Neurodivergence and being little

[Yoshi_Yoshi]

Heyo, I've been musing this topic alot to myself recently, and as I've seen quite a few people mention being neurodivergent on the forum recently i thought this would be a good time to share  

Do you guys think that your neurodivergence plays a part in your littleness? sometimes i'm not sure if i would be a little if i didn't have ADD and autism because like some many of those traits overlap with my littleness, like my love for cartoons and plushie. (but at the same time, i wouldn't be me, period... without my divergency. I'd be like a different person entirely) However, sometimes these traits work against my littleness as well, like my autism can make me less excitable than some littles, and sensory experiences make it difficult to feel little. my OCD is like the antithesis of my little in a way.

furthermore, when I was looking into autism I found that unorthodox sexual habits can be a symptom of autism, now I know that not all littles are sexual, but for those that are what do you think of this? do you think that your neurodivergence could be tied to your interest in BDSM and kink life?

This entire post is more of a prompt than anything, feel free to ignore my questions and drop your thoughts and experiences of being a neurodivergent little or caregiver down below, I'm very interested in what yall have to say ^-^

[lilpincess]

I know my ADHD definitely plays into being little, but not all of it. For me, being little is also very therapeutic for me. I’ve got a fair amount of trauma in my past, and being little lets me be the protected, little me that I never got to be. But yeah, ADHD plays a big role. It helps having someone help me with remembering what tasks need to be done, to eat (big one for me because I sometimes forget and I’m also diabetic), and I just do better with rules. I don’t think my ADHD really plays a role with any of my kinks. Who knows 🤷🏻‍♀️? However we come to be little, I’m definitely happy to be a part of this community 🥰

[Guest BabyBug]

My ADHD most definitely plays a part into me being little. Not only am I easily excitable but it means sometimes I need to be watched more closely and cared for a little more. Just like lilpincess I need a bit more structure and incentive to get my tasks done. Yup, that includes eating and taking my medication too! But it's not everything, I'd still be little without it. It just helps me to have much more fun! I think it, among other things, plays a part in my sexual habits. These are very good questions!

Edited June 3, 2023 by Cricket

[Erasmeus71]

I think so you can add Dyspraxia to the list also. As one may have trouble with hands and clumsy. I keep reading about littles. In Wattpad books The ittles seem to have trouble with hands . May trip over there feet. Low writing skills. I have some Dyspraxia in me. Stammering is usually going with autism. Although if ine has trouble with certain anunciation like flipping of letters like W/R for example that is dyspraxia again.

[LittleBunnyCici]

I'm going to preface this with the acknowledgement that my mental health situation is nuanced, especially because I had a therapist when I was in high school that was absolutely atrocious and screwed up my diagnoses in ways that I'm still working on unravelling. I'm 100% convinced that I'm somewhere on the spectrum and that I have ADHD, and I've had it strongly suggested by a therapist that I look into bipolar disorder with a psychiatrist. I actually had a diagnosis for ADHD when I was young, until that therapist came into the picture and completely undid all of the work that my previous therapists had done and changed my diagnosis to just "Depression" lol I've never been officially tested for Autism, and in the spirit of honest I'm also entirely uninterested in pursuing an official diagnosis for any of these conditions as that can impact my ability to emigrate out of the United States if I have to leave at some point in the future.

That is all to say, while it may be a bit cliche my answer is an emphatic yes. My mental health can be precarious, and that's a huge contributing factor in why I am so strongly attracted to the CG/l dynamic. When my mental health is bad, it quickly becomes overwhelming. It's a useful motivator for me to have someone to whom I'm responsible, other than just myself, and can help me stay on top of all the fiddly bits in life that sneak up on me. But beyond that, having this sort of relationship dynamic - where I have a partner who is my safe space to retreat to when the negative self-talk is nearly deafening and who lets me unload all of the anxiety and stress that comes with that during ageplay and playing out our power dynamics - is a major release valve that helps to keep me balanced.

 

[lilpincess]

It’s definitely a part of big and little space for me I think 

[Erasmeus71]

5 hours ago, SleepyLinen said:

I think it does; though now I have to ask a question. Does stimming end up being a part of your littlespace? I didn't think until now the overlap of cute items or bright colors of a lot of stim toys and how that could be seen as regular toys in littlespace. Or when playing pretend and doing certain motions (ex: flapping arms). Or weighted blankets even 

For me, its sort of a place where I can not think as much due to being "too little", but it seems to calm my ADD jitters down more somehow. It's a weird pressure release valve I dont understand. But, I can have moments where I do struggle to focus and keep on task because I just see everything around me and Im not as able to easy stop myself.

 

Interesting stimming is only autism related not a kink. So there is a difference right there. I have been talking to those autistics for years. However I would like to point out not ALL autistics are alike . That is why it is a spectrum. I was checked for autism as a kid. Autism is a sensory related not behavior issue. Whoever says it is behavior is misinformed. The sensory may cause the triggors that may cause behevore problems like yelling at someone when they are hyper sensitive. 

When you talk about neurodivergent it means Autism, dyslexia, dyspraxia, ADHD, APD, Dyscaclia, bipolar, epilepsy and I may be missing some stuff. They all connected. If they checked me for SPD as a kid and diagnosed me with autism. They may of found I was an epile[ic as my hypersensitivity causes my brain to trigger seizures from some stuff like flashing graphics, noise. Everything an Autistic would want to avoid . Go to a sensory friendly theme park. I need to do now.

[Erasmeus71]

That was my mistake I meant both Autism and ADHD. That is difference I don't have that. Mine is more dyspraxic/Autism/APD/Epilepsy/SPD

Edited June 6, 2023 by Erasmeus71

[StrayKittenNZ]

I feel my autism has quite a big role in my middleness. As a kid I quickly became one of the autistic stereotypes, "little professor", and I've stayed that way all the way till now. It's just way easier for me to fake adult (purely for practical reasons) nowadays, since I look big enough. I suspect autism has plenty to do with me never becoming older emotionally in the first place, it's called developmental disorder after all.

[MsMaddie]

I’m undiagnosed but I have autism/adhd. It absolutely 100% is related to my interests in ddlg/subbing. I function better overall when I have a dom/daddy. I have sensory related eating issues and also my body doesn’t tell me when I’m hungry until I pass out, so having a dom/daddy really helps with that part. I have less meltdowns when I have a caregiver, I’m able to navigate work and my professional responsibilities about 80% better when I have a caregiver as well.