CGs and Cooking

[ANewDragon]

Good Afternoon everyone,

 

I would like to solicit some information from both CGs and littles on the topic of cooking. 

 

What are your views and opinions on who cooks for who in the household? Is it the responsibility of the CG to cook or does it fall to the little/Sub to do most of the cooking? I know that each dynamic is different and there is no right answer to who is responsible for cooking. 

 

Also if you are a CG, do you prefer to cook?

If you are a little, do you prefer to cook?

If you are the one that prefers to cook, Would you like your partner to be able to cook? Do you like it when your partner cooks? Under what circumstances do you want your partner to cook?

 

[Otouto]

As a little (although never owned before) I'd personally like to learn to cook from and/or for my Caregiver, however I absolutely wouldn't oppose to being cooked for. I just want to at least learn, that's the fun part for me! For special occasions, maybe cooking together would be lots of fun and much more meaningful. Like a bonding experience.

[Guest DaddysLolita]

For me cooking goes either way. If my Daddy wanted to cook for us that's fine, id love cooking together. I think it's a great, fun activity and can build closeness. I don't like to cook if I'm cooking for just myself (I tend to eat simple stuff alone, sandwiches and cereals) if I were cooking for us both, I'd have no problem doing it.

[Guest Miss Braid]

I'm not currently in a relationship, but as Little or CG, I would prefer to cook because I would prefer that my partner were the breadwinner for the family. If I had a Little or CG who was good at cooking, I would like for them to teach me though.

 

I would kind of like to expand my answer at this point, after reading the whole thread--

 

I'm extremely into the "50s family" ideal, at least outwardly. I would like to be a SAHM and tend the the home and family. I see my role as a Wife to support my husband by: supporting him through his career,  cooking, cleaning, watching & instructing our children, and other related things. I see his role as a Husband to: work just as hard outside the home as I do inside of it, to do the various outdoor things (mow the lawn, clean the gutters, etc) or to find someone who can, to have my back as far as the way we teach and discipline the family. 

 

Now, this is my -personal- ideal. I don't expect others to follow it (and I don't really think it would be healthy to). Talking this out will be something we would have to do as a couple, obviously. I wouldn't just straight up expect it from anyone!

 

And just for fun, I'll explain how my parents divided things up:

Mom: Breadwinner (40ish hr/wk), mowed the lawn, did the laundry, half the cleaning

Dad: 50-60ish hr/wk (less money than Mom, somehow??), cooked every meal, folded the laundry, took care of dogs, half the cleaning

[Guest Selective]

I was just thinking of this. Thanks for starting this conversation. Currently I don't do much cooking. I live alone and I work a lot. I find it easier to purchase food or quick cooking items. However if I'm lucky enough to have a little I would be delighted to cook and care for her in that way. It would take a lot of work and learning on my part but that is something I would enjoy doing for someone else.I certainly wouldn't discourage my little from cooking if she was interested, but I also wouldn't require it of her.

[tinykitty]

I don't have a caregiver, but I'd assume that if they couldn't cook, they'd at least let me teach them the small basics without whining at me about it.

[ANewDragon]

So, I guess I should answer my own questions here. 

 

For me, I guess it would depend on the situation, if I would prefer to cook or not, Most of the time I work long hours so I would prefer my little/sub to do most of the cooking. however if she was sick or busy, I do know the basics of cooking and normally can follow directions pretty well. I am not just talking about frozen meals, I have cooked using "from Scratch items" to making a meal from a reciept. I did put quotes cause I do not always do so good with sauces from scratch, but I can make homemade chicken soup, Tacos, and other stuff like that. 

[Guest buddhagirl]

Daddy and I both work full-time and are raising 4 kids together. I like to cook for Daddy because it makes him feel loved, so I do make him a special meal at least once a week. He is a very good cook, though, so we share cooking the rest of the week. We like together when it lines up. When he's babying me, he makes me special drinks and snacks. You know, we really just take care of each other in all ways, including food.  <3

[missycat2015]

I love to cook, especially with my partner, but I'd have no issues cooking for both of us, or him cooking for me. It's important to me that he knows how since to me, it's a basic life skill

[lunelys907]

I'm a bit of a control freak in the kitchen so I would want to most of the food. Having gone to culinary school, cooking is kind of my thing. I do like having food being made for me every now and then.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

We have a very traditional "old fashioned " relationship in that sense. He is the disciplinarian, decision maker and bread winner. I am the homemaker, the one that cooks and cleans etc. Sure, sometimes he will get involved, but generally speaking it's me. He knows I like to do things just right for him, so he plans on showing me just the way he likes things done, but once I'm fully trained he will step back and just keep an eye on things occasionally.

My god I love that man.

[Guest ScruffDaddy]

I love cooking so I'm more than happy to cook for anyone. Just depends on the individual really, you could have different morals, etc. It goes both ways.

[Guest Jennyanydots]

We both cook depending on who's had a bad day or who feels like spoiling the other etc. I always advocate working to figure out what will work best for you and your partner - you're both individuals and together you have a unique relationship. Being cooked for when I've had a horrid day can just be the best thing ever, but I like to spoil Sir, too. We usually clean up together too, unless someone is just feeling aweful.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Oh well yes of course,if I was ill or had had a really bad day, daddy would take over.

