Copy/Paste from Fetlife, a very useful post I found.

[FitPapaBear]

""I see it throughout the net on various Littles sites:

Girl meets a boy online

They swap a few messages here and there

Then suddenly -BLAMMO!!- she calls him Daddy.

In an Internet blink of an eye, she suddenly gives (and blindly) her heart and trust to a complete stranger hidden behind a profile.

Fun stuff is exchanged for a little while. She begins to think she truly belongs to something special.

Then one day, -BLAMMO- he's gone. And it feels like she was just dropped into the middle of an ocean without a life preserver.

 

Sound like a familiar trend?

 

Oh, the excuses are endless. They always come down with a mysterious disease, or job obligation, or something else that requires them to suddenly forces them to go off the grid. Sometimes, they even give you a courteous apology and release. Other times, they just disappear with no rhyme or reason.

 

So here's this special little "club" of Littles now. The club of castoffs.

Little hearts broken and wondering why they are discarded like kleenex.

 

They post things like "why did Daddy release me?"

The answer is always the same: they were FAKE! They were NOT REAL!

The advice is also similar: Protect your heart and wait for your REAL DADDY to appear!

And like clockwork, a slew of private messages come in. "Real Daddy" "...sorry that you've been dumped, but trust me and I will rescue you!".

 

...and in an Internet blink of an eye, you have a new Daddy and the cycle starts all over again.

 

These kinds of sad posts only mark the girl as one that is easy to manipulate. Whenever I see these kinds of posts, I can't help but see that the little is nothing short of an emotional "glory hole" for these manipulators of the heart.

These kinds of posts in a way, mark the little: hey, this ones easy and disposable!!

It sucks to be seen like that, but for the right ones...that's how it looks.

 

It's hard to break the cycle, because the little wants to believe so badly.

Truth is, the power is in their hands, yet the fantasy is much more better than the reality, so the cycle continues. The power behind a single word. Daddy. Everything that word stands for- a vessel for all the hope, dreams, love, freedom...HAPPINESS.

 

Here's my solution for all you wonderful Littles trying to find your way out of the vast ocean and onto your vessel...it's real simple.

Don't call him Daddy.

Don't give some stranger on a computer screen..or even someone you just met the power of that name. Especially if they ask or require you to address them as Daddy only.

 

The name Daddy should always be earned. Just like your heart DESERVES to be one worthy of being EARNED.

If they are unwilling to accept that, then right off the bat you already have your answer as to their integrity. And if you're willing to play along, then don't be surprised at the end result.

 

If your heart is worth it, break the cycle and respect the power of that word.

Don't ask "why he did this to me?", but "Why did I allow him the power?

 

Have respect and love for yourself, and they will respect you.

 

~~in addition (to some of the comments)...

 

It does go both ways. Some Daddies do find themselves in a vicious cycle of their own.

And the solution to this is the same.

 

Just as they SHOULD require you to EARN their heart, they too SHOULD show you the same respect and EARN their little-worthiness in your heart.

 

Don't call them Babygirl right off the bat...and certainly not Your Babygirl. Don't become a Daddy trampoline into the fantasy. Give yourself the respect you SHOULD deserve as a caring Daddy by respecting who and what you are. That starts with how you address eager and willing fantasy participants.

 

Don't ask "why did she just disappear?" Ask "why did I allow her the power?"

 

The fantasy is always going to be the easier and more fun path, but don't act surprised when the fantasy doesn't materialize into a meaningful reality.

 

Don't demean who and what you are for something that is not worthy of you.""

[mermaidgrrl]

Word.

[piinkblondie]

Ah,I needed to hear this! As a little I know I can't get easily attached .