DDLG Help Please

[Babybluex]

Hi! I have been with my Daddy about 6 Weeks and we was talking 1 month prior we haven't yet been intimate but it is coming really soon. I am a complete newbie to DDLG but always knew it was something i was suppressing and finally took the plunge.  
 

As i am so new and still learning i wanted to get other Little/Daddy’s perspective's on some things what just arent sitting right with me.

On the platform we met he still constantly follows lots of other Littles/Subs/Brats etc etc and is constantly liking their photos and sometimes posting sexual/flirty comments.
 

We send each other photos and one he decided i should post on my profile as he wanted to see the male attention i would get? I done it but really didnt want to and now feel uncomfortable everytime i see it. I also thought to myself why would my Daddy want other people viewing🙈

It Is making me feel really insecure but i don’t want to sound crazy at the same time i dont send as much nudity or explicit photos as the ones he likes so its making me question. 
 

Does anyone else have a Daddy what acts like this? Am i over reacting and expecting to much. I would love to hear and thankyou for any responses 💖

[AspiringDaddy]

2 minutes ago, Babybluex said:

On the platform we met he still constantly follows lots of other Littles/Subs/Brats etc etc and is constantly liking their photos and sometimes posting sexual/flirty comments.

one he decided i should post on my profile as he wanted to see the male attention i would get? I done it but really didnt want to and now feel uncomfortable everytime i see it. I also thought to myself why would my Daddy want other people viewing

None of this sounds right to me. This is not CG- or Daddy-like behaviour.

Liking other little's pictures, just because they're actually likeable, isn't necessarily wrong. But posting sexual & flirty comments while he's supposed to be your Daddy, nope, not OK at all.

Wanting to exhibit you? No, not OK.

Tell him you're very uncomfortable with this. Take down your post and see how he reacts to that.

Take care and protect yourself.

[Babybluex]

Thankyou for your reply! Its kind of been bugging me but i didnt know if i was over reacting…..

The nature of the site i get it to express yourself etc and my issue isnt liking the photos but sometimes the comments im a bit like 😔 But didnt know if i was over reacting. 
 

Thankyou i will delete it and see how he reacts im really insecure so it was a big thing to even send him a photo like that i feel stupid for posting it and expressed my reservations but he plays back on the fact “Will do anything for Daddy” 

[Cebakes]

No you are not overreacting. It’s something you are not comfortable with and you need to tell him. While what you mention happens, it’s not the norm or required.  If two people are into this, and that’s their thing, this is fine.  

You absolutely need to tell him you want the pic taken down and discuss this whole topic.  You need to express  your strong views on this to him and also get an understanding of her why he wants to post pictures of you.  

You have not shared enough information about your daddy to get a deep understanding of what’s going on here, but it’s sounds like his interests in viewing these sites and women goes beyond normal to possibly obsession.   

[Guest Runa]

31 minutes ago, Babybluex said:

Hi! I have been with my Daddy about 6 Weeks and we was talking 1 month prior we haven't yet been intimate but it is coming really soon. I am a complete newbie to DDLG but always knew it was something i was suppressing and finally took the plunge.  
 

As i am so new and still learning i wanted to get other Little/Daddy’s perspective's on some things what just arent sitting right with me.

On the platform we met he still constantly follows lots of other Littles/Subs/Brats etc etc and is constantly liking their photos and sometimes posting sexual/flirty comments.
 

We send each other photos and one he decided i should post on my profile as he wanted to see the male attention i would get? I done it but really didnt want to and now feel uncomfortable everytime i see it. I also thought to myself why would my Daddy want other people viewing🙈

It Is making me feel really insecure but i don’t want to sound crazy at the same time i dont send as much nudity or explicit photos as the ones he likes so its making me question. 
 

Does anyone else have a Daddy what acts like this? Am i over reacting and expecting to much. I would love to hear and thankyou for any responses 💖

You're not overreacting!  You're not expecting too much!  ❤️

Following other littles/subs/brats when you're in a relationship isn't necessarily wrong but it is something you and your Daddy should agree on.  Being a Daddy doesn't mean you can disregard how your little feels and flirt with anyone you want!

When my Daddy and I started out together he made it clear that I wasn't to interact with any other Daddies at all and he would not interact with any other littles at all.  We made that rule together.  Over time this has changed for both of us but we always have to agree on what's allowed and what's not allowed so there are no misunderstandings between us.  He is my Daddy.  I am his little.  No one is allowed to fill those roles for the other!

