, little space, rules and rewards, or the caregiving side of things in general.

So it could also be that this person just had a complete different idea about what it means to be a Daddy.

[Cutelilgirl]

I get what all of you are trying to explain..it sucks though..🥲

At the same time I understand that it is being a daddy of a little is like not everyone's cup of tea..i find people have sexualised daddy word too much..like they may like it during sex or something but not like being actual daddy to little...😓

 

[pawpaw]

1 hour ago, PapaMax said:

Impressive, most of us were born as helpless infants

People obviously grow and change, but moreso in their teens/twenties I think, if you make it past that you kind of get set in your ways.

Everyone is different though, every relationship you get into (and this applies of course to anyone from vanilla to kinky central) there's a risk it won't work out, so I wouldn't say it was worth spending time and energy worrying that a potential future daddy might suddenly decide he wasn't a daddy any more.

I was told when I popped out into this world I slapped the nurse. 😆 

It isn't a "lifestyle" I got interested in, it's not a kink to me, it's who I am.

For some it can be a passing phase I imagine, or something they are experimenting with.

As you stated, everyone is different. 

Edited September 29, 2023 by pawpaw
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[Kubi207]

1 hour ago, Princess_Dee said:

I have an ex that identifies as a Daddy but the things he likes that make him a Daddy are not the things most of us are looking for in a Daddy.

What he likes are girls that are skinny and look younger, being called Daddy during the sex and doing sex when you're not supposed to. However he's not into girls acting cute, little space, rules and rewards, or the caregiving side of things in general.

So it could also be that this person just had a complete different idea about what it means to be a Daddy.

This is a pretty common thing having spoken to a few littles. There are quite a few using the term Daddy but are only using that due to an adjacent kink as beanbean mentioned. Some only care about being called that in bed, and have no desire for the caregiving/nurturing aspect.

[Cebakes]

2 hours ago, PapaMax said:

Impressive, most of us were born as helpless infants

People obviously grow and change, but moreso in their teens/twenties I think, if you make it past that you kind of get set in your ways.

Everyone is different though, every relationship you get into (and this applies of course to anyone from vanilla to kinky central) there's a risk it won't work out, so I wouldn't say it was worth spending time and energy worrying that a potential future daddy might suddenly decide he wasn't a daddy any more.

Agree with all of that. As far as being an alpha, the term is somewhat played out and many males who use the term are not really alphas.  Absolutely not saying that about pawpaw.  I never use the term due to it having negative connotations with women who have bad experiences with guys who claim to be “alphas”.  From a personal perspective, I don’t need to tell anyone I am an alpha, they can just see it from my actions and calm, protective , confident presence. 

[Josey Wales]

My 2 cents. It’s been my experience that Dom’s can find DD/lg creepy . I personally know I can be both but prefer being Daddy , littles turn me on , push my buttons. I grew into becoming a Daddy but I always felt it   I don’t think you can grow out of it. 

[balkar]

I believe being a daddy is so cute and wonderful that it can never outgrow later.

There are some fake daddy's too. Those are like red flags. Littles should be careful about it.