🎀♾️Advice on public dress/dynamic♾️🎀

[BlueEyedAngel]

Hey guys! 
Daddy and I are new to our dynamic and are trying to find the path that works best for us. One of my biggest challenges is how we can carry into public life.
One part is my public style. I want to dress little all the time but I’m a professional and can’t necessarily wear the Selkie like dresses I’d love to wear every day. 
I’m a high masking autie so I’ve had a lifetime of squashing everything that wants to come out. I’m having a hard time remaining in little space bc of my stupid brain trying to make me fit for public consumption. Even with Daddy. I feel like it would be easier for me if I was able to be the same all the time but I don’t know how that could work. 
I know this is a lot, but any advice is welcome. Thanks in advance!! 🎀

Edited September 22, 2023 by BlueEyedAngel

[MasterPhotog]

Great topic.
My advice is to add one item of clothing at a time, even if it's under your clothing and is not visible to others or an accessory that makes you feel proud of being a little, and go from there. Hope it helps. 

[BlueEyedAngel]

27 minutes ago, MasterPhotog said:

Great topic.
My advice is to add one item of clothing at a time, even if it's under your clothing and is not visible to others or an accessory that makes you feel proud of being a little, and go from there. Hope it helps. 

I love this, thank you 😇

[Princess_Dee]

I've been in a situation where I couldn't express my little self, here are some of the things I could and did do. I put a cutesy game in my 3ds such as Animal Crossing or Pokémon, I'd listen to Disney music with earphones, I had a small stuffie in my bag. I did crafts that were allowed for adults such as adult coloring books, crochet and nerdy cross stitch. I'd also use the adult version of things that felt kid-like to me such as lunch boxes.

[Mr. D]

In a previous relationship my little was studying in Medical School and struggled with similar issues. The setting he was in made being in little space difficult, but the stress meant he needed some way to “escape” regardless of how briefly. He was fond of animals and we found that a small plastic Dino or animal in his pocket worked. He could put his hand in his pocket and hold it and said it helped him tremendously. 
 

-D

Edited September 28, 2023 by Mr. D

[Andriel_Isilien]

I wear mismatched sockies for this 😊 I have been putting together tips about how to be secretly little in public in our club "Knowledge is Power".

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[Alisolte]

One secret thing you can do is get those outfits that match your doll's outfits, and then even if it looks like big clothes, they're REALLY dolly clothes! 
And then, when you're home, you can have a TWIN! 

...
Ok, I looked and I can't find any adult and doll ones, if you're bigger.
THAT would be a good business idea! 
Someone do dat. 😛

[Middlespace Brat]

@Andriel_Isilien has a really good post mentioned in their comment, and I also commented on that thread! But in case you want a short and sweet version, here's a couple of tips:
- wear cute sockies, thigh highs, or shoes. very unnoticeable

- carry a plushie in your bag/as a keychain

- listen to appropriate but discreet music (like Disney, lofi, etc)

- accessorize with little-like items (bows, beaded bracelets, fun makeup, pins, etc)

- carry a fun bag that makes you feel little

-decorate things to your littlespace-liking

- use suckers/ring pops/chew jewelry to substitute a pacifier

- get a sippy top water bottle

- order off the kids menu/bring kids snacks with you

- use an adult coloring book

Hope this helps!

[Mouse-]

My biggest advice is to just be mindful and respectful of those around you in public settings. 
 

not everyone is consenting to be a part of this, so trying to not be obvious is important. 
 

[BlueEyedAngel]

Thanks guys! My socks have been my only ‘little’ thing and I’ve been able to write them off for their functionality. They have wee ears on the ankle that help you pull them up if they fall down but also- EARS! I get them on Amazon and they’re all cute animals- foxes and bunnies and stuff. Also I have to wear compression socks for work bc I stand up all day and I found a company that makes cute ones that aren’t that weird stuff that make your toes all sweaty. It’s called Vim & Vigr if anyone’s interested. Also- knee high socks and dresses with a good excuse!  