You need to speak with your Daddy and tell him your uncomfortable with him flirting and commenting on other's content.  It sounds like that's an important boundary for you and that's a-okay and totally normal.  I'd be devastated if my Daddy did that with other littles!

Again, your Daddy asking you to post something online because he finds it exciting isn't necessarily wrong but you have to be okay with it, too!  Your Daddy's primary concern is you and how that makes you feel!  You said you've taken the photo down and that's good!  I wouldn't wait to see your Daddy's reaction though, I would tell him you've taken it down and the reason why you did that.  It's a good way to start a conversation on your boundaries and see if he's willing to respect them.

I have to say that using the "anything for my Daddy" line is a little concerning.  To me that sounds like he's trying to manipulate you, even emotionally blackmail you.  I would do anything for my Daddy but I also have complete and total confidence he would never ask me to do something harmful or upsetting!

You're not crazy, okay?  You're not blowing this out of proportion.  You absolutely deserve to feel safe and secure with your Daddy. 

[beanbean]

Yes biggest think I would suggest is slowing it down a bit to see how he reacts and you can explore this forum meet people read the topics  . That way you can see exactly how he reacts 

[MasterPhotog]

Your Daddy asking you to share ANY photos that you're not fully comfortable with is NOT OK, period.

You're well within your rights to let him know your feelings. 

[DaddyDragon88]

A daddy's duty is to make you feel safe, comfortable, and cared for. At all times.

He doesn't get to force you to do anything you are not okay with, especially if its something only for his pleasure.

If he isn't listening to your feelings then he doesn't care about you.  he doesn't deserve to be called "daddy" if he acts this way. That is something he should earn through trust over time. If he is now abusing that trust that's a big nope. A good daddy will be consistent and shouldn't ever switch up how they treat you. (Unless you have consented and talked about it beforehand!)

That is abusive, and leaves you confused/vulnerable. It is a common tactic for abusers who prey on vulnerable people. They lure you in with comfort, and then try to push your boundaries as much as they can.

Ignoring your needs and that "you will do anything for Daddy" thing... that is a huge🚩 for abusive behaviour

Edited May 9, 2023 by DaddyDragon88

[Andriel_Isilien]

Do not question your gut reaction or feelings about things... ever. Consent is serious in every form. Just because someone else likes a type of attention doesn't mean you must subject yourself to that. When it doesn't sit right with you, speak up and set a boundary. You deserve to be respected and safe.

[Vampiress]

Everything has pretty much been said. It's not inherently wrong for him to be into those things, but he should discuss it with you first and see if you are okay with it. If it's too important to him let go of, then he shouldn't be doing it without your consent. Better to go seperate ways if you both want different things. What he did do wrong was pushing you to do stuff you're not comfy with and manipulating you by saying you should be willing to do anything for him. Massive red flag that should give anyone pause.

[LongTimeMe]

On 5/8/2023 at 10:42 AM, Cebakes said:

You absolutely need to tell him you want the pic taken down and discuss this whole topic.

I would go further and say that you need to remove the picture immediately without any discussion. Anything that makes you feel uncomfortable is not right for you. 

Please make sure that you are 100% safe and only do things that you willingly, and of your own free consent agree to. This person does not sound like a "Daddy" to me as a daddy would not put his little in such a position.

[Guest Fae ME]

On 5/8/2023 at 10:19 AM, Babybluex said:

Hi! I have been with my Daddy about 6 Weeks and we was talking 1 month prior we haven't yet been intimate but it is coming really soon. I am a complete newbie to DDLG but always knew it was something i was suppressing and finally took the plunge.  
 

As i am so new and still learning i wanted to get other Little/Daddy’s perspective's on some things what just arent sitting right with me.

On the platform we met he still constantly follows lots of other Littles/Subs/Brats etc etc and is constantly liking their photos and sometimes posting sexual/flirty comments.
 

We send each other photos and one he decided i should post on my profile as he wanted to see the male attention i would get? I done it but really didnt want to and now feel uncomfortable everytime i see it. I also thought to myself why would my Daddy want other people viewing🙈

It Is making me feel really insecure but i don’t want to sound crazy at the same time i dont send as much nudity or explicit photos as the ones he likes so its making me question. 
 

Does anyone else have a Daddy what acts like this? Am i over reacting and expecting to much. I would love to hear and thankyou for any responses 💖

Daddy should be someone with whom you must feel most secured on Earth and beyond. 

Try not to rush. Talk with him about your issues. It is the duty of Daddies to feel you comfortable and valuable first.

Then only he can earn this title "Daddy" and little can take away this title at anytime.