Is it OK to feel like you need ddlg to be happy in a relationship

[Flame wolf]

Hi, so I've been trying for a fairly long time to find a partner.  I've tried multiple apps, and I try to make myself look like a snack when I go out (jk jk ) anyhow with most of the dating apps I use I include in my bio that I'm a little , and that im ideally looking for someone who can indulge that side of me. I put this because I honestly believe I need a ddlg relationship to be happy. I need someone who will look out for me and let me indulge in a childlike headspace every now and then since i didnt get the female childhood i would have liked. I value this type of relationship allot but is this a bad way of thinking. Should i put less importance on it, and just accept it not being in a relationship?

[Bunny Daddy]

I dont think there is anything wrong with putting forward what you want in a relationship I know compromise is important but if that is something that you need then it is something that you need 

[Little kaiya]

I knew I needed DDlg in a relationship and I refused to lie to myself that I would somehow be happy without it. I didn't find my Wife until I was 26 and my Daddy until I was 38. I find a lot of the time there are younger folks that want to rush to find a relationship. I see folks in their late teens or early twenties talking about having looked for so long and being on the verge of giving up.

Finding the right partner takes time. If you enter into a relationship thst won't provide what you know you need then it means you aren't available when you may finally meet the right person. Be honest with yourself about what you want vs need, they aren't the same, and then live your life and enjoy until you meet the right person or persons that meet those needs.

[Guest Runa]

No, it's not a bad way of thinking!  Why should we apologise for our wants or needs?    I was single for so many years before I met my Daddy and He was 100% worth waiting for.  I believe the best thing that you can do is grow as a person, find what you like and dislike, learn who you are.  Don't compromise when it comes to something you know that you need.  There are lots of people out there that love to nurture, guide and care for their partner.   

[Cebakes]

Over the years I’ve been on and off the apps/sites and feel I have a pretty good overview of what they offer.  In my opinion, DDLG, as far as a lifestyles/kink, is not something that the vast majority of people understand, seek to explore, or have experienced/live. Thanks to the internet,  people are now learning about DDLG at a much younger age, but most most people have never heard of it or understand what it really is.  

Unfortunately,  I think the odds are slim that you are going to meet a real daddy at a club or social venue.  You might meet a guy who is dominant and into D/S, but it’s a numbers game and the odds are against it.

Probably  your best bet is still the online sites.  I assume you post a personal ad here? The other sites  where I see  DDLG or being a little mentioned include Fet Life, Adultfriendfiner, and FEELD.   In my opinion, FEELD offers the highest quality people, but does not have the numbers of AFF or Fet.  FEELD is best suited for those in larger metro areas. 

I think some males can pick up DDLG very quickly if they have innate daddy traits, are caregivers/protectors, praise givers, dominant, etc.  In your ads you should mention DDLG, if you are submissive, and if space is provided, explain in detail,  the traits you seek. As daddy’s, we all have to start somewhere and if a male has innate daddy skills, it’s not the hardest thing to learn.  I will say, if you don’t have those traits and desires,  it’s not something you can fake for very long in a relationship.

I’ve been out looking for several months and met three women  who wanted to explore DDLG but I elected to not go down the path with them.  I’m being very selective, but it is a numbers game, and I’m not see many involved in DDLG or having the right traits or interest in DDLG.  I do realize my age creates certain limitations.  It helps that I have my middle S, but that relationship will change again when she meets the right guy.

I would be patient and not give up in finding a daddy.  You will have to decide when it it’s time to date or meet non DDLG guys. 

[beanbean]

I don't think your wrong at all you do you and if your happy great but don't let me or anyone tell you how to be happy 

[PrincessBinny]

I definitely feel this way. I am 26 and just now figuring out what my needs are and I've finally come to terms with being a little.

I know that finding and having a daddy as extremely important to me being comfortable in my skin!

[Andriel_Isilien]

I at first thought I mustn't need such a dynamic because it would encourage codependency. But only you can determine what is safe and healthy for yourself, no one else. What may be enabling to someone can be just the thing to help a person to grow. I determined that this helps me become a better person, happier, more functional, and thrive. Isn't that what we all want?

[Erasmeus71]

Seeing the girl that I was going to marry tell she died. Finding out she is a little. It explains why I could not keep iit equal. She wanted me to be dominant. I would rather be the person being the caring to my little. I loved the feeling It explains why I feel different with Jennifer then any other. Now there was a few other girls I have a feeling they might be littles too. Only I did not get close enough to them. Seeing one relationship was a DDLG one. I just did not have Jennifer call me Daddy. I think she wanted me as one. So if something works don't change and don't rock the boat. That is why I came in here.