Thanks for all your suggestions! I’ve implemented a few already!  

[Middlespace Brat]

On 9/28/2023 at 7:35 PM, Alisolte said:

One secret thing you can do is get those outfits that match your doll's outfits, and then even if it looks like big clothes, they're REALLY dolly clothes! 
And then, when you're home, you can have a TWIN! 

...
Ok, I looked and I can't find any adult and doll ones, if you're bigger.
THAT would be a good business idea! 
Someone do dat. 😛

I just now saw this. LilKinkBoutique sells adult and dollie matching sets! 

[PennyGoodfellow]

20 hours ago, Mouse- said:

My biggest advice is to just be mindful and respectful of those around you in public settings. 
 

not everyone is consenting to be a part of this, so trying to not be obvious is important. 
 

This is what I came to say too. That being in a dynamic is a-ok, but make sure you keep the kink aspects private unless all parties consent, and in public places remember actual children can't consent. 

[CompwicatedPwincess]

A really obvious DDlg couple came into my work. And for the first time I thought, "Am I cringe?" Public play is great, but she was like hanging off of him and giggling like a toddler. Other customers were staring. She was even putting on a really childish voice and using really small words exclusively, and at first I wondered if she was just someone who had a disability that applied to communication, but nope, I heard her speak totally normally when she thought nobody was listening. I was happy to get her her cookies and him his spicy chicken, but I was definitely coming out of the experience less proud of being a little, largely because she had her hands all over her Daddy.

To keep things a buck fifty though, it also made me feel jealous because my Mommy is currently in a different country. So maybe they are fine and I'm just salty. If you are that couple, and you're here, hit me up and I'll apologize for my salt.

[SweetIsMyMiddleName]

This is prompting me to finally write the post on a topic I’ve been wanting to share here.. perhaps I will tonight. 

I absolutely hate how our world works in which we are made to feel like we have to conform in ways that take us away from being who we are and make it near impossible to express that freely and openly.

As I know there are some unavoidable societal demands such as work attire that we don’t necessarily get to choose, it makes it difficult to be ourselves unapologetically on a daily basis. Given that being the case, there’s not much I can offer as a suggestion without it essentially being an echo of most of the voices in this thread. So like many here, hide or go small and simple. Anything you can wear under something else to where you know it’s there but it’s not fully visible, or something that is not noticeable to the untainted eye like a little bracelet or anklet or even a cutesy hair tie? 

All the best. 
 

 

Edited October 12, 2023 by SweetIsMyMiddleName

[Boomer]

It can be hard to find ways to express yourself in a professional setting.  Have you tried office supplies?  I love having all of the pretty pens, post-its, notebooks, keyboards, staplers and decorations.  I've only received positive reactions and most people don't even notice.

[BlueEyedAngel]

On 10/14/2023 at 9:18 AM, Boomer said:

It can be hard to find ways to express yourself in a professional setting.  Have you tried office supplies?  I love having all of the pretty pens, post-its, notebooks, keyboards, staplers and decorations.  I've only received positive reactions and most people don't even notice.

I just bought a giant thing of glitter gel pens!! 💕💕💕

[blingsing]

On 10/14/2023 at 3:18 PM, Boomer said:

It can be hard to find ways to express yourself in a professional setting.  Have you tried office supplies?  I love having all of the pretty pens, post-its, notebooks, keyboards, staplers and decorations.  I've only received positive reactions and most people don't even notice.

I do this too. Cute post it notes and highlighters etc

[Kali]

I've sloooowly been introducing more things to my cubicle. I now have a couple of Squishable micros/keychains hanging up, the snack sized pug sits near my computer, pretty purple wrist rests, my new purple mouse lights up. I'm waiting to see if they say anything about one of those animation light boxes I've started bringing in. 🤪🤭