Agere vs ddlg

[Softie.Sleepy]

How to tell the difference between the two

 

I often see people talking about age regression when it comes to DDLG which is something that has always made me extremely angry because Age Regression is some thing I studied in University and it has nothing to do with DDLG whatsoever. I don’t know why people try to correlate the two. so I thought that I would make an informational post explaining the difference between the two so people understand that they’re not the same thing. I think a lot of people in recent times have lost the true definition of DDLG really is. So without further do let’s get in first looking at age regression. 

 

Age regression:  First we’re going to look at the textbook definition of regression Regression means “to revert back to a lesser state” In layman’s terms that means some thing is less developed than what it once was (the brain). Age regression at its core is an unconscious defence mechanism that the brain puts up as a preventative method to prevent prolong toxic stress from physically damaging the brain. Prolonged toxic stress can cause, memory problems, cognitive function and in worse cases development delays within the brain. It can rewire your brain in several parts. It has been documented that over 90% of people who experience age regression experience some sort of childhood trauma and abuse. Professionals believe and Age regression stems from trauma and abuse as a child. There are Many types of age regression we will be talking about 3 today. 

 

1.) Age regression as a therapy- Age regression therapy is a hypnotherapy Practice that involves hypnotizing you into your subconscious mind while you are in your subconscious mind they revert you back to a lesser state (a child age) where something Trumatic happened to you. Then they will use something called EFT which stands for emotional freedom technique which is the Technique that involves removing the emotion from the trauma so when you’re triggered to think about a specific traumatic event the effects that it has is not as negative making it easier to cope with in every day life. 

 

2.) Behavioural Age regression- Behavioural age regression is when a person’s behaviour regresses to a lesser developed state. Behavioural age regression can be An indicator of physical health or mental health problems. I can also be perfectly fine and perfectly healthy. A professional should always be the one to make that call. Behavioural and regression is something that is very common among children and sometimes adults. Behavioural age regression looks very different for everyone. Some examples of behavioural age regression are: An adult asking to be put in diapers, A young child asking to play pretend as a baby, a child or adult doing baby talk, A person sucking their thumb under stress. 

 

3.) Age regression as a symptom- Age regression as a symptom is when age regression comes in correlation with mental illnesses. Age regression can be a symptom of many mental illnesses. Age regression can be symptom of these mental illnesses schizophrenia, dissociative identity disorder, schizoaffective disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD or CPTDS), major depressive disorder, dementia, borderline personality disorder. Age regression Will mainly be more present in personality disorders when people come face to face with distressing memories or triggers. Age regression in this instance will happen on its own and will be spontaneous.

 

Now we will take a look at DDLG and what DDLG is

DDLG: 

 

DDLG stands for Daddy Dom/Little Girl. It’s a kink, a Sublet of BDSM. The Daddy is the dominant role while the little is the submissive role. It can be a mommy and little boy or be same-sex. Other words for it is Caregiver little, Mommy Dom little boy or Mommy Dom little girl, Daddy Dom little boy.  This kink has  similar components with BDSM, but it is more a nurturing and guiding side of BDSM.  To point out, DDLG is not in$3st or p3do, or sex with minors, it does NOT condone any of these things. It is about playing a role playing (type game) between two consenting adults. Sex doesn’t even have to be involved. Every relationship is different and, like BDSM, it can be foreplay or simply a way to release or escape.

 

How does it work?:

Both BDSM and DDLG incorporate guidance, protection, training, devotion, trust, and punishments. However, there are still many differences. In Daddy/Little, age play is The main component. The Little fully embraces their inner-child and pretends to be a younger person (Baby,toddler, child) This is usually known as a little or an adult baby. And you were in the role of playing a younger person this is called “little space.” A space where you are playing a role younger than you are usually a child’s age. The Daddy/Mommy embraces their little’s inner child, And helps guide them protect them and love them. In both BDSM and DDLG, the Sub gives over power along with respect. Both have rules and punishments, but in DDLG they are much more relaxed. While both get spankings, a Sub/Slave might also have to kneel until her feet go numb, while a Little might simply not get ice cream after dinner. 

