Needing Some advice please

[littlesparklybear]

Hi everyone, I really love being little but my SO and I are long distance at the moment. I'll be staying with him for a month in August and I'm really nervous. I am so incredibly excited to be little with him but I'm also quite scared, this will be the first time we've been like little and daddy in person if that makes sense. My daddy finds it hard to be daddy over the phone so I often feel as though I am iniating everything, and I am worried that's what it'll be like in August. Sometimes I feel like a burden to him when I am little and like I'm forcing him into it, realistically I know I'm not but I am an excellent overthinker. I'm scared to tell him what I need for fear of rejection or that I'm being too pushy

[beanbean]

Well you do need to tell him what you need as that well help you both grow and if you tell him what your thinking you might be able to work on this stuff before you meet.thus making your trip more enjoyable when it happens 

[Goofy Dad Energy]

As long as you communicate your wants and he communicates his you will both be happier for it. His love language may just be very physical so he may struggle expressing his feelings of that over distance. I wouldn't worry about him feeling burdened either, if he's anything like me he will love your attention regardless.

[Cebakes]

As discussed above, you two should communicate as much as possible about these issues or feelings.  It’s natural to have nervous excitement and fears over a first meet like this, but you can’t let these fears get the best of you.  

You have almost two months before you meet, hopefully you guys can establish a good level of comfort by then.  With that being said, during the next two months, you definitely want to continue to get to know him and establish that there is good chemistry, fit,  and a solid DDLG dynamic between you two. 

[LittlePrincessBunny]

On 5/26/2023 at 11:29 PM, littlesparklybear said:

Hi everyone, I really love being little but my SO and I are long distance at the moment. I'll be staying with him for a month in August and I'm really nervous. I am so incredibly excited to be little with him but I'm also quite scared, this will be the first time we've been like little and daddy in person if that makes sense. My daddy finds it hard to be daddy over the phone so I often feel as though I am iniating everything, and I am worried that's what it'll be like in August. Sometimes I feel like a burden to him when I am little and like I'm forcing him into it, realistically I know I'm not but I am an excellent overthinker. I'm scared to tell him what I need for fear of rejection or that I'm being too pushy

I am a over thinker as well but great communication is key to any good relationship especially a ddlg relationship. Just be honest about your feelings and needs and everything will be okay. And I know rejection is scary it always is but just know no matter what you deserve to be happy so just be yourself and everything will work out.

[littlesparklybear]

16 minutes ago, LittlePrincessBunny said:

I am a over thinker as well but great communication is key to any good relationship especially a ddlg relationship. Just be honest about your feelings and needs and everything will be okay. And I know rejection is scary it always is but just know no matter what you deserve to be happy so just be yourself and everything will work out.

Thank you so much for the help☺️☺️

[LittlespaceCaregiver]

It's completely understandable to feel nervous and excited about the prospect of being little with your partner in person for the first time. Long-distance relationships can present unique challenges, especially when it comes to maintaining roles and dynamics. However, open and honest communication is crucial in any relationship, and it's important to address your concerns with your partner.

Take some time to explore your own thoughts and emotions about being little and expressing your needs. Understanding your fears and concerns can help you articulate them to your partner more effectively.

Find a comfortable and relaxed setting to have a conversation with your partner about your desires and concerns. Make sure you both have the time and space to discuss these matters openly.

Share with your partner what being little means to you and what you envision for your time together in August. Communicate your desires, expectations, and any specific activities or behaviors that you'd like to explore. Remember to emphasize that your desires are not demands, but rather expressions of your authentic self.

Let your partner know that you value their input and want to hear their thoughts and feelings on the matter. Create a safe space where both of you can express yourselves honestly without fear of judgment or rejection.

Talk about your worries regarding feeling like a burden or being too pushy. Assure your partner that you understand their limitations and that you don't want to impose on them. Reassure them that this conversation is about finding a balance that works for both of you.

Seek ways to compromise and find a middle ground that satisfies both of your needs. Maybe you can establish a system of clear communication, where you can express your desires and your partner can indicate their availability or willingness to participate.

Remember, building a strong foundation of trust and understanding takes time. 

[Erasmeus71]

Look as one that tends to try write my thoughts all over the place. Autistics tend to think all over the place. Main reason my writing or when I talk I don't stay on point.