New dd- I fucked up and I’m looking for a way to make up for it

[Ergege]

This might be a lame story but istg, it’s quite serious to me.
So I’m a new daddy dom and have been vetting this beautiful woman for a few months now. She’s an experienced sub but has been patient with me in my learning journey. 3 weeks ago, she fell sick and I was doing a good job taking care of her but I’ve got a shit mental health and so I went into an episode (I started therapy and it opened a can of worms) and neglected my messages for a week, this neglecting her during a time where she needed me the most. She’s quite upset with me and I really want to make it up to her and rebuild her trust for me because I really want to make it work with her. 

[lilpincess]

Mental health is tough. Is this something she knew about beforehand? Having a good talk with her about this will help. If you need to, you might want to set up reminders on your phone to check in with her. This is something that will help even when she's not going through a tough time herself. These things happen, and this is something she'll have to learn to understand and how to be there for you too. Hope things work out :-)

[beanbean]

as stated above mental health is very hard . But you need to at least put a system in place where you can let her know when something like that happens so she at least knows . Hopefully it works out for you

[Kittyara207]

Honesty.

[MasterPhotog]

Three simple steps: 
1. Totally accept your fault clearly without blaming anyone or anything, not even your mental health. 
2. Apologize unconditionally and promise never to let it happen again.
3. Make sure it doesn't happen, ever again.

[Ergege]

Update, I did apologise and take responsibility. However, the damage was too much and she decided to keep her distance and just be acquaintances for now. Her decision is understandable and justified. I’m continuing working on myself at therapy and finding resources to help me learn more about kink, relationships and how to be a better dom. I’m sad about parting with her but I’m glad she was stern with me coz it’s a lesson learnt. 
 

Sidenote, it’s quite annoying living in a country where kink folk are hard to find and resources for learning aren’t readily available but I’m determined. 
Tempted to pack my bags and move to Berlin at this point. 

[MasterPhotog]

Ergege

Thank you for having the courage to apologize and take responsibility, and for providing the update. Continuing to work on yourself, seeking professional help, and finding resources to learn more about kink and relationships, as well as ways to become a better dom are all steps in the right direction. 

Assuming she is in better health now compared to just over a year ago, and given that you are on the path to mental health recovery and continuing your education, it's important to take things one day at a time. Maintain minimal contact as you both re-evaluate your relationship and decide on the next steps.

Unless you see a definite advantage in moving to Berlin, I would avoid a drastic move.

Feel free to reach out to the Forum or message me directly for support. 

Wishing you the best of luck, please continue to stay strong.