 

The Daddy/MommyRole: 

Daddy/ Mommy Doms are lovers, not hitters. They loves their little unconditionally and does not like harming them. Those with a sadistic streak may cause their Little physical pain per their desire (and for their own good), but never emotional pain. A Daddy/Mommy appreciates and cherishes all parts of a Little and grown-up. They loves that they adores cuddles and Young child things, and at the same time, guides and helps them to reach life goals. They cares for, guides, dominates, punishes, praises, comforts, understands, and loves their little.

 

The Little Role: 

A little is very complicated. They are a sexy and a cute person  They enjoys wearing sexy clothes and goes from a night out to parties with their stuffies. A Little is naturally submissive. They have complete trust, respect, and admiration for their Daddy/Mommy, feeling the safest in their. arms because they  is free to be them true self. They knows all that they do is for theirown good. All the punishments, protection, and support, even sometimes him pushing them to be their best self. They might be needy, sassy, bratty, and whiny, but they holds a pure and innocent enthusiasm.

 

A Daddy/Mommy protects their Little, but the Little is also always there to support their Daddy/Mommy. Through good and bad. 

[rosi]

I agree that it is important to keep in mind the distinction between the two. 

However, keep in mind that some of us on this forum do in fact age regress, and might mention agere topics from our own experiences. Me included. I am completely non-sexual with it, and I see that there is a variety of sexual and non sexual people on this DDlg forum. The only reason I'm on here is because I do find an overlap with the people on here, and hope to connect with like-minded people. 

But I do agree. There is definitely a stigma about those of us who are non-sexual and people automatically assume that all of us practice it as some form of kink, which makes me upset. 

Edited July 31, 2023 by rosi
Grammar error

[Cebakes]

8 hours ago, rosi said:

I agree that it is important to keep in mind the distinction between the two. 

However, keep in mind that some of us on this forum do in fact age regress, and might mention agere topics from our own experiences. Me included. I am completely non-sexual with it, and I see that there is a variety of sexual and non sexual people on this DDlg forum. The only reason I'm on here is because I do find an overlap with the people on here, and hope to connect with like-minded people. 

But I do agree. There is definitely a stigma about those of us who are non-sexual and people automatically assume that all of us practice it as some form of kink, which makes me upset. 

What color print is the OP using? I’m not able to read her post. I must be colorblind?

Why do you feel there is a stigma with being non sexual?  I’ve never looked at people that way?  Have people literally said things to you?

Technically age regression is a psychological condition not a kink.   It is not a mental health condition.  Age play is a kink.   Age regression has become a kink to many people.    Medical professionals say that the most common reasons for age  regression can be as a coping mechanism for a prior traumatic incident, to relieve stress, or to go back to your childhood to achieve and seek things you did not receive as a child.

 

Edited July 31, 2023 by Cebakes

[Himedere-Chan]

I agree with this well written and thoughtful post.

I’d like to use it as a guide line of sort or form of reference for future endeavors.

I’m also following the post so I don’t lose it. x3 I should also bookmark it maybe.. 🤔 

[Cebakes]

11 minutes ago, Himedere-Chan said:

I agree with this well written and thoughtful post.

I’d like to use it as a guide line of sort or form of reference for future endeavors.

I’m also following the post so I don’t lose it. x3 I should also bookmark it maybe.. 🤔 

I did use this article as a point of reference this morning, but  read a  fair amount about this topic over the past year trying to understand  my old middle better. There is a decent  amount of information on this topic on the Internet.
 

https://www.verywellhealth.com/age-repression-therapy-5212676

[rosi]

11 hours ago, Cebakes said:

What color print is the OP using? I’m not able to read her post. I must be colorblind?

Why do you feel there is a stigma with being non sexual?  I’ve never looked at people that way?  Have people literally said things to you?

Technically age regression is a psychological condition not a kink.   It is not a mental health condition.  Age play is a kink.   Age regression has become a kink to many people.    Medical professionals say that the most common reasons for age  regression can be as a coping mechanism for a prior traumatic incident, to relieve stress, or to go back to your childhood to achieve and seek things you did not receive as a child.

