the desire to be possessed / his

[Guest mortyyy]

hi everyone, 

i hope this is the right place to post this, i didn't think the other places seemed like they'd fit. 

over the last 4 years i found my way into bdsm and now ddlg. 

ddlg feels so right to me and the kind of intimacy it creates is something i know i need, to my core. 

i am an independent woman, i work and live alone, i also moved countries on my own, have a degree and am learning a new language, so have accomplished a fair few things, but... 

i find myself constantly craving a daddy. i feel the desire, so badly, to be protected and possessed by him, it's like my body won't be able to finally breathe until i find my daddy, it's such a crazy feeling. 

i know i want this because of my own daddy issues and my messy childhood, but i also find myself battling with this craving, because it goes against everything i am / believe, in my day to day nature, as in being able to support yourself, look after yourself, deal with your own issues etc. 

i also want to say that i know these things take time and i don't want to force anything, i can wait for as long as it takes to find the right person, but... 

before i go to sleep and, often, throughout the day, i day dream about my daddy coming to get me when im in trouble or being cuddled up together on a sofa under a blanket, it's so silly but i can't stop myself. 

does anyone else feel like me and battle with their desires and the contrast of their own life? 

i also don't want to loose myself as an individual if i was to enter into a long term ddlg relationship. 

thanks for reading,

Pepper xXx 

💖✨

 

Edited July 21, 2023 by peppper

[AspiringDaddy]

I hope you don't mind getting a Daddy's view on this. I'm sure littles are better placed to comment.

Pepper, you described what my girl must feel. Or at least that's what I think she feels, from what she's told me, and from the way she's told me that: To be owned by Daddy. I suspect it's a very deep, very profound, visceral desire or need, beyond a craving even. When a person gives this possession to their Daddy or Mommy, it's an act of submission, but also of faith and love like there is in no other relationship.

As a Daddy, I must say I find it difficult to say that she's my property or that I own her, even though I suspect that in her mind that it is the case. As middle ground I use the word belong. But this belonging goes way beyond the typical belonging. That still doesn't make me a Dom, I'm just a Daddy, a very soft one at that

This is one of the most beautiful things that has happened to me and I believe she is very happy.

4 hours ago, peppper said:

i also don't want to loose myself as an individual if i was to enter into a long term ddlg relationship. 

In my opinion there's no risk of losing yourself if your owner (sic) is respectful of who you are, big or little. My partner is a strong, independent and willful woman and she is very much herself, big or little, but just has this need, this craving to be owned. I don't think it's incompatible. In the end, you decide. Not your Daddy. 

 

I truly hope you will find what you are craving. From what I understand it's really fulfilling and fills that void.

 

[MissNMTX]

I absolutely identify with this post. I think you did an excellent job of articulating a very fundamental core element that exists for many of us in the dynamic. Thank you for articulating it so well.