Why Ghost? What is wrong with people

[Flame wolf]

As the title says , why do so many people ghost , what is wrong with them. I just don't get it. I've met so many people who have a great conversation with me , and I explain to them that I have abandonment issues so please don't ghost me and they say "I won't I promise" and then proceed to ghost a day or 2 later. Do people not realize how much damage that can do to a person. Idk maybe they have valid reasons or maybe I did something to scare them off but I just wish people would say goodbye. I'm sorry I know there is probably like 50 more of these posts on this site but I just wanted to post my feelings cuz it sucks. Ive never been with anyone and I wanna believe people when they say "you'll find someone someday" but it's hard because when I think I've found that person and they ghost me like everyone else it just hurts. Ultimately I'll keep looking , but I worry how many times people can add to my issues before I lose faith. I just wish people didn't treat us littles like pages in a book. A Lot of us have issues that need to be taken seriously. Stop playing with our emotions and getting our little delicate hearts crushed over and over and over.

[Funny_Little_Bean]

Hey sweetie. Unfortunately it seems ghosting has just become a part of online culture. I agree with you how damaging it can be though and it completely sucks. Just be strong, the right person will come along eventually. One of my favourite quotes of all time is "There's always hope" so don't give up on it. 

Its going to be okay. If you need a friend to rant to or just talk to in the meantime feel free to message me. I'd be happy to have a chat. 

Much love

Xx

[sweetgirl222]

I agree - I’ve said the same thing but to no avail. yes, apparently it’s a common practice. Or even to be in the middle of a conversation and not reply for two days - and want to pick up like nothing has happened, no acknowledgment. 

So - if that’s the culture, what’s our response going to be - that’s the question. Is it to get mad, call names, cry? Mine is “That may have hurt but their ghosting is not about me.” Even if I don’t believe it at the time, it sinks in eventually. Maybe there’s something you can think of, or someone close to you to help.

[MasterPhotog]

44 minutes ago, Flame wolf said:

As the title says , why do so many people ghost , what is wrong with them. I just don't get it. I've met so many people who have a great conversation with me , and I explain to them that I have abandonment issues so please don't ghost me and they say "I won't I promise" and then proceed to ghost a day or 2 later. Do people not realize how much damage that can do to a person. Idk maybe they have valid reasons or maybe I did something to scare them off but I just wish people would say goodbye. I'm sorry I know there is probably like 50 more of these posts on this site but I just wanted to post my feelings cuz it sucks. Ive never been with anyone and I wanna believe people when they say "you'll find someone someday" but it's hard because when I think I've found that person and they ghost me like everyone else it just hurts. Ultimately I'll keep looking , but I worry how many times people can add to my issues before I lose faith. I just wish people didn't treat us littles like pages in a book. A Lot of us have issues that need to be taken seriously. Stop playing with our emotions and getting our little delicate hearts crushed over and over and over.

 

People ghosting is extremely sad. I fully agree with you and wish people stop doing this. 
In addition, I have recently learned that talking about leaving someone can also be extremely difficult to some people, therefore, that too should be avoided at all costs. 
 

[Little_lace_]

I’m sorry you are having this experience. Especially when you’ve been open about it. Sadly most people that do are unable to handle confrontation and they don’t understand that just explaining why is easier than vanishing. 
 

Sending you happy thoughts ❤️ keep your head up 

[Kittyara207]

Just saying not interested in continuing or something.  People say clingy and needy is fine but then run off or worse.   Whats worse lying or you find out they are using you and possibly others at the same time.  Not pointing fingers at anyone  but it's a thing.

[beanbean]

Not at all defending ghosting.some people just suck at confrontation and it scares some people to tell people there not right for them it's just scary .just remember all ghosting is not the same .I am sorry it happened to you

[LittleNyx]

54 minutes ago, Little_lace_ said:

I’m sorry you are having this experience. Especially when you’ve been open about it. Sadly most people that do are unable to handle confrontation and they don’t understand that just explaining why is easier than vanishing. 
 

Sending you happy thoughts ❤️ keep your head up 

That's my opinion about ghosting too. They can avoid confrontation by ghosting. It's very very easy online. The good thing about it is that it clearly shows the person's characteristics (unless something bad happened to them), so even though it's hard and painful, at least you know they're not worth your gift. Hang in there ❤️