How to deal with sensitive Little?

[Guest Fae ME]

I found two nice comments on how to deal sensitive little from Pinterest. Sharing the links here too: 

https://pin.it/5WVILuO

What do you think? https://pin.it/1LLFkG9

[beanbean]

Wise words 

[Guest Fae ME]

Thanks @beanbean

[Little kaiya]

Hmmmm, not sure I'd really agree with the two attachments. It sets a bad precedent to me that encourages new people to the community to disregard what their partner is saying.

If I say "leave me alone" that means 100% that I want to be left alone. I'm a very direct person when I speak, I don't want someone trying to interpret what I'm saying. 

Another example, the word "hate" is VERY strong to me. I would NEVER use it to mean I'm confused. 

I just think documents thst suggest there is some standard "little code" encourage not listening to or taking your partner at their word for what they are saying which can be very dangerous.

Edited May 1, 2023 by Little kaiya

[beanbean]

Well the bottom line is communicate what you want from the get go we are all different and talking about what we need and want is very important. very sensitive little need daddys that understand and there are ones that want something else .

[Cebakes]

1 hour ago, Little kaiya said:

Hmmmm, not sure I'd really agree with the two attachments. It sets a bad precedent to me that encourages new people to the community to disregard what their partner is saying.

If I say "leave me alone" that means 100% that I want to be left alone. I'm a very direct person when I speak, I don't want someone trying to interpret what I'm saying. 

Another example, the word "hate" is VERY strong to me. I would NEVER use it to mean I'm confused. 

I just think documents thst suggest there is some standard "little code" encourage not listening to or taking your partner at their word for what they are saying which can be very dangerous.

Hate is a very strong word and one that should never be said to a partner.Hate means hate. 

[Guest Fae ME]

Sensitive littles are dangerous. Not everyone have capacity to handle them. You must know yourself first about your want and desires, like do you want your girl to say nothing more than "Yes/No/Thanks"? Then try BDSM.

Daddies support littles. Daddies never think about themselves. Daddies prime focus should go on little. And I agree sensitive littles are dangerous, but some people like them. For example, I am a sensitive little or in other words a little devil. Many people failed to conquer me. No one can rule me because I am immune from pain, loneliness as I am habituated with it. 

Let me share a story without mentioning any name here: I was a student of Criminal law in a University then. I was not in a mood to attend the class. Professor was a kind and caring man who was talking about topic-criminal damage. He took an example of a case relating to damage of Mummy that is subject to national property. After 2 minutes he realised that the whole class is talking about ghost, ghost movies, and ghost stories led by me. So from then he bribe me one book in each day to stay as a good girl in his class and from then I never disturbed his class and passed with a distinction. 

So you need to understand what you want, a submissive who will love you and go straightforward which many dom find lucky; or you want to explore a little; or you want to conquer a sensitive little if you like challenges because sensitive littles challenge their Daddies every time, hold them guilty and punish them when they are on fault, they tends not to disclose themselves even to their daddies or never tend to accept anyone easily out of fear or otherwise, but when they see that their Daddies are failing and realizing their failure then sensitive littles help their Daddies to win the game through little code and if Daddy can understand the code he wins. Finally, never challenge sensitive littles. What you think their ego, it is simply their capacity and this can destroy you even. 

Understand yourself and go clear when you meet someone. 

Edited May 2, 2023 by Little Devil Tikli

[Guest Fae ME]

2 hours ago, GayKitten said:

There are just......sooo many broad generalizations, incorrect assumptions, and topical non-sequiturs here that I don't know how to respond properly.

Like, it's strange and unnecessary to me to to be so prescriptive, and feel like you can define all the archetypes that exist within our kink? So much of what you describe is at odds with the lived experiences, nuances of individuality, and changes over time that people describe here with their partners and their relationships to kink.

Thanks for trying to explain, I guess those images you posted are just something I don't get. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

This forum is not only restricted to Kink.

And sensitive littles are also part of Kink world. They are also human being. 

Open up your mind and you will find the way out by yourself. Good luck. 😊

Edited May 2, 2023 by Little Devil Tikli

[Cebakes]

1 hour ago, Little Devil Tikli said:

This forum is not only restricted to Kink.

And sensitive littles are also part of Kink world. They are also human being. 

Open up your mind and you will find the way out by yourself. Good luck. 😊

While you did state above that you “are sharing your views”, there are, as also mentioned above,” many broad generalizations, incorrect assumptions, and topical non-sequiturs”.  

Many people view DDLG as a lifestyle, and not a kink. I’ve read Little Kaiya”s post twice and I don’t see how you can say they are a submissive BDSM.  You probably should avoid labeling people here.  From  that post,  they could be a dominant or submissive, or neither,  I can’t tell, they are simply stating some views I think are spot on.  I could have written those words myself and I’m certainly not submissive.

It’s  a slippery slope when people people start talking about lists and definitions. Always skeptical of white knights and others who tell people what is right or the true way.  The forums and alt sites are full of these types.  I’m not saying that is what you did.  Sometimes I even catch myself making statements that are too broad.  

As far as daddies not thinking about themselves, most do.  I would be lying if I said I didn’t.  The key is keeping those feelings and thoughts in check, not showing them, and being solely focused on my little or middles needs.   

As you can see, some disagree with your views and vision.  I think debate and discussions like this are healthy so others can see there is no one true way.  Everyone and their relationships and definitions are different.  
 

 

 

[Guest Fae ME]

@Cebakes Thanks for sharing your view. I edited my statement. It is true I should not lebel anyone. Sorry for the trouble. 

Secondly, I am not against debate and discussion. I highly appreciate it. Thanks again. 

[AspiringDaddy]

21 hours ago, Little Devil Tikli said:

sensitive little 

 

 I was wondering if there were insensitive littles. Anyway, if you have raised children, you probably know that for little (and less little) kids this is all fairly common. For littles (where there still is an adult under the hood somewhere), I'm not so sure and I don't think it the negative phrases mentioned ought to be used in anger.

The last little code though: ❤️❤️ = keep on talking. Yes. Very nice.

[GrampyP]

Thank you all for your comments, it's been a prime example of how everyone is unique. I appreciated the lists in the first place because they got my mind going in the direction of trying to grasp what is going on behind the obvious. I didn't take them as exhaustive, more like a partial list of possibilities, and while there is no substitute for good communication, good communication doesn't always happen in the moment.

The comments prove how different everyone's perspective can be different and not necessarily wrong.

The whole thread is a microcosm of relationships and a hint at the nuances that are always present any time two (or more) people are interacting.

Relationships take time to reach a mutual level of understanding, but isn't that what our goal should be? 

Again, thank you all.

[Guest Fae ME]

I must recognise that I have enormous blessings that I have Daddy like him who spare me since I was 3 years old. 

I am greatful that he sent me here so that I can understand that how much protected I am. 

It's a shame that I misunderstood my Daddy and leave him alone for past 2 years. Thanks @beanbean unless you suggested me to communicate clearly with him, I would never been able to understand that just like wall he protect me. God is great indeed.

[Erasmeus71]

Sorry when you refer to sensitivity it can be mixed up with hyper and hypo-sensitive. I happen to be hyper sensitive.

Edited May 3, 2023 by Erasmeus71

[Vampiress]

I'm not a fan of these lists, especially the second one. I think the second one sets a precedent of allowing littles to use abusive and confusing language towards their Caregiver. To tell your Caregiver you hate them when it isn't what you mean is cruel. Just because one is a little, it is not an excuse to behave  or communicate poorly. We're all still adults, and we should hold ourselves to a higher standard. Being a little is not a free pass towards acting however poorly one wishes to.