Is this stupid to get upset over?

[Blueybluex]

My daddy and I went to build a bear I built a super cute Evie and got her a rainbow tu tu. Very special to me and I love it. He then takes his daughter to build a bear and she makes the same exact Evie with the same exact coloured tutu. 
 

my little space is special to me, am I stupid for being upset that he allowed her to copy the exact same stuffie that I made?? 

[Cebakes]

While this sounds somewhat harmless, this is now the third time you’ve posted about your daddy crossing boundaries. His daughter should not be seeing your personal things or little space stuff. You two having the same bear is continuing a pattern of him giving you and her the same thing. She is 7 and he gave you two the same fragrance. The other thing you mentioned were creepier than this. How is he doing with keeping things separate between you two?

[Blueybluex]

It gets better after each time I get hurt but then it happens again, I feel stupid because I shouldn’t get upset over stuff like this 

[beanbean]

Yeah this has happened more then once at some point you have to stand up for yourself at the very least it seems very thoughtless of him and maybe worse.but you have too bethe one that says no more

[MissNMTX]

First off, I'm so sorry for you, that as many people are in the fourm we all knew exactly who was involved. The repetition of the pattern is disturbing.

As a grown man with an actual child. The fact that he seems either unable or more likely unwilling to draw clear lines between you and an actual 7 year old is deeply unsettling to say the least.

At this point, it might be time to ask yourself why you stay in this relationship. I sure there are reasons, but they might not be good enough reasons. Your boundaries aren't being respected, neither are your thoughts. Not even your material possessions. This situation just seems messy with no improvement.

As a grown woman who cares about the safety and well being of children I have concerns about just how much his daughter is being exposed to as well. However, I'm certain you feel uncomfortable speaking to that. So, what I can say is to protect yourself until you're in a position to look out for others.

[Cebakes]

40 minutes ago, Dinorawrx said:

It gets better after each time I get hurt but then it happens again, I feel stupid because I shouldn’t get upset over stuff like this 

You should not feel stupid and you have every right to get upset over things like this.  How frequently do things like this happen? Every several months? Monthly, weekly, all the time? 

His daughter is at an age where she will become more aware of your little things, and start to ask questions why a person of your age would have things like that.   There is a high likelihood, if not already, of her becoming very jealous of your relationship with her dad. 

Breaking up and moving on is never easy, but sometimes we all have to do it. It is painful, but you are young enough where you will be able to meet someone. If you do have a gut feeling that something is off with the relationship between your daddy and his daughter, you never want to be in a position where you enable someone to harm a child.

I would encourage you to have others here DM you to get their thoughts on this. Have you shared these things with any friends? 

[Little kaiya]

The first time was bad. The second time disturbing. The third time is a clear indication he can't or won't change. As has been stated by multiple people, multiple times now, you aren't stupid for being upset. The question thst becomes increasingly more important is why you continue to remain in the relationship when he clearly doesn't care about you at best and at worst is using your littlespace in a vertmy creepy and highly potentially illegal.

This may sound bad but I wonder how long before his picture shows up on the news for a crime that I'm sure we can all sadly imagine.