Not Ready

[Ree Ree]

My daddy told me not to call him Daddy anymore and that I wasn't ready to fully submit to him. I am devastated. I love my Daddy so much. I sent him some pichers to show him how much I want to be a good girl for him. Sometimes my emotions get the best of me and I don't know how to act and I am toopid and I do dumb things and I disappoint and let down my Daddy. I'm so sad. ReeRee

Edited May 2, 2023 by Ree Ree

[beanbean]

Not sure what you supposedly did to not submit but it just seems like more talking is needed to work out whats going on .it would seem to me not letting you call him daddy is not productive in the long run 

Edited May 2, 2023 by beanbean

[STLMike]

Sorry to hear.. but never feel like you're stupid. Ever. Least in my opinion. Like Bean said it doesn't sound productive at all in the long run. It may not feel like it now but might be best for you in the long run of things. Keep your chin up.

[Kittyara207]

Never call yourself stupid.  We all do things that are not perfect or that are not too smart.  But being human is not easy and we all make mistakes.   Anxiety I understand sometimes thinking the worst.  I think you need to communicate or speak with him.  Being honest with yourself is very important.  There are times when its hard to submit if you are still anxious and unsure.  Stepping back might help.

I hope you two figure out what's best for you both.  

[beanbean]

Yes sorry I should have stated this to in no way are you stupid

[sweetgirl222]

I echo the anti-stupid sentiment. But I can say that nobody gets to tell you that your emotions get the best of you, not even you. You are entitled to all your emotions. What you are not always ok to do is how you act on them. Talking would help, but if he's a caregiver, he would know what telling you not to call him Daddy anymore would cause. Not enough info here and not asking for it, but just remember nobody gets to treat you badly, not even you.

[Guest Daddy'sSweetGirl]

I don't think this is a dynamic that can or should be turned on and off on a whim (not saying that's what happened, but without more info it kind of seems that way). You are not stupid at all for having emotions and feeling a certain way about this. It seems that your daddy isn't communicating well where he should of and he should be communicating with you in a better and healthier manner. I'm sorry that you have to go through this. Is he willing to explain his behavior?

[Guest Fae ME]

5 hours ago, Ree Ree said:

My daddy told me not to call him Daddy anymore and that I wasn't ready to fully submit to him. I am devastated. I love my Daddy so much. I sent him some pichers to show him how much I want to be a good girl for him. Sometimes my emotions get the best of me and I don't know how to act and I am toopid and I do dumb things and I disappoint and let down my Daddy. I'm so sad. ReeRee

When he does not want, then try to move on. Find someone else who wants you as you are without seeking any changes in you. It may pain you sometimes, but it will be good for your future. Everything that happens with us, happens for our best. Trust in yourself and move on. You become your prime friend and give pleasure to yourself. Then try to find out someone likely because love and submission do not come true or pure when it comes through force.

[AspiringDaddy]

6 hours ago, Ree Ree said:

My daddy told me not to call him Daddy anymore and that I wasn't ready to fully submit to him. I am devastated. I love my Daddy so much. I sent him some pichers to show him how much I want to be a good girl for him. Sometimes my emotions get the best of me and I don't know how to act and I am toopid and I do dumb things and I disappoint and let down my Daddy. I'm so sad. ReeRee

What wouldn't I give to be called Daddy, and once that happens, there would be no turning back.

A real Daddy (father) would remain Daddy, whatever his little may or may not have done.

Be strong Ree Ree.

[Cebakes]

I read your profile and see your daddy is most likely a member here.  Hopefully he reads this thread.   I’ve never heard of saying to someone that I am no longer your daddy, unless you are breaking up.   Looks like you’ve been together since February or so.  I hate to say it, but by now he knows your fears and weaknesses, and is probably using them against you.  The honeymoon period is over and he is showing his true colors. 
 

Life is too short to stay in a relationship like this.  You should look for a new daddy.

[beanbean]

9 hours ago, gigisweetheart said:

Is it common in this community for someone to revoke the right to call them daddy (or mommy/caregiver/etc) while both of the people are still in the relationship? I hope not. 

I mean… I would understand if a person didn’t want to be a daddy anymore, or didn’t want to be with their partner at all anymore, but… that seems a little harsh? Or like emotional blackmail?

If he needs to change the rules of your dynamic then he needs to have an adult conversation about it with you and not leave you guessing or make you beg and “prove” your worth to him (unless that’s part of your dynamic I guess). 

If my daddy expected me to “fully submit” I’d be asking plenty of questions of what that means. You need to have clear rules of how dominant someone is going to be over you. I don’t think it’s a good idea for someone to suddenly decide that what you’re offering isn’t enough and punishes you for it. ☹️

Yes emotional Black mail seems like the right word for sure . The details are scant but all these things should be talked about before imo

[Ree Ree]

Thank you everyone for the kind and heart felt replies. Means alot to me. My daddy and I talked alot over the last few days and I decided to tell you all that because of my emotions and anxiety at the time I blew things way out of proportion. Daddy wasn't aware of all the things that were piling up in my little noggin that caused me to have a major meltdown and it was unfair of me to not tell my daddy everything.  That was my fault. Daddy is very loving and he is helping me through all my troubles but I just wanted to thank each of you for also helping me. Ree Ree

[Vampiress]

I'm glad you talked and worked it out, but in the future it would be unwise for him to just say that he can't call you Daddy anymore. To me that seems akin to silent treatment where it is abruptly taken away, and that is an abusive behavior. It sounds like you both have things to work on together, and I hope that you can figure all of that out towards creating a healthier dynamic.