 

Whenever someone posts on a large social media platform about their age regression, a large number of people confuse it with age play and those who get sexually aroused by a caregiver/little/middle relationship. And as a result, those people get harassed and dogpiled. You might not view non sexual age regressors that way, but that doesn't mean others won't. I'm not open with my age regression to many IRL people because of this treatment and misunderstanding. Where I live, there are a lot of closed minded, bigoted people as this is a red state. 

Age regressors may or may not be into DDlg as well, and my point was that nobody should just assume they regress for sexual purposes. OP said they were angry when there was an overlap with those terms so I was agreeing with them, as well as giving insight that people might post on this forum about their age regression because there are other agere people on here. 

Hope this clears things up for you ☺️

[Cebakes]

51 minutes ago, rosi said:

Whenever someone posts on a large social media platform about their age regression, a large number of people confuse it with age play and those who get sexually aroused by a caregiver/little/middle relationship. And as a result, those people get harassed and dogpiled. You might not view non sexual age regressors that way, but that doesn't mean others won't. I'm not open with my age regression to many IRL people because of this treatment and misunderstanding. Where I live, there are a lot of closed minded, bigoted people as this is a red state. 

Age regressors may or may not be into DDlg as well, and my point was that nobody should just assume they regress for sexual purposes. OP said they were angry when there was an overlap with those terms so I was agreeing with them, as well as giving insight that people might post on this forum about their age regression because there are other agere people on here. 

Hope this clears things up for you ☺️

Yes, thanks for clearing things up for me….

[Softie.Sleepy]

On 7/31/2023 at 3:19 PM, rosi said:

Whenever someone posts on a large social media platform about their age regression, a large number of people confuse it with age play and those who get sexually aroused by a caregiver/little/middle relationship. And as a result, those people get harassed and dogpiled. You might not view non sexual age regressors that way, but that doesn't mean others won't. I'm not open with my age regression to many IRL people because of this treatment and misunderstanding. Where I live, there are a lot of closed minded, bigoted people as this is a red state. 

Age regressors may or may not be into DDlg as well, and my point was that nobody should just assume they regress for sexual purposes. OP said they were angry when there was an overlap with those terms so I was agreeing with them, as well as giving insight that people might post on this forum about their age regression because there are other agere people on here. 

Hope this clears things up for you ☺️

The thing is ddlg is not regression. Age regression is a defensive mechanism. Ddlg is a type of age play. You can involuntarily regress well being into ddlg but the 2 are never the same. When your doing ddlg stuff your are not regressing you are ageplaying. Very different 

[LittlePupRune]

Definitely appreciate highlighting the difference between ageplay and agere. I've seen it confused multiple times.

However, I need to push back on your definitions for the Daddy/Mommy role and the Little role.
Neither is inherently dominant or submissive. It is often that the big is dominant and the little submissive, but that's not always the case. Sometimes there isn't a D/s aspect either. Also, CG/l isn't always necessarily "softer" than "traditional bdsm", it can absolutely include emotional SM and more physical punishments. Because it is a subset of bdsm it is possible to include many other aspects of bdsm, including the harsher and darker parts. 

Edited September 20, 2023 by LittlePupRune

[Softie.Sleepy]

On 7/31/2023 at 7:50 AM, Cebakes said:

I did use this article as a point of reference this morning, but  read a  fair amount about this topic over the past year trying to understand  my old middle better. There is a decent  amount of information on this topic on the Internet.
 

https://www.verywellhealth.com/age-repression-therapy-5212676

very well health is known to not be a very good source for factual info. may I offer a more factual scientific research backed post on regression: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4578899/

[Softie.Sleepy]

On 9/20/2023 at 12:35 PM, LittlePupRune said:

Definitely appreciate highlighting the difference between ageplay and agere. I've seen it confused multiple times.

However, I need to push back on your definitions for the Daddy/Mommy role and the Little role.
Neither is inherently dominant or submissive. It is often that the big is dominant and the little submissive, but that's not always the case. Sometimes there isn't a D/s aspect either. Also, CG/l isn't always necessarily "softer" than "traditional bdsm", it can absolutely include emotional SM and more physical punishments. Because it is a subset of bdsm it is possible to include many other aspects of bdsm, including the harsher and darker parts. 

thank you for your feedback and input I might update this