Feeling Unwanted

[Chocodoll]

Before I start, I don't want this post to be taken as a woe-is-me kinda thing but more of a vent. 

I constantly feel as though I end up either being too much or not enough for people that I have interest in dating. My last true attempt at dating someone, I felt like I was dismissed for a small reason. One of the more painful feelings is when you meet someone you have amazing chemistry with and then the more they know about you the more they start to lose interest in you. I don't get approached much and the people I try to approach seem almost appalled that I approach them to begin with. Not to mention, the apps are useless unless you're looking to get used by someone fresh out of a relationship. I don't know... How is everyone else finding the dating scene? I've lost hope. But I do know I want my next relationship to be a ddlg one.

[LittleNyx]

Dating scene has radically changed during the last decade. Sometimes I feel that it's a Catch 22. Online platforms are great to meet people you would otherwise never run into, but you have a lot bigger chance of finding people who don't match you, simply because..well...there are so many of them. And many of them are just jumping around, not even knowing what they want. Please don't give up. Knowing what you want will attract the right person.

Edited June 27, 2023 by LittleNyx

[beanbean]

Yeah you got to stick with it I think .it's very hard to date I would say. just don't try so hard just be yourself and have fun if the people you date don't like that there chances of being your long term partner is not great .but when you do find that special some one it will be worth it

[lilpincess]

Definitely don’t give up. You never know when or where you’ll meet the right person. And even if it’s someone who is isnt your HEA, you never know what amazing people you’ll find. 
 

I’m going through a rather lengthy divorce at the moment, and the idea of dating was terrifying, especially since I didn’t date much even before I got married. I’ve gotten incredibly luckily and met an amazing daddy, and while I don’t know what the future holds for us, we’re both looking forward to finding out. I was just looking for friends in the community when he messaged me, and originally he was just going to be my caregiver, but things changed the more we got to know each other. You just never know what will happen 🙂

 

And it’s good you know that you want your next relationship to be ddlg. I felt the same way. Once I discovered it, I couldn’t imagine not having it. It’s become too important to me, and I didn’t want to be with someone where I had to hide part of myself.

 

Big hugs to you. I’m always happy to be a friend and be here to listen or just vent to or whatever helps to let that frustration out 🙂 

Edited June 27, 2023 by lilpincess

[Chocodoll]

On 6/27/2023 at 5:20 AM, lilpincess said:

Definitely don’t give up. You never know when or where you’ll meet the right person. And even if it’s someone who is isnt your HEA, you never know what amazing people you’ll find. 
 

I’m going through a rather lengthy divorce at the moment, and the idea of dating was terrifying, especially since I didn’t date much even before I got married. I’ve gotten incredibly luckily and met an amazing daddy, and while I don’t know what the future holds for us, we’re both looking forward to finding out. I was just looking for friends in the community when he messaged me, and originally he was just going to be my caregiver, but things changed the more we got to know each other. You just never know what will happen 🙂

 

And it’s good you know that you want your next relationship to be ddlg. I felt the same way. Once I discovered it, I couldn’t imagine not having it. It’s become too important to me, and I didn’t want to be with someone where I had to hide part of myself.

 

Big hugs to you. I’m always happy to be a friend and be here to listen or just vent to or whatever helps to let that frustration out 🙂 

Awww I’m so happy for you! Yeah same here. I had a little bit of a cglre sort of thing with a situationship I had and it at the very least helped me understand what I needed. I’d been losing hope in finding my someone since then but now I’d say it’s just not really a focus. I don’t even like thinking about casual dating but maybe I’ll get there soon. I just don’t see anything going anywhere. Right now I’m happy with making friends but at the back of my mind I constantly have that fear that I’ll just never be good enough for anyone else.

[Chocodoll]

On 6/27/2023 at 4:13 AM, beanbean said:

Yeah you got to stick with it I think .it's very hard to date I would say. just don't try so hard just be yourself and have fun if the people you date don't like that there chances of being your long term partner is not great .but when you do find that special some one it will be worth it

My biggest fear is that people just wanna use me. And some people are so sneaky about it I feel like I don’t know how to fully trust anyone. 

[lilpincess]

5 minutes ago, Chocodoll said:

Awww I’m so happy for you! Yeah same here. I had a little bit of a cglre sort of thing with a situationship I had and it at the very least helped me understand what I needed. I’d been losing hope in finding my someone since then but now I’d say it’s just not really a focus. I don’t even like thinking about casual dating but maybe I’ll get there soon. I just don’t see anything going anywhere. Right now I’m happy with making friends but at the back of my mind I constantly have that fear that I’ll just never be good enough for anyone else.

I completely understand. When I first discovered I was a little, I was elated, because it felt like I figured out this missing piece of myself. But then I got really sad, because I worried it might be too late for me, that I'd always have to keep it hidden and never know what it would be like to have a daddy. But then my marriage imploded, which turned out to be a good thing, and I found my daddy. So never lose hope, even if it takes awhile. 

[beanbean]

20 minutes ago, Chocodoll said:

My biggest fear is that people just wanna use me. And some people are so sneaky about it I feel like I don’t know how to fully trust anyone. 

Bring careful is good if you talk to whoever a whole bunch and really get to know them instead of rushing into things you really cut down drastically on the creeps can you eliminate them all together probably not but it's a start 

[Chocodoll]

On 6/27/2023 at 1:34 AM, LittleNyx said:

Dating scene has radically changed during the last decade. Sometimes I feel that it's a Catch 22. Online platforms are great to meet people you would otherwise never run into, but you have a lot bigger chance of finding people who don't match you, simply because..well...there are so many of them. And many of them are just jumping around, not even knowing what they want. Please don't give up. Knowing what you want will attract the right person.

The fact that most people that approach me aren’t my type and I’m too much. Of a chicken to really approach people keeps me on apps but I should really just get off them. I’ve had mostly bad experiences from them.

[LittleNyx]

Littles can be too much...and a good Daddy Dom/CG loves that 😛 Apps attract a lot of people who are...ummm...not so bright, not so honest, and not committed. But that doesn't mean everyone is like that. Not at all. But if you think about the rule of big numbers, 10 times more random people find us on apps so it can be overwhelming.

[Chocodoll]

1 hour ago, LittleNyx said:

Littles can be too much...and a good Daddy Dom/CG loves that 😛 Apps attract a lot of people who are...ummm...not so bright, not so honest, and not committed. But that doesn't mean everyone is like that. Not at all. But if you think about the rule of big numbers, 10 times more random people find us on apps so it can be overwhelming.

I had found a couple really good relationships off the apps but yeah… the majority of them are not the healthiest. Also I wouldn’t feel comfortable just asking randos if they are into the lifestyle. Hopefully I’ll find someone without trying.