Why do regular Doms try to be Daddies?

[Alisolte]

On 7/20/2023 at 4:35 AM, peppper said:

heyy, i  empahise a lot. 

when I first got into bdsm, i saw a saddist Dom for about a year and, the same as you, knew I was submissive from that. 

however reading around online led me to believe that I was a baby girl and I needed a daddy dom. 

I've spoken to so many 'daddies' that backed off as soon as i didn't want to send videos of my body or video call and show my body, for me that is a hard limit. I am ok with some light body photos when flirting, but everything else I prefer to do in person. 

it's really annoying because i think there are a lot of predatory guys around who maybe think that baby girls are easy prey because we seek this bond with our daddy, so say they are a daddy dom when, actually, they are not. 

it's up to us to stick to our boundaries and limits and if they don't like it, they can piss off, all it means is they weren't the right one. 

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I think there are more predators in this area of bdsm compared to any other I have seen, but I could be wrong.

Maybe Littles/middles are just extra vulnerable, emotionally speaking, and some Doms really don't understand that element. 

[beakertube]

Well everyone's different. It's not like there's a Daddy gene, so people are gonna want to do what makes sense to them, and what turns them on. Doesn't mean they'll be good at it. It's all made up words at the end of the day and we're all just doing our respective things.

[beanbean]

3 hours ago, beakertube said:

Well everyone's different. It's not like there's a Daddy gene, so people are gonna want to do what makes sense to them, and what turns them on. Doesn't mean they'll be good at it. It's all made up words at the end of the day and we're all just doing our respective thingsthi

This is very true for sure people can try new things and there is nothing wrong with that . And that's why It is so important to ask questions and not rush in to anything 

[BrassyBabyGirl]

I have been there. I have had a Dom become confused that I had needs, boundaries and it was a give and take dynamic. Many typical Doms have a hard stop at DDLG. It is all about finding the right person and doing as the OP did which was know yourself and your needs. Brava.