Tips for Big Caring Hearts

[Andriel_Isilien]

When you don't know where to start as you interact with your little (that both of you have given CONSENT), here are suggestions to try.

First a disclaimer: Each little is their own unique person with likes and dislikes. Not every little likes to be called "baby". Not all littles have to want a pacifier, wear diapers, or whatever common trait we see in the community. Each person's preferences are valid and should be respected. Communicate each thing you want to try to say and do with the other person. Please don't just ASSUME pet names, physical touches, giving gifts, or whatever are OK. Be the type of caregiver that feels natural and right for YOU. We don't encourage forcing someone to change their style to fit in a box. We don't tolerate calling someone a fake because they are different than what you perceive is correct. Because being a 'good' little is subjective. Being a 'good' Daddy/Mommy is subjective.

Innocent ways to make your person feel little:

 Call yourself Daddy/Mommy or preferred "Big" title

 Talk to them like they are little, tell them they don't have to be Big

 Offer cuddles

 Ask what movie or show they want to watch

 Get them juice, animal crackers, fruit snacks, other small little foods

 Open things for them

 Kisses!

 Head pats

 Boop their nose

 Talk to their stuffies with them

 Help keep track of their stuff

 Lullabies

 Check in on them, are they drinking their recommended amount of water, did they take their meds

 Call them baby, little one, princess/prince, or preferred 'small' title

 Monitor sweets intake and screentime

 Tie up their shoelaces for them, zip up their jacket

 Ask them to hold one or two of your fingers to make their hand feel smaller

 Order food for them when eating out

 Push the swing for them at a park

 Bring seeds and foods (that are safe) for them to feed the birds and squirrels

 Invite them to sit on your lap

 Brush their hair for them

 Ask them to draw/color a picture for you

 Give them an assignment to do while you are away. Something with a purpose that can make them feel useful or accomplished when you follow up on it.

 Praises!

 Remind them how much you care about them

 Take their hand when you both cross the street

 While out together, tell them to hold onto your shirt, shopping cart, or your hand so they stay close

 Play with them (games, toys, or their preferred little activity)

 Set a bedtime for them

 When going out, check if they need to wear a jacket, proper footwear, and such for what the weather is

 Offer their comfort item when they are upset (paci, stuffie, blankie, fidgety toy)

 Help dress them for the day or pick out their outfit

 Cut up their food for them

 Hugs!

 Brush their teeth for them

 Tuck them into bed with their blankie and stuffie

 Get matching bracelets for each other, keychain, necklaces, or preferred accessory

 Use a sticker rewards chart for chores and other tasks you want them to work on

 Offer to run them a bubble bath, add in water toys

 Ask them if they need to go potty

 Put a band aid on their owie and kiss it to make it better

 Read to them a storybook for bedtime

 

What are some gestures you like your caregiver to do or that you as a caregiver like to do?

Edited September 29, 2023 by Andriel_Isilien
adding more tips

[Andriel_Isilien]

Phrases to make your person feel little:

💬 Have you eaten today? Drink enough water?

 💬 I'm proud of you

 💬 Tell me when you get [insert destination]

 💬 Did you brush your teeth today?

 💬 Take a few deep breaths for me

 💬 Sweet dreams [insert pet name]

 💬 Did you take your vitamins or meds today?

 💬 Does [insert pet name] need a nap?

 💬 Are the stuffies fighting again?

 💬 Daddy/Mommy [other Big title] is here

 💬 Everything will be alright. Let me make it better for you

 💬 You don't have to worry about that right now, you're too little

 💬 Do you need to go into littlespace?

 💬 Chin up, [insert pet name]

 💬 Look at me/Daddy/Mommy

 💬 Be good for me/Daddy/Mommy

 💬 That's my good [insert pet name]

 💬 What did you just say to me?

 💬 Do you understand me?

 💬 Use your words. Speak up

 💬 Can you do that for me?

 💬 Show me how many with your fingers

 💬 Let Daddy/Mommy do that for you

 💬 I got you a surprise! No peeking now

 💬 Don't hide from Daddy/Mommy

 💬 How's my [insert pet name]

 💬 Mommy/Daddy needs you

 💬 I pinky promise/swear

 💬 Relax for me. That's it

 💬 You must wrap up. I don't want you to catch a cold

 💬 Say please

 💬 Be careful, I don't want my [insert pet name] getting hurt

 💬 Hold my hand so you don't get lost

 💬 Do you wanna cuddle?

 💬 Let Mommy/Daddy read you a bedtime story

 💬 Take your medicine or eat your vegetables like a good boy/girl

 💬 You make Mommy/Daddy so happy!

 💬 *Counting down*

 💬 I'll kiss it and make it better

 

Share what phrases you like to say or hear. I'm not sure what to call this particular one for me but I LOVE it when a Dom does the "Hmmmm?" after asking the little a question. 

[Andriel_Isilien]

I came across a list of cute nicknames that are gender neutral for nonbinary smol humans. Use what you like. Reply with more ideas of your own.

💛 cutie (pie)

🤍 little one

💜 your highness

🖤 sugar cube/lump

💛 baby or babe

🤍 muffin

💜 darling

🖤 honey bear or baby bear

💛 sweet pea

🤍 pumpkin

💜 bug

🖤 angel or imp

💛 little bat or moth

🤍 kiddo

💜 precious

🖤 duckling

💛 peanut

🤍 munchkin

💜 little cub/wolf

🖤 honey or honeybun

💛 bub or bubba

🤍 puppy/kitten

💜 button

🖤 tiny tot

💛 love (bug)

🤍 wee one

💜 small one

Edited June 28, 2024 by Andriel_Isilien

[Andriel_Isilien]

More nicknames for your little

💗Feminine💗 princess, baby girl, little lady, little girl, beautiful, little gal, wee lass

💙Masculine💙 prince, baby boy, little man, little boy, handsome, little guy, wee lad