[HoneybeePrincess]

For me it would depend on the scope of the dynamic. I'm a professional and I work the 45-55 hour work weeks. It would be very un-Daddy like, in my opinion, for a Daddy to say I must prepare every meal. If I were not a full time professional that would be a different story. 

 

I think this is a great topic since it can be related to a lot of other aspects of the dynamic. Littles/bg's/subs are not just there to be little servants (although for some of us being domestic is a pleasing part of our identity) it's all a give and take scenario. The physical, mental and emotional should be balanced, it is a two way street, equal parts work and joy for both partners if the partners are a good match. 

[baby_ace]

I don't have a Cg but my partner, our room mate and I take turns making meals. With past Caregivers they would cook if I was having a little day that day and then there would be days that I would wake up and make everyone breakfast 

[Guest Heavenly.D.Carr]

I would assume that both partners would cook. Whether you're a caregiver or a little. I personally believe both partners should take responsibility for meals. The situation does truly varies on whoever has a good day or not, if someone is sick, incapable or just plain busy. Its good for both partners to surprise one another on different days of the week.

 

The biggest thing for me is that both partners equally pamper each other in every step of their relationship.

[Pandacub]

Depends on the mood. If I'm feeling extra little or bratty I make my Daddy cook. Usually this 'cooking' means mac and cheese, nuggets, potato smileys, spaghettios/baked beans and some peas. I like to make the chocolate milk accompaniment.

 

When I'm not fully in little space, I prefer to cook for my Daddy (whom I may or may not call 'Daddy') or for us to cook together since we both enjoy it. 

 

Sometimes when Daddy is in CG space and I'm not being little, she'll make me snacks and coffee/tea. So it just depends on who's feeling what.

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

I really enjoy cooking for Daddy because it makes me happy to see him content and full of food that I've made. On a few occasions, Daddy will cook for me but, like I said, it's very rare.

[Joeinnyc]

I spent many years as a professional chef starting at a young age. Cooking with people is the most enjoyable for me whether In a professional kitchen or with family and friends. I don't cook professionally any longer, however I do enjoy it so I would never require my partner to cook for me. If she wanted to have a more domestic role i would support that best I could. Ideally we would cook together often. I think it's great for bonding, story telling, laughing and enjoying the company of others.

[SugarPie]

Good Afternoon everyone,

 

I would like to solicit some information from both CGs and littles on the topic of cooking. 

 

What are your views and opinions on who cooks for who in the household? Is it the responsibility of the CG to cook or does it fall to the little/Sub to do most of the cooking? I know that each dynamic is different and there is no right answer to who is responsible for cooking. 

 

Also if you are a CG, do you prefer to cook?

If you are a little, do you prefer to cook?

If you are the one that prefers to cook, Would you like your partner to be able to cook? Do you like it when your partner cooks? Under what circumstances do you want your partner to cook?

 

Hi there,

 

Personally, I would rather do most of the cooking with my CG supervising any grilling and occasionally baking. On weekends I would want to at least cook breakfast together with my caregiver and maybe pie too on Sundays since I think that would be loads of fun. <3  I would like it if my future partner could cook. No, actually I would love it if they could cook but it's not a big deal if they can't.

 

What would you prefer, Dragon?

[Elisa*little]

We both share the responsibility of cooking. Daddy is changing his work hours starting in January and will be home much earlier than me. He's already told me that he plans on cooking more often. Oh wow!

[BH_Bambi]

I'm a little, but I'm also a submissive. I like doing the cooking! Especially as it means my partner will usually wash up But when I'm in littlespace, he's more likely to cook for me.

[Rosetta]

To me, its not a matter of time or anything, but as a little I feel very insecure towards cooking and handling "dangerous" things like knives and fire. So Sir does cook, also I am not good at it and I would just mess up. Although I have some meals that I am confident enough about when Sir is sick or when I want to treat him I cook them for him. He is an amazing cook, and even if he has way fewer time than me, he will always cook for me and make sure that I am having good food and eat properly. When we can spend time together, I will hang out in the kitchen with him, and do like to cook together with him where he gives me little tasks to do like chopping vegetables and he teaches me how to do them properly according to how he wants them. Cooking together with Sir is a lot of fun!
 

In order to keep things fair, I do all the chores that he does not like to do, such as the dishes and cleaning up the kitchen afterwards.

[little paper stars]

I usually do the cooking, as my Big is notoriously bad at cooking. Poor guy can't even follow instructions on a box. Since we both work 40-55 hour work weeks, I usually spend one day a week preparing all the meals we would eat outside our home. I don't really mind either way, but I do wish he would help a bit more around the house. (This wouldn't be a problem at all if we weren't working crazy holiday hours - almost over!)

 

When I'm feeling Little, he's more often than not going to try and feed me real food, since all I ever want is snacks. Sometimes he'll brave the kitchen and cook, but it's rare for it to be more than a pbj.

 

(It's like I'm the little one AND the Care Giver to him!)